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How much do you really drink?

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GJD23000 · 18/01/2025 16:11

It’s an interesting topic, and I think lots of people wonder how their drinking compares to others. For us, my husband tends to have a beer or two most evenings, maybe a couple more on weekends if we’re relaxing or watching something together. I rarely drink during the week but will usually have 2-3 glasses of wine spread over Friday and Saturday evenings.

If we’re out with friends or at a party (which is rare now we’re parents), we can definitely drink more, maybe a bottle of wine each or cocktails, depending on the occasion. But that only happens if we’ve got a babysitter and plenty of time to recover the next day!

I’m genuinely curious to hear about others drinking habits and whether this is typical or not. No judgement at all—just keen to know! For context we have one child and are late 30s.

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Dotto · 18/01/2025 17:41

TheWorminLabyrinth · 18/01/2025 17:36

I must admit I don't understand why people who are teetotal are responding. If you don't drink at all then why reply on a thread about how much you drink! Strange.

Because 0 is a whole number

Redcandlescandal · 18/01/2025 17:40

I very rarely drink alcohol. I have way too much fun without it!!!

Maybe five or six nights a year. A glass of wine or a cocktail.

okydokethen · 18/01/2025 17:39

I drink on average one bottle of wine across two or three nights, sometimes nothing all week. When I go out I drink two glasses of wine.

I used to drink every night, while making dinner, with dinner and after dinner could easily drink a bottle an evening and grew up with this being normal.

I'm 40, I get tired and achey if I drink too much and I really don't want to be like my mum and auntie who drink to excess.

TokyoSushi · 18/01/2025 17:39

Virtually nothing, maybe about 5/6 drinks per month, maybe less, have always been the same!

70sShmeventies · 18/01/2025 17:39

Depends. Ranges from nothing in the week and a drink or two max Fri and Sat night to nightly. I’m currently drinking a glass of wine a night bar one day a week. Its my only vice but I’m weaning myself off the Christmas excess and recognise I easily fall into the habit of slowly adding to my intake i.e. a small glass turns to a large and then to two.

ApolloandDaphne · 18/01/2025 17:39

Age 62 and love a couple of glasses of wine several times a week.

RaraRachael · 18/01/2025 17:39

Recently teetotal as I've finally realised I just don't like alcohol having tried everything over the years.

OH is same age and and drinks far too much red wine.

Goldenmemories · 18/01/2025 17:37

I'm also teetotal. 2 years sober, best decision ever.

TheWorminLabyrinth · 18/01/2025 17:36

Gatekeeper · 18/01/2025 17:28

Dearie me....all these competitive people having a teaspoon every ten years

I love me G&Ts

I must admit I don't understand why people who are teetotal are responding. If you don't drink at all then why reply on a thread about how much you drink! Strange.

Bob02 · 18/01/2025 17:36

I don't drink regularly. I might have a cider or a cocktail (strawberry daiquiri or a mojito) on a special occasion, but that's once in a blue moon. Over Christmas, I had half a cider during the whole festive period.

In my 20 and early 30s , I drank a glass, or three, of wine every night with my meal. I stopped drinking and smoking to do IVF at around 33. It took 7 years to have DC1 so I spent a long time not drinking. Now my body just can't handle it. It's not worth the headache after.

ForeverPombear · 18/01/2025 17:34

I'm teetotal. I don't even know the last time I had a drink. I'm mid 30's and grew up with an alcoholic parent and I just have no interest in drinking.

Sassysia · 18/01/2025 17:34

HorrorFan81 · 18/01/2025 16:30

This is mumsnet OP where if you drink more than half a glass of wine a week you're overdoing it. Most people will probably come on to tell you either they don't drink, or they drink 3 times a year or something so I don't think you'll get a wide range of views

Personally I vary from month to month - tend to drink more over summer and in the run up to Xmas. On my 'lower drinking months' I'll probably drink twice a week, maybe a few G&Ts or margaritas and several glasses of wine. For a few months of the year I'll have 2-3 week stretches where i don't drink at all just to have a proper break

On higher drinking months I might drink 3-4 times a week, again G&T or margarita and then some wine. Sometimes I fancy a cider. Lots of mulled wine in December

We host alot of dinner parties and get together with friends often at their places - always a fair bit of prosecco and wine. Also meet up with friends for cocktails and go out for dinner quite often too

Very similar to me!

RawBloomers · 18/01/2025 17:33

I have a half bottle of wine and a cocktail each week. If I have more one week I take off the next week’s allotment. Except on 6 occasions (Christmas, birthday, holiday, etc) in the year when I will have significantly more, along the lines of several cocktails, a bottle of wine and a large whisky.

I’m in my 50s, though and have cut down considerably in the last 15 years. In my 30s I used to drink a bottle and a half of wine and have several cocktails a week as standard and more once or twice a month when going out. It was fun and I enjoyed it, but with hindsight wish I’d been more moderate.

Whyamisopathetic · 18/01/2025 17:30

GJD23000 · 18/01/2025 16:11

It’s an interesting topic, and I think lots of people wonder how their drinking compares to others. For us, my husband tends to have a beer or two most evenings, maybe a couple more on weekends if we’re relaxing or watching something together. I rarely drink during the week but will usually have 2-3 glasses of wine spread over Friday and Saturday evenings.

If we’re out with friends or at a party (which is rare now we’re parents), we can definitely drink more, maybe a bottle of wine each or cocktails, depending on the occasion. But that only happens if we’ve got a babysitter and plenty of time to recover the next day!

I’m genuinely curious to hear about others drinking habits and whether this is typical or not. No judgement at all—just keen to know! For context we have one child and are late 30s.

58 with two DC 19 and 21 plus hubby works away.

i probably have three or four a year absolute max. That’s glasses, not bottles. Hubby has maybe two or three half pints a year. The kids rarely drink either as usually driving and when not will just drink moderately.

TankFlyBossWalkJamNittyGrittyIAmFromAMidSizeCity · 18/01/2025 17:30

Up until 6 years ago I would be out at least twice a month and drink lots, probably 10+ units of alcohol on a night out, I've never been one for drinking at home though.

Now life has changed vastly and I maybe have one or 2 a year.

ERthree · 18/01/2025 17:30

I used to drink too much, military life was based round drink 20 years ago. For the last 12 years i haven't drunk that much, probably a dozen drinks a year, in the last 12 months i have had one glass of Champagne.

Gatekeeper · 18/01/2025 17:28

Dearie me....all these competitive people having a teaspoon every ten years

I love me G&Ts

thornbury · 18/01/2025 17:24

Lifelong non-drinker, not for religious or health reasons initially, just never started and now don't want to - I'm 56.

WhatTheFuckIsThisNow · 18/01/2025 17:24

ChannelFiveDrama · 18/01/2025 17:20

Pretty much everyone I know in real life drinks more than you're supposed to and on a regular basis.

Yep, me too. As did I, before I started the medication I'm on. The tiny amounts people say they drink here doesn't chime at all with the 'real' world.

HomeTutor · 18/01/2025 17:24

Ffs, so I'm the only one in there 'ere parts who necks a bottle of wine every night then 😆

I don't really drink anything else though. And yes I have a problem blah blah. But I'm okay with it at the moment.

crackofdoom · 18/01/2025 17:21

In an average week, 2 bottles of wine, spread over 4 evenings. I'd like to cut it down to 2 small glasses every one of those evenings though. Sometimes one of those evenings will be replaced by 2-3 pints if I go to the pub. I'm doing dry January at the moment because it all started creeping up a bit.

ChannelFiveDrama · 18/01/2025 17:20

Pretty much everyone I know in real life drinks more than you're supposed to and on a regular basis.

TheChosenTwo · 18/01/2025 17:20

Barely anything these days because I get the hangovers from hell and I cba anymore losing a day over a weekend to being in bed feeling dreadful.
I’m 40 with a 20, 19 and 13yo dc. I’m up early to swim on a Saturday and Sunday morning which is my absolute saviour and I look forward to them (even in the bitter January icy weather 😂), it’s more appealing to me than being in bed hungover!
I’m definitely not tee total, I still enjoy a drink every now and then but even now i’ll
drive to most occasions and be a taxi for others.
dh will have a few drinks after work on a Thursday and the same Friday and Saturday nights.
Dh and I are going away for a couple of nights this week and I’m looking forward to some cocktails and vodkas, and I have something at the end of February I’m looking forward to and will probably have a few drinks at.
So I’m really a sporadic drinker now, dh is far more consistent 😂

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 18/01/2025 17:20

Had a few glasses of wine over Christmas , NYE 4/5 glasses of champagne and some limoncello that the host produced, haven't had a drink since, going to a birthday party tonight will probably stick to vodka soda, fresh lime 4ish over the evening (7-12), got things to do tomorrow. Then probably won't drink again until there's another event. I realised at DHs birthday in November I hadn't had a drink for about 3 months. I don't drink at home, unless we have people over for dinner which isn't often and then it's a glass of wine or two with dinner

ETA it hasn't always been this way, I was out a LOT in my teens and twenties and more than used up my allocated units, pregnancy and then BF was a period of enforced abstinence and I just never went back to it

CharlotteStreetW1 · 18/01/2025 17:14

We don't generally drink at home or during the week. We usually go to the pub for a couple after work on a Friday. Literally just a couple.

If we go out for a meal, I'll have a couple of G&Ts unless we're with friends and then it might be a bit more.

If it's a party or an event, all bets are off.

(No DC.)

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