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For keeping an order that I’ve received a refund for?

163 replies

Phallicfriday · 18/01/2025 20:20

Long story short. Ordered DH a fairly expensive tech item for his birthday from large retailer. Item didn’t arrive and when I chased the retailer it was presumed lost and they sent a replacement. It was supposed to be on next day delivery but this didn’t materialize either. Week later I call again to be told the item was detained by customs and it would be returned to the retailer. They point blank refused to send another item and instead only offered me a refund. Feeling very frustrated as I still had no birthday gift, I reluctantly accepted and ordered a replacement on Amazon (which I haven’t received yet either). Since receiving the refund, both the ‘missing’ orders have turned up. I am overseas and so I imagine it would be a hassle/expense for them to arrange a courier to collect them for return? AIBU for just keeping quiet and keeping both? Appreciate that this is morally ambiguous and I am quite sure I will get lots of mumsnetters up in arms at my morally bankrupt thought processes but they are a large company and surely will have insurance to cover such losses? And who really gives a flying fuck if the insurance company are out of pocket a few hundred quid when they rob the living daylights out of us all? My only concern is if they can track / trace that they have been delivered and force me to return / repay? What would you do?

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parietal · 18/01/2025 20:49

I'd tell the company. 99% of the time they will tell you to keep the item, even expensive things. If this is Amazon, think of the value of the company compared to you £2k laptop or whatever.

Mercurial123 · 18/01/2025 20:46

Keep it if that's what you want to do, but don't justify it to strangers on the Internet.

dancingqueen345 · 18/01/2025 20:44

I'd probably leave them in the packaging for a month or so and if I'd not heard anything, keep them tbh.

Winterskyfall · 18/01/2025 20:34

Just be honest and tell them. It is stealing not to do so.

Obeseandashamed · 18/01/2025 20:32

My friend did this with a Dyson air wrap and they never contacted her 😬

YouveGotAFastCar · 18/01/2025 20:29

Where are you? Is the company in the UK? What laws apply?

If the contract is under UK law, then you’d be silly to keep them and not get written permission - they can pursue you for the money for both for six years. The legislation around unsolicited parcels wouldn’t apply, as you did order. They’d easily win; and it’d be worth their while for two items in the multiple hundreds, especially as any big firm will either have an in-house legal team or a legal retainer so won’t even pay to start proceedings.

It’s unfortunate how it’s played out; but contact them. If it really is too much of a pain for them to collect them, they’ll tell you to keep them, and you can do it knowing you’ve got evidence if it’s ever needed.

BunfightBetty · 18/01/2025 20:27

I’d tell them and see if they want you to return it. But if they do, it needs to be fully at their expense and your convenience. I wouldn’t be walking to the post office for them, they could send a courier to collect it during a one hour window when I would be home anyway. That I would facilitate. No more.

Phallicfriday · 18/01/2025 20:26

I guess I’m more concerned with whether or
not I’ll get found out? I’m close to making my peace with keeping them but I don’t want to get in trouble. Obviously my response would be very different if it concerned a small business / retailer or someone who couldn’t afford the loss / didn’t have insurance to cover such things.

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Sparxdislike · 18/01/2025 20:26

Just contact them and explain. They made the mistake and they can have expense of a courier if they wish to arrange this.

PeppyGreenFinch · 18/01/2025 20:24

Phallicfriday · 18/01/2025 20:23

even if each item is in the multiple hundreds?

Especially then.

ny20005 · 18/01/2025 20:23

Do you've been refunded for one item & received two ?

Contact them

Phallicfriday · 18/01/2025 20:23

even if each item is in the multiple hundreds?

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PeppyGreenFinch · 18/01/2025 20:21

I would tell them. They will probably tell you to keep it.

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