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To call the police to conduct a wellness check for my hoarder neighbour?

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Atmywitsend23 · 18/01/2025 15:59

I had posted last week about an awful smell in my new apartment hallway. It transpires my neighbour has been a hoarder for 15yrs and there’s amongst other things, vermin and sewage issues in her apartment. The smell is so incredibly awful that it consumes the hallway and my apartment too. I’ve contacted my landlord, the building owner and the housing regulator to try and get some help to deal with the situation. Nobody seems to be able to do much. Would it be unreasonable to call police or social services for a wellness check? Surely when things are this bad there is a significant mental health issue and someone has a duty of care in this situation?

OP posts:
HJ40 · 22/01/2025 12:31

Hi, OP, if you can't afford to move, then definitely do post in legal to see if there's an aspect of your tenancy which your landlord is in breach of. Even the threat of action might get you a discount so you save up to move.

YouAgainDamnIt · 22/01/2025 12:27

The smearing is in a shared space in a private dwelling, not a public place so will be on the housing association if they own the building not the police. Hoarding will be against the terms of her tenancy agreement so they will be working with her but it will be a very slow process, they won’t want to criminalise her or make her homeless as a vulnerable person and will presumably work on small improvements and get other agencies in to help. Basically before they evict her they will have to show the court they have done everything they can to support her as hoarding is looked at as a mental health issue. Sorry op, this won’t be a quick fix and must be so uncomfortable for you to live alongside even though she can’t help it.

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/01/2025 12:27

fruitcakemakesmesick · 22/01/2025 10:49

Smeared shit on the walls? She should be prosecuted for that 🤢 foul.

I really feel for you, I don't know how you're still there. It sounds like she needs sectioning. Could the police not get involved now she is smearing shit on communal areas? Surely that's ground for someone to be sectioned?

You can be prosecuted for letting your dog defecate on the pavement and not picking it up. Human excrement in a communal hallway must be worse than that. I'm sure the police could be involved on that basis.

QuartzIlikeit · 22/01/2025 12:22

From a Housing perspective you need to report to your local fire brigade that your neighbours home is likely a fire risk to your own safety. They will investigate and will force the HA to do something to protect your own life as currently with the way you describe it, your safety whilst living in your home is certainly at risk.

Whilst I feel sorry for your neighbour and her difficulties, her actions are putting your life in danger and that is what all the professionals must focus on.

I would make a formal complaint to the HA listing all the issues and that your health and safety is at risk from your neighbour and ask them to investigate and respond to you detailing what they have done to ensure you are safe to continue living in your home. If you are not satisfied with their response you can tke your complaint to the Housing Ombudsman.

I would also contact your local councillor and MP for their support.

Good luck

Becca19962014 · 22/01/2025 11:40

I probably won’t reply again, OP I do not want to derail your thread, and, have nothing more I can realistically add.

I hope this can be resolved for both of you. Take care.

Becca19962014 · 22/01/2025 11:37

Atmywitsend23 · 22/01/2025 10:33

Thank you all so much for your replies!

Unfortunately I can’t move out. I used all my savings to move in here (I’m only 26 and my family can’t help).

I have been documenting everything in writing. It’s been exhausting and very overwhelming. I think part of the issue is that due to GDPR the housing association cannot share any information with me, so I genuinely have no idea how close the situation is to being resolved. Family suggested it could be that they need a court order to enter her property if she refuses access which might be the hold up.

Environmental Health have been good and seem to be doing as much as they can. However, the HA refuses to share information with them too and without being able to see inside her property they can’t do much.

I’m going to try and get some kind of legal advice I think or certainly head to citizens advice to find out where to go from here. I am also going to send a strongly worded email to the landlord that they also have a duty to fix this.

I did view the property and noticed a faint smell in the hallway at the time. However, the windows inside my apartment were deliberately all open when I viewed so I assumed my apartment was unaffected. I didn’t think much of it at the time because I guess you would open a window if you were showing someone around?

I wonder if she is already known to services for this issue (which it might be rather than the actual disorder) simply because of the way you have said some things in previous posts.

Yes landlords do open windows. I live opposite a flat with severe mould (which the landlord bleaches between tenants) and a very heavy drug user (to the extent their use makes me ill). Who frequently threatens people with weapons and the police and services do nothing. He gets arrested and sent back hours later.

Please do not think I’m dismissing you in all of this. I simply wish to offer another perspective is all.

My flat was cleared without my consent, as was my friend who died. It is illegal but they justified it by saying it was so dangerous. Whilst they did get slammed by the coroner they still do this.

PromoJoJo · 22/01/2025 11:34

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PickledPurplePickle · 22/01/2025 11:33

Do you own the property or rent?

If you rent put in a complaint with your landlord and also the building freeholder

Becca19962014 · 22/01/2025 11:28

Mydustymonstera · 22/01/2025 06:46

@Becca19962014 thank you for sharing your experience, it’s really important to get that perspective. I’m sorry things continue to be so difficult for you and hope that some kind of housing is sorted.

Are you in supported living just now?

No. Hoarding disorder means I’m barred from such accommodation.
Am facing street homelessness again as it’s classed here as a “choice” rather than “illness”. Which is, sadly, very common in the UK

Becca19962014 · 22/01/2025 11:24

oakleaffy · 22/01/2025 03:19

Hoarding must be expensive? Buying stuff to hoard - unless it's junk picked up from the streets..There used to be a homeless person who lived under a flyover years ago who had built a shanty town out of rubbish - they had bags and bags of what looked like bags of rubbish tied to shopping trolleys- very sad.

It does affect people around serious hoarders though.

If it only affected the hoarder, no one would interfere, but the infamous ''Mr Trebus'' from the old TV programme ''Life of Grime'' was eventually put up in an older people's home, and seemed much happier there, as his rat infested house {Probably worth millions now} bothered his neighbours.

Respectfully you misunderstand. It is not expensive. In proven to be to do with memories not buying for no reason, trauma and studies have proven most hoarders are in poverty, another risk factor. People with hoarding disorder hoard everything not just random things (hence bags of rubbish you mention to that person won’t be). Covid-19 restrictions caused a huge surge in hoarding disorder in the UK.

Yes it affects others but calling someone selfish, which you have not, but others “professionals” feel this is the way to go, for example “everyone’s going to die” which compounds it. When I first came to MN I made a post about being trapped by my neighbours pushchair which she refused to fold down and expected me to climb over and ran an (illegal) childcare business, I posted to understand as everyone told me I was being unfair to her, to my surprise people offered me suggestions to sort it - unfortunately I remained trapped but MN at least understood. No one in real life did a thing.

I wish I had the words to explain this disability (one of many).

Where I live there is a ban on hoarders in supported accommodation, also it’s extremely expensive (£400 a week, housing benefit is £400 a month). Its classed as a choice to put others in danger. I know of two homeless people who are homeless because of this disorder.

IWillAlwaysBeinaClubWithYouin1973 · 22/01/2025 11:13

I think you should have called the police earlier so I'd do that now and keep doing it, don't tell them the story about environmental health etc., just say you are worried today, could they do a welfare check. What do the other neighbours say?

Here's the charities that might help:

https://hoardinguk.org
https://hoardingdisordersuk.org
https://ocdaction.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/hoarding-swlstg.pdf

Not sure if last one will load but anyway, to be honest it's not your job to educate yourself about hoarding or offer to help this person, I'd keep trying to engage agencies to help them. The links are just for interest. I'd say very well done for all you've tried to do so far.

Hoarding UK | Promoting Choice & Control since 2008

Proud of promoting choice and control. Established in 2008, as a not-for profit organisation, HoardingUK is the only UK National Charity solely focused on supporting people impacted by hoarding behaviour.

https://hoardinguk.org

SuperMaybe · 22/01/2025 11:11

Environmental Health have been good and seem to be doing as much as they can. However, the HA refuses to share information with them too and without being able to see inside her property they can’t do much.

This is rubbish. They are required to do something. If they can't access the property normally they can apply for a court ordered warrant which will give them the legal right to enter the premises using force (to the property) if necessary. Not sure if I have worded that correctly but it's close!

Don't let them fob you off.

JohnofWessex · 22/01/2025 11:09

The difficulty all to often is that various agencies have powers to take action, sometimes on the spot.

The difficulty is getting them to do it, these days usually for budgetary reasons.

I am surprised that the building owner hasnt kicked off to be honest

VonHally · 22/01/2025 11:07

Are there only two flats in the building? If not, surely other tenants are equally affected and maybe you should get together as a group. You must have visitors too, how awful for everyone really.

Otherwise, it's time to get out asap. I realise this is an expensive option for you, but honestly I'd get a loan. There is nothing that would keep me in a place smelling of sewage with excrement on the walls of the common areas. Getting things sorted could take months. Are you prepared to wait it out like that?

September1013 · 22/01/2025 11:05

She definitely needs a MASH/safeguarding referral as there are multiple concerns regarding fire safety, rodents, sanitary issues. People can choose to live in squalor but they need to assess her and make sure she’s not like this due to illness, poverty, learning difficulties etc.

If you know her name and date of birth it would be worth ringing your local mental health single point of access (SPA) and tell them you are significantly concerned about her safety and wellbeing. If she is known to services and/or has a diagnosis they may be able to arrange a home visit to assess whether she is having an acute mental health crisis.

If things are escalating and you witness her behaving erratically then absolutely call the police - they can do a section 136 and get an urgent mental health assessment done.

sheep73 · 22/01/2025 10:58

You need to move on. This could take years to resolve.

Give notice. Write to the housing association. Live with a friend / family til you get your deposit back and find a new place.

Atmywitsend23 · 22/01/2025 10:55

Becca19962014 · 22/01/2025 02:09

I’ve hoarding disorder, which is now a recognised mental health condition. I’m writing this to offer perspective, nothing more and, mean no offence,

Realistically (this is my experience) they will remove everything from her property (probably during an “assessment”) without consent and send her back with zero help or support in place, she will have a list of what she can own and someone will go in and remove any item not on that list. Then end the tenancy. She won’t be allowed another or any help from council as it’s often classed as a choice by homelessness prevention, even with diagnosis (only one clinic can diagnose in the UK, waiting list years then more years for therapy, so that’s nearly impossible). This was my experience and I ended up hospitalised for weeks because of the trauma it caused and, then discharged to street.

That compounded the problem so now it’s much much worse, since then I’ve lost a friend to the disorder. This, sadly, won’t end well, and likely she’s been through similar. Right now I’m facing street homelessness again. Homelessness prevention won’t engage until everything is gone and I must be “cured” for two years (only own what I’m “allowed” with strict controls”) before I can even go on housing register. Fire brigade saying fire risk having escalated the eviction process.

For me this has been a lifetime condition. People say they understand, I don’t so no way they can, and yes I’ve had therapy, but it didn’t help.

There are now charities that can support BUT local help is essential and realistically impossible because it takes a very long time to begin to deal with the issues, which are complex before even starting. Shelter had a go at me for making myself homeless as did mind for example.

I am NOT saying you don’t have a point here, not at all, just offering it from another, perhaps more realistic, point of view in terms of “help”. The fact is no one is going to be offering help for what is considered a non issue by very stretched services who prefer to use terms like “filthy” “stupid” “out of control”. Even now when it’s actually a recognised condition.

Thank you for replying. I appreciate the circumstances are difficult.

I cannot stress enough that I’m not trying to make her homeless, or get her evicted or anything like that. However, as the situation stands now, I’m spending over half my monthly income on rent for a property that is now hazardous to my health because of her actions.

Is there an organisation or something I could contact to support her? I know you’ve said the system in place is not good, which I appreciate, but I’ve no idea what the alternative is? If there was a kinder alternative, I’d be open to hearing it and trying to do things that way?

OP posts:
EdgarAllenRaven · 22/01/2025 10:53

Your question asked Should I call the police? The answer is Yes. There is a person in distress, needing urgently help.
Who know what they will do if they are smearing faeces? I don’t understand why you’ve not asked the Police to conduct a wellness check…?

It has gone beyond an environmental concern to a mental health concern, in my opinion.

Chucklecheeks01 · 22/01/2025 10:52

Atmywitsend23 · 22/01/2025 10:33

Thank you all so much for your replies!

Unfortunately I can’t move out. I used all my savings to move in here (I’m only 26 and my family can’t help).

I have been documenting everything in writing. It’s been exhausting and very overwhelming. I think part of the issue is that due to GDPR the housing association cannot share any information with me, so I genuinely have no idea how close the situation is to being resolved. Family suggested it could be that they need a court order to enter her property if she refuses access which might be the hold up.

Environmental Health have been good and seem to be doing as much as they can. However, the HA refuses to share information with them too and without being able to see inside her property they can’t do much.

I’m going to try and get some kind of legal advice I think or certainly head to citizens advice to find out where to go from here. I am also going to send a strongly worded email to the landlord that they also have a duty to fix this.

I did view the property and noticed a faint smell in the hallway at the time. However, the windows inside my apartment were deliberately all open when I viewed so I assumed my apartment was unaffected. I didn’t think much of it at the time because I guess you would open a window if you were showing someone around?

Id be adding a line in your e mail to your landlord about how they were aware of this situation when you viewed the property but they deliberately tried to hide/mitigate it with the windows open.

fruitcakemakesmesick · 22/01/2025 10:49

Smeared shit on the walls? She should be prosecuted for that 🤢 foul.

I really feel for you, I don't know how you're still there. It sounds like she needs sectioning. Could the police not get involved now she is smearing shit on communal areas? Surely that's ground for someone to be sectioned?

Saharafordessert · 22/01/2025 10:40

You have my total sympathies OP.
It may well be a recognised condition but when it impacts on others like this it’s simply not fair.
Wishing you all the best in getting things sorted.

DiegoVanDamme · 22/01/2025 10:36

princessbear80 · 18/01/2025 16:00

Yes call adult social services, they can check on them.

If the hoarder does not want help, they wont be able to access the property, or move them on.

I have a hoarder relative, who has no hot water, no electricity, house stacked from top to bottom and outside, and other health issues, all Adult Services did was knock on the door and talk to them.

I'm not knocking Adult Services at all, but they dont have the power

Atmywitsend23 · 22/01/2025 10:33

Thank you all so much for your replies!

Unfortunately I can’t move out. I used all my savings to move in here (I’m only 26 and my family can’t help).

I have been documenting everything in writing. It’s been exhausting and very overwhelming. I think part of the issue is that due to GDPR the housing association cannot share any information with me, so I genuinely have no idea how close the situation is to being resolved. Family suggested it could be that they need a court order to enter her property if she refuses access which might be the hold up.

Environmental Health have been good and seem to be doing as much as they can. However, the HA refuses to share information with them too and without being able to see inside her property they can’t do much.

I’m going to try and get some kind of legal advice I think or certainly head to citizens advice to find out where to go from here. I am also going to send a strongly worded email to the landlord that they also have a duty to fix this.

I did view the property and noticed a faint smell in the hallway at the time. However, the windows inside my apartment were deliberately all open when I viewed so I assumed my apartment was unaffected. I didn’t think much of it at the time because I guess you would open a window if you were showing someone around?

OP posts:
Jimmyneutronsforehead · 22/01/2025 10:30

It sounds like she has been without support for quite some time.

No NT, mentally well person smears poo, and it doesn't sound like she's going to get the help she needs from the services provided so you should assume this behaviour will continue.

You would be doing yourself a huge favour to find alternative accomodation. This will only escalate the more services try to intervene.

It is hard when an adult is deemed to have capacity, and so is able to make hazardous environmental and health related choices that impact not only them but others, and hard to assess for capacity if that person is unwilling to engage, and so capacity is assumed.

There's clearly something more going on with this person and your primary responsibility should be with yourself and making sure you are safe and away from this.

Do you know if she has/had any pets in there? I sadly knew a hoarder who would not discard of his deceased pets bodies and said he wanted to keep them so he could be buried with them when he died. The police were contacted and did step in although I dare say there wasn't really a marked improvement, and we didn't stay long.

SaySomethingMan · 22/01/2025 10:27

The HA are being negligent, surely. I understand it’s difficult to enter people’s homes without their consent, etc but the my need to keep her safe.
If she’s been doing this for 15years and they haven’t accessed her property, they’re very likely to be in breach of ensuring her home is up to the current fire safety standards, etc.
A poor hoarder died recently because of these same issues. He died very quickly in a fire as he couldn’t get out and his hole wasn’t up to the latest fire safety standards