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To think car seat safety groups on Facebook are absolutely mental!

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Busby88 · 18/01/2025 22:54

Not sure if many MN members are part of some of the car seat safety groups on Facebook but honestly can’t believe what a mad population they are (and I know MN can also be pretty bonkers!)

Joined for advice on high backed boosters as want to put my almost 5yo in one and all it is is comments about how they should still be rear facing. Seen comments similar aimed at people with almost six year olds looking to forward face.

I completely get the safety aspect and how much safer rear facing is, I really do. And will be rear facing my 4yo as long as possible in my car, but he’s reached the 18kg limit in the seat we have for grandparents to us and it would be nice to just be able to get some advice without just being yelled at for being unsafe.

Honestly can’t believe the negativity and unhelpfulness aimed at people who are even considering forward facing before the age of 6.

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Busby88 · 31/01/2025 22:41

Lumirubin · 29/01/2025 23:03

Well well well. It's all blown up now!! 😂 Apparently shes had an argument with someone on tiktok and involved police!

No way!! Obviously not just me that thinks that way then, gutted I left the group now and missed all the drama

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JandamiHash · 30/01/2025 17:37

heroinechic · 30/01/2025 09:16

I hope they actually are involved so that they can address all the times Gabi has used customers information from booking to call them relentlessly, threaten to show up at their home, message them abuse across all their social media platforms and threaten to contact their workplace after they left a negative review!

Not to mention, scam them out of money when she hasn’t sent the car seats

Modernfamily2011 · 30/01/2025 17:09

@Lumirubin - What's happened with the FB group then? I came off it and can't even see the group anymore so potentially i've been blocked for some reason?! Why has it gone viral?

heroinechic · 30/01/2025 09:16

I hope they actually are involved so that they can address all the times Gabi has used customers information from booking to call them relentlessly, threaten to show up at their home, message them abuse across all their social media platforms and threaten to contact their workplace after they left a negative review!

Lumirubin · 30/01/2025 08:40

DancingOctopus · 30/01/2025 01:28

My children are old enough that rear facing seats didn't exist after the infant car seats.
I don't doubt that rear facing seats are safer. But doesn't the child get terribly bored looking at the fabric of the car seat,?
( Again, I am not saying boredom is a more important factor than safety, but am genuinely interested).

Mine can see out the side window and the rear window because her seat is really high. So she doesn't get bored. She also doesn't know any different!

Yeah I 100% doubt the police are even involved 😂 she's a nutter

DancingOctopus · 30/01/2025 01:28

My children are old enough that rear facing seats didn't exist after the infant car seats.
I don't doubt that rear facing seats are safer. But doesn't the child get terribly bored looking at the fabric of the car seat,?
( Again, I am not saying boredom is a more important factor than safety, but am genuinely interested).

Incakewetrust · 30/01/2025 01:11

Lumirubin · 29/01/2025 23:03

Well well well. It's all blown up now!! 😂 Apparently shes had an argument with someone on tiktok and involved police!

I haven't seen any of the comments and I really want to know what happened 😂😂

JandamiHash · 29/01/2025 23:08

Lumirubin · 29/01/2025 23:03

Well well well. It's all blown up now!! 😂 Apparently shes had an argument with someone on tiktok and involved police!

The Facebook group is closed for comments while there’s a “police investigation” 🤣🤣I’m sure the police have nothing better to do than investigate someone being a bit mean to an absolute car seat nut job on social media. Sooo dramatic!!

JandamiHash · 29/01/2025 23:07

I came to find this thread after seeing the Facebook post!!

I looked of Trust Pilot at Gabi’s reviews. My god - she’s actually really classist towards some people and basically an awful human with delusions of grandeur

Lumirubin · 29/01/2025 23:03

Well well well. It's all blown up now!! 😂 Apparently shes had an argument with someone on tiktok and involved police!

Modernfamily2011 · 20/01/2025 19:34

@heroinechic - This is why I left the group! Apart from the fact that the page seems like a cult with all the little followers agreeing with every single post she makes and will abuse anyone who says differently
The page itself really isn’t helpful, they continue to shame mothers for asking a simple question!

Twirlywurly2 · 20/01/2025 19:14

POTC · 19/01/2025 00:26

Halfords are far from being specialists in child car seats!

Yes I'd much rather trust random strangers on the internet.

grumpytoddler1 · 20/01/2025 19:09

heroinechic · 20/01/2025 15:18

The car seat safety group with Gabi as an admin (think her business is SimplySafeCarseats or something like that) is absolutely mental. I left after Gabi told a disabled woman (disabled due to lack of sight) that she was just choosing to get the bus and if she cared enough she could drive. The woman explained her condition and Gabi told her she'd googled it so she knew best and everyone who stuck up for the woman or even liked a comment was removed from the group.

According to the reviews on her business she calls customers bitches, threatens to go to their house and assault them (has their address from when they ordered), harasses people who complain on all of their social media accounts etc. I really cannot believe anyone buys from her!

I can't say I've been on any of these groups before or ever encountered this lady, but it sounds to me like she has other stuff going on. Perhaps she has developed an alcohol problem or something.

Saltandvin · 20/01/2025 18:04

TempestTost · 20/01/2025 17:57

She wanted her to drive while blind??

That seems... more dangerous than a front facing car seat.

😂

TempestTost · 20/01/2025 17:57

heroinechic · 20/01/2025 15:18

The car seat safety group with Gabi as an admin (think her business is SimplySafeCarseats or something like that) is absolutely mental. I left after Gabi told a disabled woman (disabled due to lack of sight) that she was just choosing to get the bus and if she cared enough she could drive. The woman explained her condition and Gabi told her she'd googled it so she knew best and everyone who stuck up for the woman or even liked a comment was removed from the group.

According to the reviews on her business she calls customers bitches, threatens to go to their house and assault them (has their address from when they ordered), harasses people who complain on all of their social media accounts etc. I really cannot believe anyone buys from her!

She wanted her to drive while blind??

That seems... more dangerous than a front facing car seat.

Sinkintotheswamp · 20/01/2025 16:04

Poor trust pilot reviews aren't always the end of the world.

The business responding rudely to them is. Talk about digging a hole for yourself.

heroinechic · 20/01/2025 15:18

The car seat safety group with Gabi as an admin (think her business is SimplySafeCarseats or something like that) is absolutely mental. I left after Gabi told a disabled woman (disabled due to lack of sight) that she was just choosing to get the bus and if she cared enough she could drive. The woman explained her condition and Gabi told her she'd googled it so she knew best and everyone who stuck up for the woman or even liked a comment was removed from the group.

According to the reviews on her business she calls customers bitches, threatens to go to their house and assault them (has their address from when they ordered), harasses people who complain on all of their social media accounts etc. I really cannot believe anyone buys from her!

NoKnit · 20/01/2025 14:05

Let's face it safer is not transporting your kid absolutely everywhere by car. Walk to school and nursery etc. But nobody has the nerve to say that

Sinkintotheswamp · 20/01/2025 13:35

green exactly, I changed my job to one within walking distance once I became a lone parents with 2 tiny kids. I knew it wasn't safe for me to be heading out in a car every day.

MandSCrisps · 20/01/2025 12:32

I totally agree with the reduced amount of time in a car. Some people don’t want to change their lives.
I do know someone who is very pro rear facing and tried to push me to doing it for a long time. It didn’t work out for us though and DD wouldn’t have tolerated it. We had to avoid driving because of car sickness quite often.

Ive come across numerous parents who have their toddlers just on a booster and even get rid of that fairly early. That’s the people they should be concerned with.

dynamiccactus · 20/01/2025 12:04

Ignore the FB groups and go onto the Which? website for advice. You need to be a member for some information but there's a lot on there for free.

Modernfamily2011 · 20/01/2025 11:39

I completely agree with all the above posts! I was also a member of the same FB Group and was genuinely looking for advice and was met with rude and arrogant responses.....one of my posts was instantly deleted when I asked a question....
I am still no clearer in the car seat safety and to be honest, the group itself has actually done me more harm as i'm terrified that I have the wrong seat!
There really should be more helpful information for parents on the correct car seat with regards to weight and height, it's so confusing
The lady who runs that page seems to have become quite aggressive and the majority of the responses from her are argumentative and condescending.
I'm now off to read the reviews on Trust Pilot!

TickingAlongNicely · 20/01/2025 09:29

Most of the children who die in car accidents are pedestrians or on bikes... the best way to ensure our children's safety is to reduce the number of unsafe drivers (harsher penalties for phones, drinking, drugs, speeding etc) reduce speed limits, use smaller cars and to increase road safety awareness. More pedestrian crossings near schools. Stop giving teens a screen to stare out while they walk. (See that frequently living near a school... preteens so engrossed in their phone they step out into a road without looking!)

BarbaraHoward · 20/01/2025 09:24

GreenTeaLikesMe · 20/01/2025 02:28

Thing is, you could also halve your child's risk of dying in an accident by halving the amount of time they spend in a car.

Yet few people judge parents for putting their children in extra curriculars or private schools that require loads of time in the car. Or for living in rural areas by choice (=commuters, not farmers or doing a genuinely rural job) or straggling out-of-town housing estates, where families'll also constantly be in the car AND the kids will probably have to start driving themselves everywhere as soon as they turn 17, which statistically puts them at high risk. If kids can start driving at 20 or 21 rather than 17, that alone cuts out a very large chunk of the riskiest stuff. Oh, and during your child's babyhood, you will almost certainly end up having to drive your baby and toddler about when you are suffering from sleep deprivation, if you choose to live in an area where there are basically no transport alternatives and nothing in walking distance.

Yet I see little discussion about this on parenting groups. Just car seats and car seats alone seem to inspire this sort of febrile monomania among a certain type of parents. I think people should basically get a car seat and use it correctly, but beyond that point the law of diminishing returns sets in rather quickly.

Edited

Read this post this morning and love it.

Currently on Trustpilot reading one star reviews. 👀

cadburyegg · 20/01/2025 09:24

So relieved to read this thread has mostly sensible posts rather than a descent into madness comparable to the very groups we are talking about.