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To believe my house is haunted?

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rockpops · 18/01/2025 00:02

Moved to a new house 2 months ago. Felt lovely and inviting upon viewing and certainly didn’t feel any bad energy.

About a week after moving in things started happening! At 6pm every evening I would hear things, first the dishes being moved around in the sink, then a cupboard poor upstairs being slammed shut, loud bang in bedroom I heard from monitor that make her wake jump and woke her up, then one evening I was on the phone to my mum talking about what’s been happening I said to her “as long as it doesn’t scare me I don’t mind” and right in front of me my daughters baby monitor turned itself on and started beeping loudly like the battery was low but it wasn’t. The monitor wasn’t plugged in or charging and the camera upstairs was turned off! When I looked at the time it was 6.02pm! My blood literally went cold was so scared.

Then my son had left this robot fish toy on my bedside table, it only starts moving in water. I was talking to DP from the bedroom he was in another room and this fish starts flapping. I shouted “oh my god”, it stopped then did one last flap before fully stopping. Again this toy has never just turned itself on and there was no water on the table. Shortly after this I was standing at my sons bedroom door and I could see smoke in his room, I panicked and ran in as was sure there was a fire but then it was gone.

Christmas Eve I was wrapping some last minute presents upstairs and I had my daughters monitor on with white noise in the background so couldn’t hear properly but thought I could hear talking. First I thought it was just the neighbours then I turned the monitor down and realised the TV was on that had been turned off and was playing Maria Kerry all I want for Christmas is you. I was the only one awake and when I tell you I was petrified to go downstairs that is an understatement! So I went down to turn it off with my hairs standing up all over my body and said out loud “Merry Christmas, but you need to leave me alone” then right after I said it one of the presents piled under the tree fell for where it was placed. I froze in absolute terror. We then had family staying for a while so thing went quiet.

After they left one night I hear a noise and had no idea what is what went downstairs there was no noise so checked all the rooms and the shower has turned itself on (slow flowing but still on) but wasn’t turned on at the nob. I stood there staring at it for a while trying to figure it out and turning the non off and on but it wasn’t stopping. I walked out the bathroom to get DP and it stopped. Another time I was in my sons bed with him trying to get him to take an afternoon nap and his box of Lego tipped over on the floor and went all over the floor. It was on top of another box but has never done that and he’s had those boxes for years!

Last night was my scariest experience yet!!! I got up to pee in the night at around 1am went I got back into bed I could hear a a faint giggle and muffled talking very low from the corner of my bedroom next to the window I thought maybe it’s just the neighbours but then the muffled talking moved next to the bedroom door and then I hear a loud bang that made me jump out of my skin right next to my head. When mustered up the courage to look what it was my phone has “fallen” off my bedside table onto the floor and must have hit my daughter’s next to me cot. I was scared stiff in bed then my dog starting barking down stairs and once he starts he goes on and on until someone sees to him so I had to go down even though I was too scared to. I went down tried to settled him in his bed then noticed the TV was on again!! I’ve had this TV for about 10 years it has never ever turned itself on! Apart from these two occasions in this house but never in my old house. Wtf is going on. There is no way all of these are just little coincidences, I tried to explain it away at first but feel like that’s not even possible anymore. What do I do? Do I get a priest in?

Oh there was another occasion where I was trying to fall asleep and heard in the corner of the room a pop like when someone puts their finger cheek and out again to make a pop sound. It was as clear as day I even got up to try and recreate the sound with stuff in the room but I have nothing that could make that sound. My DP doesn’t believe in this type of stuff and it seems like it’s just doing it to me as my son has never said he’s seen or heard anything. I also keep having nightmares.

Any advice? Has anyone dealt with similar?

OP posts:
Tootruetoberreal · 18/01/2025 18:50

The instances you refer too can all be cleared up with logical explanations. Your house isn't haunted, no matter how much you want it to be.
I wish more than anything ghosts were real, so that my parent who died could visit me. Unfortunately science proves otherwise.

000ta · 18/01/2025 18:37

Angelchick1971 · 18/01/2025 14:54

I work with a guy who kept getting slapped around the face when there was no one there. I told him that whoever it was was trying to show their presence,he should go home that night and say out loud that he acknowledges they are there ,he wishes them no ill and he hopes they can coexist peacefully. He looked at me as if I was mad but did it anyway and hasn't been slapped since!

😂😂😂😂😂

ShirkingFromHome95 · 18/01/2025 18:34

what a boring use of the afterlife- tipping boxes and turning on showers to a dribble.

This.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 18/01/2025 18:29

RamsaySnowsSausage · 18/01/2025 18:18

I'm sorry you are frightened and sorry to sound flippant but what a boring use of the afterlife- tipping boxes and turning on showers to a dribble.

Surely an ex-human would make contact more logically? Must be something else.

Sounds like the cheeky sprites my grandparents used to tell me about- you're supposed to leave a saucer of milk out so they won't prank you. Magically, it was always gone in the morning. Absolutely nothing to do with the dog of course.

I find the paranormal fascinating but I have never experienced anything. I do get auditory hallucinations which would be very scary if I didn't know what they were.

Same here. Now I know it's all just my weird brain it is easier to accept it. At one point I genuinely thought I was possessed by the devil. It was terrifying.

RamsaySnowsSausage · 18/01/2025 18:18

I'm sorry you are frightened and sorry to sound flippant but what a boring use of the afterlife- tipping boxes and turning on showers to a dribble.

Surely an ex-human would make contact more logically? Must be something else.

Sounds like the cheeky sprites my grandparents used to tell me about- you're supposed to leave a saucer of milk out so they won't prank you. Magically, it was always gone in the morning. Absolutely nothing to do with the dog of course.

I find the paranormal fascinating but I have never experienced anything. I do get auditory hallucinations which would be very scary if I didn't know what they were.

Crystall88 · 18/01/2025 18:00

Are you the same poster with the sleeping husband? You write really similar!

Fordian · 18/01/2025 17:59

Well, I'm sceptic central.

However, I had an event happen to me aged 21 so 40 years ago that had no explanation then, or now. It was a trivial thing, literally an internal door handle of a shut door pushed itself down. 4 people witnessed it. There was no one on the other side.

Titasaducksarse · 18/01/2025 17:54

I believe you. Happened to someone i know. When she told the spirit to go away or she would get the priest in, it went next door..old terraced house and bothered them.

I've encountered spirits in my childhood home and in my workplace. At home I clear as day heard footsteps across my bedroom floor and someone rustle in the drawer. I was too scared to open eyes but I also had a sense of knowing it was OK.
I'm assuming was same spirit that hid my boyfriends keys. We literally looked everywhere then found them under the tank in the airing cupboard that was in my room.

At work I 100% thought my boss had come up behind me and turned to speak...noone there. I jokily said to a member of staff about the place being haunted....it was apparently but no one had told me that before.

averitablevampire · 18/01/2025 17:54

Just tell any potential spirit to fuck off. That'll see you right.

medianewbie · 18/01/2025 17:53

AlpacaMittens · 18/01/2025 06:14

Do people do that?!

There are issues in my house. Ages ago I asked the local minister to visit but she just laughed (which made me feel ridiculous). Then o discovered my house had been mentioned in an academic book about haunting. FFS.

Blueglazzier · 18/01/2025 17:42

Follow your natural instincts and make notes . Also you could leave your phone on record in certain rooms . I have visited houses that are haunted for reasons unknown to the owners . Do your research and leave video camera on or record in the room . You can ask them to speak to you . You can also tell them you are unhappy about their presence and ask them to leave you . Tell them you live there now . They will hear you . Seems like they are wanting your attention . Yes I am a paranormal investigator . Best wishes

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 18/01/2025 17:40

HarLace1 · 18/01/2025 17:26

For people saying the OP must have a mental illness because YOU don't believe in ghosts/spirits whatever, should be ashamed of yourselves. You wouldn't mock someone and say they were mentally ill for going to church every Sunday would you? Because tbh it's pretty much the same!

Sounds bloody creepy OP. I believe in this stuff, my OH is on the fence but more likely to find rational with it which is fine, but he works in an old primary school as a site manager and he's said there's some stuff he can't explain that happens but he would rather not think about it because he's all alone in the school!

My mum's beat friend had a horrible house like this. Children laughing running up and down the landing when no children were there nor next door (plus it was heard on the landing!) doors slamming shut for no reason I could go on. Worst one was her best friends husband died suddenly at 35 and she hadn't done anything with his ashes due to not knowing what to do with them as they hadn't spoken about that type of thing when he was alive, but one evening the urn dropped to the floor when she was getting her baby a bottle and when she walked into the living room (where the ashes were) she said the room felt 'angry' at her and it was such a horrible feeling she bolted up the stairs terrified and didn't come down again til late morning. Was very unlike her as she was a bloody strong, no nonsense woman (think of sister evangeline in call the midwife!) but she got rid of the ashes that day after that happened.

Not must

Would be sensible to rule out. Mental and physical. Medical causes.

I'm truly not sure what's controversial about that. It seems a more sensible starting point than ghosts.

ShirkingFromHome95 · 18/01/2025 17:35

Apologies if my mental illness post offended. 😂

My line of thinking was that if somebody sincerely claims they were abducted by aliens and now unequivocally believe that we're not alone, it's statistically more likely to be a personal delusion than proof of anything.

AdviceNeeded2024 · 18/01/2025 17:31

I think there are some things that can’t be explained away but some could be dodgy wiring or anppliances etc. I grew up in a ‘haunted’ house and heard some stuff but my mum experienced a lot more things, and she wasn’t mentally ill and there wasn’t carbon monoxide so who knows. Just glad I don’t live there now!

There was a woo story thread on here a while back about haunted places which was an interesting read, one post that always stuck with me was someone posting about living in an apartment block and the neighbour committed suicide and things that happened after including a black pool appearing where he’d done it, it was terrifying but can’t remember the thread.

Vergus · 18/01/2025 17:26

But for some reason it’s ok to believe in a God, or Gods and eternal life after death - but not spirits or ghosts. There’s a flaw in your logic there

HarLace1 · 18/01/2025 17:26

For people saying the OP must have a mental illness because YOU don't believe in ghosts/spirits whatever, should be ashamed of yourselves. You wouldn't mock someone and say they were mentally ill for going to church every Sunday would you? Because tbh it's pretty much the same!

Sounds bloody creepy OP. I believe in this stuff, my OH is on the fence but more likely to find rational with it which is fine, but he works in an old primary school as a site manager and he's said there's some stuff he can't explain that happens but he would rather not think about it because he's all alone in the school!

My mum's beat friend had a horrible house like this. Children laughing running up and down the landing when no children were there nor next door (plus it was heard on the landing!) doors slamming shut for no reason I could go on. Worst one was her best friends husband died suddenly at 35 and she hadn't done anything with his ashes due to not knowing what to do with them as they hadn't spoken about that type of thing when he was alive, but one evening the urn dropped to the floor when she was getting her baby a bottle and when she walked into the living room (where the ashes were) she said the room felt 'angry' at her and it was such a horrible feeling she bolted up the stairs terrified and didn't come down again til late morning. Was very unlike her as she was a bloody strong, no nonsense woman (think of sister evangeline in call the midwife!) but she got rid of the ashes that day after that happened.

Vergus · 18/01/2025 17:25

@JustCrow

You can’t use something there’s no evidence for, to explain something else you don’t have an explanation for 😂

Religion?

Yellowpingu · 18/01/2025 17:15

We didn’t believe in anything spooky until we moved to this house 20 years ago. We live very rurally, no streetlights for miles. One night I thought DH had come to bed as I’d felt him breathing on the back of my neck. I got up for a wee and he was in the lounge watching TV. We’ve also had the duvet pulled off us and small children, including DS when younger, have asked who ‘the man’ is. No rational explanations for any of it so now we try to accept it.

GutsyShark · 18/01/2025 17:12

2pence · 18/01/2025 16:52

@GutsyShark perhaps you need to explore why someone with a different opinion to you triggers such a belligerent response.

Do you get angry with religious people too?

I’m not angry about it I just don’t understand why people believe in nonsense. Actually googled explanations for ghosts earlier, some interesting thoughts about it being to do with brain activity while sleeping etc.

Religion is the same, if people want to believe in zombies or that granny didn’t die she went to live with an invisible man in the sky that’s fine. But I dont need to play along with their delusions.

Maybe I’ll change my mind if I burn some sage though.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 18/01/2025 17:11

If someone claimed to see jesus standing in front of them but nobody else sees him then yes I would suggest they rule out physical causes before considering they may be seeing him.

I honestly do not understand what is wrong, mean, unkind or gaslighting by suggesting eliminating medical reasons before turning to spiritual ones.

I absolutely believe that you are telling the truth about what you are seeing and hearing.

That doesn't mean those things are happening.

I was sectioned as a young woman and put on anti psychotics. I 100% saw figures in my room. I heard whispering voices. I truly believed there was a giant orange spider thst wanted to kill me because I had murdered its babies. I'd be doing my hair at the mirror and my face would change and it wasn't my face any more.

A few years later I had my son and had post partum psychosis. I believed that he had died during labour and been replaced by a demon. I saw his face twist into a grotesque leer.

Those things were 100% real to me.

They just weren't objectively real.

You are determined to interpret every suggestion to rule out medical reasons as an attack upon you and this is untrue and unfair.

Suggestions to rule out physical reasons for seeing and hearing things is not insulting. It's a sensible place to start.

JustCrow · 18/01/2025 17:04

TheaBrandt · 18/01/2025 12:12

Caramac Dh is the same. Very dismissive and totally unbelieving. When we drove away from the house with the banging I said “ok then what on earth was it?”. We both were kept awake by it and searched the house for the source of it. His reply was “Christ knows no explanation except ghosts didn’t want to say at the time so as not to freak you out”.

“No explanation except ghosts” and that’s the flaw in thinking.

You might just as well say “no explanation except the tooth fairy/an invisible pink dragon”. You can’t use something there’s no evidence for, to explain something else you don’t have an explanation for 😂

2pence · 18/01/2025 16:52

@GutsyShark perhaps you need to explore why someone with a different opinion to you triggers such a belligerent response.

Do you get angry with religious people too?

Vergus · 18/01/2025 16:44

@rockpops

Is every religious believer mentally ill? As there are more people in the world who follow various religions than there are atheists.

Exactly. Good point, well made.

BarMonaco · 18/01/2025 16:36

Costcolover · 18/01/2025 16:31

Who's Maria Kerry?!

Mariah Carey

Costcolover · 18/01/2025 16:31

Who's Maria Kerry?!