Friend asked for money for freezing eggs/IVF. I feel strange/lost.

Utterly bizarre.

She responded that there was no pressure and it was only if I wanted to 'sponsor' her having a child and the actual child itself (should it ever happen).

What? Christ, wish I had thought of getting sponsors to pay for me to bring up my kids 🤣

She is the ultimate piss taker @fjordsnights, to be honest, I'd do yourself a favour and cut her loose.

So it’s not even a loan, but she wants you to give her the money!

If she needs some one to sponsor her into parenthood she should not be a parent.

What does sponsor a child mean?

Will you get an annual newsletter and photo?

Loads of single people cant afford to have a child and unfortunately we need a man to get pregnant

This is why most of us couple up

Bloody Norah..!

She wants you to sponsor the child ???
As in..pay towards it's upbringing. Jesus...iv heard it all now..
And what happens if you have children OP..? Or your income changes..all sorts of things wrong with this.
I can imagine her nagging you for money for new shoes for the kid..etc.
It's one of the weirdest things I've ever heard.And your crazy if you agree to it

This. It will not end well. The rule of thumb on MN with these situations is that you will get the odd instalment then payments will stop and you will never see the money again, then the friendship will fade away and you will be the bad guy for asking her to pay you back when you knew she was desperate for a child and can’t afford to repay you now that she has to find private school fees for Tabitha and Hugo. Or something very similar.

I really really would be saying Goodbye to her now.

Her proposal that you "sponsor" her IVF then go on to finance her child's life is beyond all understanding. Seriously Fucked Up Thinking and massive sense of Entitlement.

She doesn't care about you at all. You are $$$$$$$$

She's shown her true self. I wouldn't want anything further to do with such a person.

To sponsor her and the resulting child ?

Her audacity grows. I’ve never heard anything so outrageous.
What have you ever discussed or said to make her presume you might be open to doing such a thing as paying for egg freezing, paying for IVF and financially supporting her and her child.?
OP you sound as if you might be minimising/excusing her cheekiness.
I really hope not.
Take good care to keep your finances safe and secure. She doesn’t sound like a proper friend, to me.

I mean, this. What planet is she actually on? Ridiculous.

I would not give even a single thought saying No to this person

Don’t do it !
your ‘friendship’ will end once she had fleeced you

So sorry OP for your huge loss.

Bloody hell at the sheer cheeky fxxkery of your friend.
I would get massive permanent ick for a friend so entitled.
Be very very wary of someone who would ask this.
Protect yourself.

This is a very very strange ask. I don’t understand why you would ask - especially if she doesn’t have a partner yet and she is almost waiting for this person to come into her life. Her situation could change - and also - it’s grim , but there are free ways to have a baby if you are very very very very desperate (I wouldn’t recommend but I have heard of a few people that have had babies from one night stands).

Tell her that you don’t have the money

she is evil

Wtf??? Has your friend lost the touch with reality? Fundraiser for her to have a child?? And then she will have to ask for further handouts to raise the poor child. What have I read.

If her options include finding 'sponsorship' for her baby, I can see how she'll be choosing a relationship. Someone with the audacity to think anyone should sponsor her pregnancy and child only sees peoples in terms of net worth. You'll always need to watch what info you share with her, in case she uses it to get money out of you in future. Not much of a friendship.

>1 per cent voted unreasonable
Which one of you was this.

@fjordsnights
I guess was figuring out her options
figuring out how much of a soft touch you are more like

Someone trying to capitalise on my partner's death would light a f*ing fire in me. Like you aren't going to need that money for therapy for this tragedy?

AND SHE HAD THE MONEY THE WHOLE TIME!!!! Having a child is not a human right that she's entitled to. Block her!!!

"it was only if I wanted to 'sponsor' her having a child and the actual child itself "

She wants you to give her IVF money and pay child support if she has a kid.

This is not a friend. A friend would be asking what do you need at this time not asking you for a large sum of money and to pay child support. That she's hitting you up for money when you're grieving and settling an estate and have so much weighing on you, she's being financially predatory. Sorry, she's one of the vultures.

I would respond no, you are not able to give her money at this or any other time. You know what she is now and that she's taken advantage of your lowest life moments to try to get money from you. You might want to just block her after this money grab.

If you "sponsor" her child will it have your logo on it or something?

CF. Don’t be shy in saying no, sorry I can’t financially contribute. It’s none of her business what money you do or don’t have. She’s certainly not shy of asking. I’m f she can’t afford IVF how is she Goni g to raise a kid. Some peoples sense of entitlement is baffling

Sponsor?!?

Just when one thinks one has heard it all!

I am also a widow and I do relate to the experience of people assuming you have had a windfall and suddenly wanting to claim something. It's unbelievably crass and doesn't give any thought to the fact that you are likely to need everything you have to secure your future. Death brings out the worst in some people.