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Neighbour using our wheelie bin

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binconundrum · 18/01/2025 18:03

My husband and I have just moved to a different UK city, into my sister's house while she is abroad for a few years.

The lane that our front door is on, is the back lane for the houses that have their front doors on the streets parallel to that lane. All those houses leave their recycling and general waste wheelie bins out permanently on that lane (which is effectively their back alleyway), and we leave ours out there as well as there is nowhere else for us to put it. I hope that explains the layout well enough.

A few days ago I noticed someone had put an empty plastic milk bottle and an empty cardboard box of dog food in our recycling bin, which already had our recycling in, so was clearly now in use (my sister's house was empty for a couple of months between her moving out and us moving in). The bin is clearly marked with our house number. I mentioned it to my sister and she says that it sometimes happens but it didn't really affect her so she didn't do anything about it. It was just a couple of things, so, whatever. It's not a wealthy area, and she also suggested that maybe a neighbour couldn't afford to get a bin (I just looked on the council's website, looks like it's £21 charge and residents who receive Council Tax Support will receive a 50% discount).

Today I went to put our recycling out and there's a big, uncollapsed carboard box in there, with unrecyclable soft plastic inside, and with the name and address of a neighbour whose house backs onto our lane. The box takes up the remaining space in the bin and I'm unable to put my recycling in there. Having looked around and not finding a bin marked with their number, I decide to take the box out, leave it on the floor in the street (with the address visible!) and put our recycling into our bin.

I go inside and explain the situation to my husband. I tell him that I think I feel brave enough to go and talk to the neighbour, to say something inoffensive like 'oh I think this box was put in our bin by mistake'. He thinks this could be seen by the neighbour as petty and antagonistic, and could potentially start a war with them, and thinks it's a better idea just to leave it on the lane. I feel like I want the neighbour to know that we've noticed them put this huge thing in the bin and it's not on. I don't want to litter the lane. I'd talk to them in a reasonable, calm way, and if they respond unkindly then I'd leave it and not rise to it (I hate confrontation). AIBU to want to go and talk to the neighbour? Or maybe I'll just buy them a bin without telling them lol. My husband and I await your evaluation eagerly!

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Princesssuperstar · 18/01/2025 22:48

My neighbour does this and he's an alcoholic..... I'm sober now and he keeps putting bottles n cans in my bin! I bag it all up and put it on his doorstep now. He fell over them last time and seen it and laughed so hard I swear a bit of pee came out 😂

Irridescantshimmmer · 18/01/2025 19:31

Wheelie bin lock is your best bet. It will unlock its' self when turned upsid down in the truck.

That will teach them!

TunnocksOrDeath · 18/01/2025 19:29

Leave it outside their home, but not on the street. If you just leave it in the lane with their address on it they could be done for fly tipping, so that would be a rather extreme punishment for rudely using someone else's bin, if no one has actually asked them to stop.

Purplebunnie · 18/01/2025 19:29

Leaving litter lying around could be construed as fly tipping. I would return the rubbish to the neighbour, you don't want them to get a fine

binconundrum · 18/01/2025 19:28

@QuestionableMouse Agreed!

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binconundrum · 18/01/2025 19:26

@aodirjjd I couldn't see their general bin either. Maybe they just use everyone else's for all their bins (or just mine and I haven't noticed!)

@Sandwichgen 😂😂

@Fluffydino21 It's definitely not confusion - theirs is a three-digit number and ours is a single number. And the number on our bin isn't faded or anything, it's big, bright and clear.

@KnittingOnEmpty We're in the South West.

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QuestionableMouse · 18/01/2025 19:24

I also love the fact that everyone is assuming the houses have a driveway.

QuestionableMouse · 18/01/2025 19:23

Most councils charge for a replacement bin. It's £45 iirc in Hartlepool.

Neighbour using our wheelie bin
Xenia · 18/01/2025 19:23

Leave their box on their driveway. I am able to keep my bins inside until collection but put them out the night before. Sometimes awful people walking up the road put the wrong stuff in my bin and sometimes that has meant a fortnightly collection is not taken because some strange at the last minute has broken not only the council rules but illegally used my bin. I now have to open them at the last minute and check - dog waste it put in sometimes too. I wish I were allowed to tazer people doing this to ensure they never do so again.

MissUltraViolet · 18/01/2025 19:20

ohyesido · 18/01/2025 18:38

Does it really matter all that much?

Yep. Because the bin won’t be emptied and then you’re backed up/screwed for two weeks or however long it is in between collections.

It’s also really disrespectful and rude.

MissUltraViolet · 18/01/2025 19:18

100% take the box back to their house and tell them they must have got the wrong bin. It won’t stop otherwise.

If no answer just leave it at their door.

2025willbemytime · 18/01/2025 19:14

Saying you feel brave enough to talk to the neighbour is embarrassing.

Just say, we appreciate you might have been using my sister's bin but we live here now and we need it for ourselves. If you email you can get a bin sent. Good night.

Dutch1e · 18/01/2025 18:52

I absolutely would knock on their door. Not flying into a rage, not making a bunch of excuses, just saying a neighbourly hello, letting them know I'm living there now (and need the bin room), and giving back their box that they need to sort out a solution for.

No need for drama, but also a need to speak up.

Basketballhoop · 18/01/2025 18:49

Talk to them. No need to be passive aggressive about it. A simple 'hello, noticed you have been using our bin, we only just moved in, so you probably hadn't noticed the house is now occupied, but we're going to need the space from now on. Thanks'.

Wisterical · 18/01/2025 18:45

How nice to read an OP with a reasonable attitude. I think your solution is sensible @binconundrum and would expect it to work well.

KnittingOnEmpty · 18/01/2025 18:43

LegoBingo · 18/01/2025 18:21

You have to pay for your recycling bin??

This..where in UK are you paying for a recycling bin that's not garden waste??

Noshowlomo · 18/01/2025 18:42

ohyesido · 18/01/2025 18:38

Does it really matter all that much?

yes if you cannot fit your own rubbish into your allocated bin, or you get a fine because someone has chucked any old shit into your recycling

Fluffydino21 · 18/01/2025 18:39

So they're in a different street that backs onto yours?

What if they're 3 Apple Street and you're 3 Grape street and each of you have assumed the no.3 bin is yours?

Tbh we have the same set up in our street and the bins situation is just a complete free for all. You have to try and not let it bother you.

Some people don't have bins.. then some people's bins are filled up by the people with no bins.. so they use someone else's bin.. and so on and so forth.

Everyone on the street accepts it and if someone new started fishing people's rubbish out and leaving it on the street / confronting them it would not go well.

ohyesido · 18/01/2025 18:38

Does it really matter all that much?

BMW6 · 18/01/2025 18:37
  1. Put it outside their door
  2. Get a bin lock
Sandwichgen · 18/01/2025 18:36

You need to hide in the bin. (Take a flask of tea, it could be a long job) When you hear them approach, get ready. As soon as their sneaky mitts touch your bin, pop up like some evil Jack in the Box (in fact, maybe get the costume?) and ask ‘What the hell are you playing at?!’ If they don’t die on the spot, they will never use your bin again.

or get a bin lock

fortheloveofcollies · 18/01/2025 18:35

We had this at our old house. We put the rubbish back into their front garden. They then put it back in our bin. We then knocked on their door and they said it wasn't theirs. We said it has their name and address clearly on it. They then had no idea how it possibly could have gotten into our bin (twice). They never did it again though.

aodirjjd · 18/01/2025 18:32

id put it in thier main bin so they see it but its less confrontational than putting on on their doorstep. And then I’d buy a bin lock.

Noshowlomo · 18/01/2025 18:29

Yeah just return it for now and take it from
there. As you said it could be they’ve been using it with no problem for a whirl and now they’ll know not to. If they keep on then dump it on their door step

MrsKwazi · 18/01/2025 18:28

Wheelie bin lock thing.