How much input do you have in your partners wardrobe/appearance

@User09678 Are you going to tell us what you and your partner do?

Sometimes I ask my DH what he thinks of my outfit or something I’m thinking of buying as he has great taste and seems to know what will suit me.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having an opinion on what your OH wears.

I will also tell him if something looks off. He has a penchant for shoes that make me think of old men in the bookies circa 1980s. I’m not so gently trying to persuade him to update them.

I buy most of my DHs clothes mainly as Christmas / birthdays presents and stuff through the year if I think it would suit him.

in fact I’m looking at him now and pretty much everything he is wearing I thought him including his watch 😂 and probably his boxers & socks

I know what looks good on him and he’s not that bothered and I love shopping and buying clothes

he often gets complimented on his clothes so I’m doing something right

he will buy shirts / trousers & shoes more formal stuff
But I mainly buy him jeans t shirts trainers

I wouldn’t trust him to buy me stuff

it’s his birthday soon and I’ve bought him a pair of timberland boots that I know he likes and 2 pairs of jeans and several t- shirts
oh and a grinder ( he wants one as his old one broke )

DH hates buying himself anything. Just after Christmas I set him a budget (£400) to replace some clothes had to send to the clothing bank, noticable tears and stains from his job on a lot of T-shirts/hoodies.
I didn’t decide where from, but I did have to sit him down and sort of bribe him into it. I’ve encouraged him to buy things as he see’s fit and not wait until I want to chuck everything out lol.

Spicy?! No. I'm allowed to find it amusing that other people judge and control others' appearance in this way, yes. No insecurity here 👍

I'm afraid I buy all DH's clothes and have done for over 40 years. He just picks out whatever is nearest in the wardrobe or drawer. If we were going out out he might ask if his chosen outfit was suitable.
He wouldn't notice anything I wore.

DH will sometimes consult me on outfits and whether something works - I don't think I've ever given a thumbs down without him asking me first (usually it's about whether he's wearing the right coat, footwear or hat with an outfit). He takes some interest in what he wears and I would say dresses slightly more interestingly than you average bloke, but nothing very unusual on a normal day

I complement him when he looks good. He'll tell me when he thinks I look especially nice, I don't think he's ever criticised anything I wear.

Your spicy responses to the idea that no one is allowed to use that term in a hypothetical situation about their own partner suggests your own insecurity is unmanageable. Fine if you don't give a shit but others are allowed to :)

And that's your right.

You asked what it meant so I explained 👍

DH has zero interest in fashion, and wears nice enough but ancient and conventional clothes. However they are clean. There are some terribly scruffy tshirts he uses for WFH which I try to ignore.

He doesnt care what I wear either. I dont like to tell others what to wear.

Loads because otherwise he'd walk around looking like stig of the dump.

I buy most of DH's clothes whenever I see something nice in the charity shop. Otherwise he lives in his 20 year old tshirts with frayed collars which he refuses to throw out.

He sorts out his own pants and socks.

He is grateful to me as he hates clothes shopping.

But surely he can shop online?

Excluding mental health / hygiene issues (which I take the OP is not about), the term "letting yourself go" implies that people should give a shit what others think about them.. That there is some sort of minimum standard to maintain.

I think that's bollocks.

Nobody else's business if my jumper has a hole in it, if my jeans are faded or my hair hasn't been brushed recently.

Literally couldn't give a shit and anyone implying that I should would get short shift.

My DH of 20+ years has zero interest in fashion so only replaces clothes when totally worn out and even then he refuses to go to actual shops to get new stuff so relies on eBay/Vinted and Xmas gifts

I try not to interfere but have to occasionally when everything is very scruffy and falling apart

He is very fit and active so his body is good shape thankfully but his hygiene could definitely be better

I take more care with my appearance so occasionally we must look like an 'odd couple' when I have made a great effort for a night out and he looks his usual scruffy self!

We don't generally comment on each other's style choices tbh. I dress to please myself and not DH or anyone else

I have no input as such. I'll never say he looks bad or he shouldn't wear x y z. I do buy him clothes for Xmas/ birthday sometimes like a nice top or jacket but he's also fussy so it's always with a receipt if he doesn't like it. He knows I prefer body hair, he hates it so he grows it every now and again because he knows I like it but I've never said I don't like the way he looks when he has none if you know what I mean. I know he likes longer hair but he doesn't make me feel any less for having it short etc. It's his body he can do what he likes. I would hope he feels the same about me which so far I've no evidence to the contrary.

Absolutely none. 😂 And no interest, to the extent that I don’t actually know what size he wears and if he were to go missing, I would never be able to give you a description of what he’s wearing, despite the fact he probably only has 5 different changes of clothes. He obviously looks perfectly attractive, which is why I married him, but that’s the extent of my interest in his appearance. I guess I would take issue if he started wearing something outlandish, like a MAGA hat or something bonkers. But of the two of us, I’m the only one likely to wear something embarrassing (😂 but god, not MAGA).

Quite a lot. DH isn't that interested in clothes, so I tend to buy things if I see something I like and think he will (he usually does).
He is grateful to me as he hates clothes shopping.
He does have some input to my clothes, if I am not sure about something, he will offer an opinion.

Zero input.

I like how he dresses and, presumably, he likes (or at elast doesn't dislike) how I dress most of the time.

I wouldn't choose his clothes for him and wouldn't buy him clothes unless I knew he'd love it too but he'd appreciate it if I did that and the same is true of him. It's not happened yet though.

Why do you ask?

I think that’s fair enough 😂😂

How much input do you and your partner have into each others' appearance?

Not a lot. I have told him in the past if what he is wearing looks awful, although it is generally light hearted .
But he’s a middle aged man, comfortable in his conservative style , so unless he asks for feedback, I leave him be.

I tend to buy him coats or nice jumpers as birthday presents, but only ones I know he will wear (because they look like all his other ones!). Occasionally I branch out with a slightly different shade of blue 😁. I really pushed the boat out with a purple one once, but he never wore it! But that's the extent of my contribution.

Almost zero. He might ask me what I think of something before he buys it and I'll tell him him honestly, but otherwise nothing.

Very very occasionally in the past I've told him if I didn't like something, but I think twice in 15 years.

I do tell him when socks/pants need to go in the bin though!