Friend annoyed at me for this

Tbh I don't think she really did anything wrong. She's not really made a big drama about it, just expressed she thought you 2 would go together having mentioned it. She's not mad at you but just thought she'd express she thought you'd see it together. Miscommunication at best but it's pretty healthy for a person to say "oh i thought this would happen"

You know this thread is from January?! I’m sure she’s over it now.

‘If’ you feel this friendship is worth the effort, go and see the film again with her. However, she sounds very controlling and high maintenance. Is she worth the trouble?

What is unbelievable?

unbelievable ...

And this

This.

Also you might get some confusing results in the votes - I was tempted to press AIBU as I felt you were unreasonable for apologising so much to her about something so meaningless.

Voting guidance needed! 😬

Does she suffer from anxiety and/or depression? I can see myself in her cringey behaviour and in my case it was because of generalised anxiety disorder. Still not your fault! Just trying to find an explanation. You did nothing wrong.

Yeah, i don't understand why she wouldn't of come to mind once the film was mentioned if she is your best friend and you had had several conversations about it.

Don't let a new boyfriend pass comment on your friends, especially your best friend. No good will come from that.

Exactly, why on earth are you seeing it a second time?

I don’t think she’s in the wrong

Some harsh comments here. OP is in a new relationship of only 6 months. We don't know the friends situation however OP seems like a good person too. I think OPs aware she's in the wrong here hence the post. Nothing to fall out over though!

@OneBrightAzureBiscuit your friend sounds like high maintenance.

I'd she wanted to go and see it with you then why didn't she ask??

And why are you going to see it again? That's daft!

This is the funniest thing I've read all day ' snowflake cunt ' 🤣 - legend.

OP, I sense your friend is the boss in this relationship and on some level you're scared to stand up to her. I understand this as a people pleaser in the past.

' I was waiting for you to firm up plans and was really keen to see it. You fancy catching up for a drink on xyz?'

No sorry FFS. You have nothing to apologise for.

She is one of those who loves their friends intensely , like family. Both a blessing and a curse; Nice when you have no one, so she is always there but annoying when you have a boyfriend

Why didn't the plans materialise? I wonder whether the bigger picture (and reason for passive aggression) is perhaps that you're never available for plans due to the new(ish) boyfriend? I've found myself in similar situations (suggest doing something, friend isn't available, then friend does the suggested activity with new boyfriend... it feels rubbish) and friendships have drifted as a result.

Yes just forget it. It's extremely decent of you to go and see it again with her. Don't listen to any of her moaning about it. She's behaving like a 10 year old.

Is your friend 6?

My advice would be to stop apologising.

"Anyways, we were talking over the past month about seeing a certain film at the cinema. She loosely mentioned it a few times but plans never materialised. I was waiting for her to get back to me about it."
What does this actually mean? Was the phrase 'I want to see this film' (or equivalent) ever said? Did either of you say 'when do you fancy going'? Did the conversation get as far as 'I'll check my diary and get back to you'? Were you passive throughout, waiting for her to materialise these plans, or were you active and she didn't respond?

I think your friend's being an absolute baby, personally. It's not like you seeing the film with your boyfriend now means she can't see the film at all. She can see it with someone else or go on her own or whatever. It's a non-issue and she's a giant twat for being 'shocked'. Your boyfriend's right.

Yeah, this. I would have checked.

Except where it isn't.

50/50.

She asked you if you fancied seeing it but plans never materialised… you were waiting for her to sort it out, could you not have solidified the plan with her? Do you always just wait for her to sort the logistics? You knew she wanted to see it with you, so when your boyfriend suggested it I do think that could’ve been a good time to say to him “Oo actually xxxx did mention seeing that with me but it never got sorted, I’d best just check with her if she’s still up for it as I should probably go with her” or if it works in your dynamics, you could’ve asked her to go with you and your boyfriend.

I do also think that her reaction is very childish/dramatic. If I was her in that position I might be a bit miffed and just say to my boyfriend “oh that’s really annoying I asked xxxx a few weeks ago if she wanted to see xxxx with me and she said yes, but I’ve just seen she went with her boyfriend!” And after that little moan, I’d move on. I’d never call my friend out for it as it’s just too insignificant to cause drama over.

Also just curious- how did she find out you’d seen it?

Why did you apologise? Neither of you actually made any plans to go together for real, it was just a thought. She is not your keeper and has no rights to expect you to wait on her whim.

Why others are suggesting you should have asked her permission to go with your BF is just downright odd. You could have gone all together but who wants to be a third wheel or have a friend tagging along when you are with a partner? It's not like going to see a film is a group fun night out.

She has a problem not you. Stop apologising to her, it gives her power over you that she shouldn't have.