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Worried about my quiet and introvert DD

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Newname85 · 18/01/2025 06:49

she is 16. Has a couple of friends. None in her new A levels school.

She seems ok, high achieving at school, etc. But doesn’t do parties or anything. Hangs out with a just couple of old friends - but very rarely. Comes home straight from school most days - practices music (plays 2 instruments to a high standard) or art (her new passion)

I can’t help but wonder how she’ll cope at Uni and whether she’ll even make friends. How will she find a partner is she is this quiet and not social ?

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Newname85 · 18/01/2025 07:04

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:02

I don’t enjoy socialising much - I’d rather chill with coffee and a book or watch Netflix

and looks like your daughter might be the same 🤷

Edited

I struggled with dating! I’ve only dated 1 person and we ended up getting married ! I’m worried a lot about DD.

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SapphireOpal · 18/01/2025 07:04

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:02

I don’t enjoy socialising much - I’d rather chill with coffee and a book or watch Netflix

and looks like your daughter might be the same 🤷

Edited

Yep. Why is it ok for you but not ok for your daughter?

She may well be autistic.

Sammy120 · 18/01/2025 07:03

Hi same boat here. My DD is quiet, small group of friends who she doesn’t see much out of college. Very occasional trip to the cinema with them and that’s about it.

To be honest she mainly wants to do things with me, and whilst I love her company I worry about her going to uni and her ability to make new friends or meet a partner. So basically I’m here for the replies too!

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:03

Willyoujust · 18/01/2025 07:02

Is she autistic?

No words

Willyoujust · 18/01/2025 07:02

Is she autistic?

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:02

I don’t enjoy socialising much - I’d rather chill with coffee and a book or watch Netflix

and looks like your daughter might be the same 🤷

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Newname85 · 18/01/2025 07:00

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 06:53

Why did she leave her school?
Has her entire schooling been like this? Ie very few friends at primary?
Does she seem happy?
Do you have friends and socialise?

Her GCSE school didn’t offer the A level subjects she wanted. Yes - she always struggled to make friends - she has just 3 really good friends. One . From her primary, one from her GCSE school and third one is my friend’s daughter. Her sixth form is a big school - but she only talks about 1 girI!! I have friends and I socialise - but only once or twice a month as I have a hectic job. Tbh, DH and I don’t enjoy socialising much - I’d rather chill with coffee and a book or watch Netflix

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dottiedodah · 18/01/2025 06:57

I would not worry. My own DS was pretty similar. ,he played guitar and had a best friend. Not a party animal at all.wenr to RG uni .,lots of partying social life.new friends.i am sure your DD will be similar

JanuaryOSunshine · 18/01/2025 06:56

She’ll find her way sounds like she’s just decompressing after new school term. I was very similar it’s just how some people are wired. I delayed going to uni and worked / travelled for a couple of years and thrived later in life. I’m definitely an introvert who recharges in my own space and socialise normally doing sports with 1 or 2 others. My now 18yr dd is the same but my younger teen is more extrovert. If she’s stable and content I’d leave her be.

Toomucho · 18/01/2025 06:56

Is she happy? I was quite a solitary child, enjoyed art and spent a lot of time doing that. When I did socialise (more pubs than parties) I didn't particularly enjoy it. I haven't stayed in contact with the few school friends I have but have friends I've made since through uni, work, hobbies and mum friends.

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 06:53

Why did she leave her school?
Has her entire schooling been like this? Ie very few friends at primary?
Does she seem happy?
Do you have friends and socialise?

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