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To ask if you’ve ever regretted no contact?

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PumpkinSpicedLatte · 18/01/2025 07:22

Just that really. I think I’m going no contact with 2 family member.
Don’t want to drip feed, so I’ll try not to. It’s a close family member, and I’ve always felt like the black sheep in my family. I’ve had a lot of therapy over the years to get over things said to me growing up.

I am under no illusion that no contact is a huge thing and really painful, my partner is no contact with some of her family. But I can’t see another way around this. They live in the next county and work different hours so I have a chance of bumping into them but slim. My parents will have something to say to me when they find out. I just need a hand hold, I’ve blocked both members numbers so that I don’t receive any other messages off them but it won’t be long until my parents get involved. Will it ever be ok?
31 year old independent Mum of two, but still feeling scared to make my own decisions because of the repercussions.

AIBU-You’ll regret it
YANBU- You won’t regret it

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YeezysBeans · 18/01/2025 08:56

Nope never regretted it!

I think your worry about your parents getting involved, I'd just have a stock response to say to them "I won't be having any contact with them going forward, please respect that that's the boundary I've put in place. Let's talk about something else."

Sadly if they don't respect that, they may find you go lower contact with them.

SoapySponge · 18/01/2025 08:52

Never regretted it for one moment. Best thing I ever did.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 18/01/2025 08:51

You might find it helpful to visit the Relationships board and look for the 'stately homes' thread (for people who have abusive family members).

PumpkinSpicedLatte · 18/01/2025 08:13

@kimchisauchio 🦙 I wish I was just being that. It’s actually been a really traumatic time. But thank you

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kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:24

Don’t be a drama llama
sounds like you barely see them and have very little contact with them anyway

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