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To think people can make more of an effort with their gardens

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Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 18/01/2025 23:01

Due to circumstances changing I moved from the family home (owned, not by me, by family) to a council estate a few years ago.
Generally people don’t bother to plant anything/haven’t bothered with their gardens. There are hardly any bees, butterflies or insects that visit and I’m finding it depressing. A lot of people haven’t bothered with their gardens.
I planted potatoes last year which were never pollinated, and one or two bees visited, I don’t know where from and they died quickly.
I’m not looking for excuses as to why people don’t plant but surely it’s simple to buy a few packets of seeds and turn over some turf.

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JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:24

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 00:59

Ok there’s no need to be condescending towards me or others. No I’m not some kind of professional gardener who can offer professional advice and no I don’t think people who would have no money for food should be buying seeds nor do I think people generally have loads of money for elaborate gardens. my point stands that people could still buy a few pots/tubs and plant something. They could plant over many years. They could make their own compost if they can’t afford to buy soil but even then planting in the ground can be fine. A lot of People don’t bother and think a lot of the time they make excuses for it.
In the first year in my house I planted some shrubs. This year I have planted bulbs and some rhubarb.
I will dig up something that’s dead, but I don’t like to get rid of weeds unless they’re suffocating other plants.
I literally threw some sprouting potatos onto the ground and they multiplied.

Edited

Oh and I have very good “excuses” and no I can’t be arsed and don’t want to. Cry harder

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 01:24

I think people are greatly exaggerating what I suggested when starting the thread.
I don’t think it’s awful to suggest people plant more especially considering the noticeable lack of and declining numbers of wildlife in this country.
I won’t be responding to comments taking the piss out of my suggestion anymore, which was supposed to be helpful.

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JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:23

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JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:21

ScouserInExile · 19/01/2025 00:34

Maybe you'll feel differently about it when you grow up.

OooOOOooooh that’s you told @SoManyTeeth 🤣🤣 I trust you are standing in the place you’re so firmly been put in 🤪

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:20

I've got an entire troupe of chitted potatoes that do my posting for me.

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JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:18

BettyBardMacDonald · 19/01/2025 00:28

God forbid they should put down their phones or be bothered to do anything for the greater good.

How are you on MN? Are you posting through the medium of a beehive? Or do you have your phone in your hand?

Hazeltwig · 19/01/2025 01:18

Council houses used to be built with decent gardens with the assumption that the tenants would want to grow veg to feed their families. My grandad did, and also kept chickens.
I suppose no-one who works has time for that any more.

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:17

You're not making much of an effort in all honesty.

What did you do with the rhubarb? Lob it on top of your car?

JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:17

BettyBardMacDonald · 19/01/2025 00:04

Maybe they should prioritize the planet over their own personal concerns.

What a wonderfully privileged world you must live in where nobody experiences adversity.

My time is limited largely because I have a full time job and a family including a disabled 8 year old son, among other things, but mainly my son being my main “personal concern”. I’ll be sure to tell him next time he’s in agony, or needs a hospital stay, or his medication administered “Sorry darling but no can do, I have to pot some daffodils, the planet is my priority!”.

Is that the kind of prioritisation you’re looking for?

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 01:15

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:14

Bloody hell Monty Don, those thick povvos in your new neighbourhood won't go far wrong with you to guide them on their way to eco paradise will they.

Atleast I’m making an effort and doing something in the garden. I assume you don’t bother to do anything and yet you’re taking the piss out of me. Get a hobby

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BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:14

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 01:11

yes well, I should’ve said, I did just throw them in the soil. There were green leaves that appeared but they went all soggy and horrible and a lot of the potatoes I originally threw down did too, they went all soggy like liquid. Maybe I was supposed to pick them or maybe I did it at the wrong time of year

Bloody hell Monty Don, those thick povvos in your new neighbourhood won't go far wrong with you to guide them on their way to eco paradise will they.

InvisibilityCloakActivated · 19/01/2025 01:13

Everyone would want a nice garden, of course they would, but time, location, money, energy, working hours, family commitments etc get in the way.

Also, it's January. What are you expecting to see right now?

Also (again) - you are moaning about the look of every else's garden and evidence your green thumb by planting potatoes? I reckon the bees will need to be working extra hard to bring your garden out in bloom! 🐝 🥔 🌼 🌸

JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:12

Asvoria · 19/01/2025 00:12

No chance of that lovey 😭 let them enjoy their concrete I guess.

I love my concrete. Low maintenance, doesn’t get mushy in the winter and my BBQ and sun lingers stand very nicely on it.

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 01:11

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:05

Ah right, that's where you went wrong with your other spuds. If you plant them, they die, if you throw them on the ground they do just fine.

This works for all plants incidentally. They should be called grounds really.

yes well, I should’ve said, I did just throw them in the soil. There were green leaves that appeared but they went all soggy and horrible and a lot of the potatoes I originally threw down did too, they went all soggy like liquid. Maybe I was supposed to pick them or maybe I did it at the wrong time of year

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JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:11

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 00:06

I was hoping this thread would encourage people to start planting

I’m not sure if you’ve never met human beings before but most people aren’t encouraged by someone saying “WHY AREN’T YOU DOING WHAT I THINK YOU SHOULD DO???! Nope - don’t want to hear excuses. It’s easy, get it done, like me. No no, it doesn’t matter what else you have going on, think of the beez”

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:09

Goddamn it, you should be growing weeds and chucking out of date potatoes on the path like op. Don't you care about your council house environment?

JandamiHash · 19/01/2025 01:06

Personally I have absolutely no interest in planting anything. My garden is lot and square, half patio half grass and absolutely no plants in sight. I have no interest and no time, my garden looks great.

Personally I can’t stand over-flowered gardens. I think they look absolutely awful.

BiancasSilverCoat · 19/01/2025 01:05

Ah right, that's where you went wrong with your other spuds. If you plant them, they die, if you throw them on the ground they do just fine.

This works for all plants incidentally. They should be called grounds really.

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 00:59

Ok there’s no need to be condescending towards me or others. No I’m not some kind of professional gardener who can offer professional advice and no I don’t think people who would have no money for food should be buying seeds nor do I think people generally have loads of money for elaborate gardens. my point stands that people could still buy a few pots/tubs and plant something. They could plant over many years. They could make their own compost if they can’t afford to buy soil but even then planting in the ground can be fine. A lot of People don’t bother and think a lot of the time they make excuses for it.
In the first year in my house I planted some shrubs. This year I have planted bulbs and some rhubarb.
I will dig up something that’s dead, but I don’t like to get rid of weeds unless they’re suffocating other plants.
I literally threw some sprouting potatos onto the ground and they multiplied.

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SoManyTeeth · 19/01/2025 00:53

ScouserInExile · 19/01/2025 00:34

Maybe you'll feel differently about it when you grow up.

Aw, are you still trying to do peer pressure?

ScouserInExile · 19/01/2025 00:34

SoManyTeeth · 19/01/2025 00:09

✨🌟⭐💫 I don't want to 💫⭐🌟✨

Maybe you'll feel differently about it when you grow up.

Cattenberg · 19/01/2025 00:32

A few of my neighbours have lovely gardens. I’ve gradually come to realise that many of them (but not all) employ gardeners.

That said, I agree that planting bee-friendly plants is a nice thing to do and relatively easy. I planted some giant allium bulbs a few years ago. They come up every spring with no help from me, look impressive and the bumblebees love them.

And this is a tangent, but over the last few years, I’ve noticed that some hedgehog holes have been cut into garden fences (or gaps have been made underneath). Hedgehogs are now having a bit of a resurgence in our area, which is think is great.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 19/01/2025 00:31

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 18/01/2025 23:01

Due to circumstances changing I moved from the family home (owned, not by me, by family) to a council estate a few years ago.
Generally people don’t bother to plant anything/haven’t bothered with their gardens. There are hardly any bees, butterflies or insects that visit and I’m finding it depressing. A lot of people haven’t bothered with their gardens.
I planted potatoes last year which were never pollinated, and one or two bees visited, I don’t know where from and they died quickly.
I’m not looking for excuses as to why people don’t plant but surely it’s simple to buy a few packets of seeds and turn over some turf.

You don't seem to know a huge amount about gardening yourself. Potatoes don't need pollinating and definitely won't attract bees or many other insects for that matter. If you want wildlife, you need to grow suitable plants. There were sadly far fewer insects in general around last year and that was purely down to the weird weather we had. Lack of bees has nothing to do with your neighbours. If you provide the right plants, what insects there are, bees included, will very gratefully seek you out.

BettyBardMacDonald · 19/01/2025 00:28

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 19/01/2025 00:06

I was hoping this thread would encourage people to start planting

God forbid they should put down their phones or be bothered to do anything for the greater good.