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To be glad they are upping efforts to find this mother

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AtlasPine · 18/01/2025 08:01

£20,000 offered in search for parents of three abandoned babies https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ckg00m1mv3eo

It seems quite likely to me that she is in a position of vulnerability and in need of a lot of help. For three pregnancies with no ensuing baby to go unnoticed by everyone around her suggests she may be held against her will. Also, they need to be able to get the third baby into an adoption situation asap to give her as much security as possible. Really hope someone comes forward - perhaps the reward will help.

A dark blue reusable Boots carrier bag, with the Boots logo written on it in white lettering, lies on the concrete next to some dried grass and foliage

£20,000 reward offered as police search for parents of three abandoned babies

Police appeal for information relating to three babies abandoned by the same parents shortly after birth in east London. A reward of £20,000 is also being offered by Crimestoppers.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ckg00m1mv3eo

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deeahgwitch · 18/01/2025 09:03

JaneBoleynViscountessRochford · 18/01/2025 08:15

My thoughts are unfortunately that this might be someone held captive, so very sad and how do you even begin to find her?

I agree. Sad
I do hope the police make a breakthrough very soon.
It's the father's DNA that is crucial to the case imo.

parietal · 18/01/2025 08:24

If the baby was found at 1 hr old, then it can't be the mum who is abandoning the baby - leaving the house less than an hour after giving birth does not seem likely. There could be a situation where an abused and imprisoned woman gives birth and the abuser is taking the babies. I think they should be focusing on finding the father through DNA. The mother might not be able to leave the house.

oakleaffy · 18/01/2025 08:22

JaneBoleynViscountessRochford · 18/01/2025 08:15

My thoughts are unfortunately that this might be someone held captive, so very sad and how do you even begin to find her?

It’s a frightening thought.
If she’s prisoner in a house somewhere she may be suffering from “Stockholm syndrome”to even try to cry out for help.

A lone man carrying food to the house won’t be suspicious to neighbours- In a city people don’t tend to notice who is living around them( apart from immediate neighbours).

AuContraire · 18/01/2025 08:20

I think this woman is in a terrible predicament.

I think they released that she and the basis were black, when the news came out that there had been 3 babies each with the same set of parents abandoned?

ETA: X-posted on the heritage.

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AtlasPine · 18/01/2025 08:17

Just read that they are Black but that covers so many heritages. Something more specific must be known.

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oakleaffy · 18/01/2025 08:17

InkHeart2024 · 18/01/2025 08:12

It does say that, but I am confident that sibling contact will be going on. It's probably the case that the adopters of the siblings would like to adopt her too and can't because of the delay.

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I hope that sibling contact is going on- These children will need each other in later life to try and make sense of their early abandonment.

Hope their mother is found soon.

JaneBoleynViscountessRochford · 18/01/2025 08:15

My thoughts are unfortunately that this might be someone held captive, so very sad and how do you even begin to find her?

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AtlasPine · 18/01/2025 08:14

I agree about the ethnicity thing. It might help. That area of London is hugely diverse - I used to teach there and the vast majority of the students were from minority backgrounds, Black and Asian as well as Eastern European. They must know something of the babies’ heritage from the DNA.

I guess allowing the two older ones to have their sister with them but then for her to leave for any reason would be traumatising for them. I think they were adopted by the same family. Hopefully, she can join them and one day they get to know who their birth parents were.

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InkHeart2024 · 18/01/2025 08:12

oakleaffy · 18/01/2025 08:07

Those poor children- It doesn’t say what ethnicity the parents are- this might help narrow the search down a little?
It’s concerning that contraception isn’t being used, and the mother is likely giving birth without any medical intervention-
It says they have a full DNA profile of the mother.

Crazy that the siblings aren’t able to have a relationship because of the police investigation.

It does say that, but I am confident that sibling contact will be going on. It's probably the case that the adopters of the siblings would like to adopt her too and can't because of the delay.

oakleaffy · 18/01/2025 08:12

Ponoka7 · 18/01/2025 08:08

I don't understand why their ethnic background isn't being publicised. The child's adoption should be a priority.

Exactly that.

Very puzzling , especially as they have a full DNA profile of the mother.

GretchenWienersHair · 18/01/2025 08:10

It sounds like the mother must be in an absolutely horrific situation. I hate to think what could be going on here.

Nonaynevernomore · 18/01/2025 08:09

Oh what a worrying situation.

What on earth is that mother going through.

Ponoka7 · 18/01/2025 08:08

I don't understand why their ethnic background isn't being publicised. The child's adoption should be a priority.

oakleaffy · 18/01/2025 08:07

Those poor children- It doesn’t say what ethnicity the parents are- this might help narrow the search down a little?
It’s concerning that contraception isn’t being used, and the mother is likely giving birth without any medical intervention-
It says they have a full DNA profile of the mother.

Crazy that the siblings aren’t able to have a relationship because of the police investigation.

REDB99 · 18/01/2025 08:05

Agree that this woman needs to be found as she is clearly in dire need of help. Hate to think what her life may be like.