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To think talking to 15 sperate people in a day isn't really that many?

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orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements · 17/01/2025 15:48

I've seen a meme going round Facebook three times now. Apparently the average number of different people a person talks out loud to in a day is 15.

The comment section is always full of people saying they don't speak to anywhere near that amount of people in a day and some quite horrified by the mere idea of it.

But on three separate occasions, I think I have had fairly quiet days and each time my number has been between 12-18. Is 15 really very much??!!

Today it has been:
My husband and both of my kids
my daughter's teacher
the lady in tesco express
Another mum I saw in tesco express
3 separate customers
my supplier
Two different people on the phone about a bill
A taxi driver

Total: 13

I've only left the house to do school runs and pop to tesco express while out.

So... how many people do you speak to in a day? For the purpose of the experiment, online or messages does not count. It needs to be spoken out loud.

OP posts:
NerrSnerr · 17/01/2025 17:32

There's been others I have said a quick hello to as well, probably about ten of those.

TCCOS · 17/01/2025 17:32

I’m wfh today and have spoken to DH, DD, Ocado man, dry cleaning man, three people on the phone, and I’m going out tonight so that will add a few as well. On a day in the office it would be more like 30-40.

NerrSnerr · 17/01/2025 17:31

Let me think
Husband, son, daughter 3
Son's friend and dad 2
Bus driver x2 journeys 2
Staff canteen for coffee/ food 3
Meetings 3
Walking home from school 4
Dropping daughter at activity and paying 5

There'll be more this evening as I'll supervise above activity after her formal session to chat to others. Might also go to the shop later.

This is about a usual day for me today.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/01/2025 17:31

I am pretty housebound, so I usually only speak to 2 people - dh and ds3. Today that will be 3 people, because I saw my physio. Mondays I go to a knitting group so can speak to 10+ people there.

Rosesgrowonyou · 17/01/2025 17:31

Over a 100. Customer facing job in a large workplace, Plus bus drivers, shop assistants and a couple of neighbours.

JaneBoleynViscountessRochford · 17/01/2025 17:31

Three today, my DH and two DC. It’s a wfh day and Fridays have no meetings to let some actual work get done. I did speak to colleagues via teams message but that’s it.

Went to the gym at lunch but had my headphones on listening to a podcast so didn’t speak to anyone. I am having a quiet night in front of traitors and the kids don’t have friends around tonight.

I am not massively social anyway and don’t really enjoy small talks but Mon-Fri I will have lots of meetings where I will speak to people face to face and maybe see my parents or school parents on the school run.

DH is a chatter and did school run and afternoon clubs today so he will have spoken to loads of people.

TheignT · 17/01/2025 17:30

Seven, DH, DS, 2xGC, dentist's receptionist, assistant at pharmacy, pharmacist. That's probably on the high side for me.

I forgot the parcel delivery woman so that makes it eight.

vanillafudgecake · 17/01/2025 17:30

14 today

DH
DC
Parents on the school runs
Viewed a house
Solicitor

RampantIvy · 17/01/2025 17:29

I have only spoken to 3 people today.

I wouldn't find 15 people too many, but I think my average is below that as I WFH most days.

MigGril · 17/01/2025 17:29

I actually couldn't say, a lot on a work day as I work in a high school. I say hello to any staff I see at work and occasionally interact with some of the students to, even though I don't teach. It's nice to have a quiet day at the weekend.

Cherrysoup · 17/01/2025 17:28

Countless, because I’m a teacher so 30x5 children today, plus my form-twice. On top of this, I wore a very vibrantly coloured outfit today and everyone who saw me commented on it, staff, kids in the corridor.

popandchoc · 17/01/2025 17:28

Today i have spoken to 9 people. On a working day it would be a lot more.

CautiousLurker01 · 17/01/2025 17:27

Gosh is this like the aspiration 10k steps? Cos I’ve had an above average interaction day today. Sum total of 8 people (one on the phone) but only because I needed a passport application signed and had to have it checked at the PO. Usually about 4-5 people max. And, yes, I know I am sad and isolated… but that’s life after 19years of parenting SEN kids and being a SAHM.

Gotback · 17/01/2025 17:27

5 hens
3 cats
1 husband

UnusuallyBuoyantTeabag · 17/01/2025 17:26

10 today but it can be more, or as few as 4 if I don't speak to anyone on the school run on a non working day 😄

PandaChopChop · 17/01/2025 17:25

Today I have spoken to..
DC x 2
Their friends x 3
Friends parent x 2
Car wash men x 2
Cafe chef
Hairdresser
Assistant in the Coop
My friends x 4
My new boss
So a total of 17? And I haven't even been to work today 😆
That's fairly regular for me though cos I do tend to chat etc. I've also messaged many more friends today as well.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 17/01/2025 17:25

Interesting question ñ

Today 2 - DH & DS
Yesterday - DH & DS, had lunch out so spoke to the waitress, and went into the office and spoke to four people there. So 7.
Wednesday - four - DH & DS, work colleague on Zoom, and one work related phone call.

Most this week was probably Monday as there was a Zoom meeting with maybe 7 or 8 people in it, though I didn't say much more than hello and goodbye.

I would say it's rare for me to speak to over ten people in a day.

FlippityFloppityFlump · 17/01/2025 17:23

Today I have spoken to 9
DH DS Friend, her parents, 2 staff in cafe, school receptionist,

Yesterday I think was 10 and Wednesday was 13

NeedABabelFish · 17/01/2025 17:22

I often only speak with 2 or 3 people in a day, sometimes only with DH.
I'm self-employed as a dog walker and the majority of my clients aren't at home when I go to take their dogs out. I may come across other people when I'm walking and say hello or have a brief chat but occasionally I have the fields and footpaths to myself - it's bliss!

BrieAndChilli · 17/01/2025 17:22

Well today was a quiet day = 11
yesterday had a couple of teamsmeetings and was out volunteering in the evening so = about 60!

AshCrapp · 17/01/2025 17:20

Today it's five for me, I've been working from home. Would be 20 when in office.

wassailess · 17/01/2025 17:20

Husband
Boss
2 colleagues
Junkie outside co-op
Co-op check out lady
Cat

Total 7

Greeneyegirl · 17/01/2025 17:19

Hmmm in person:
Husband
Daughter
3 X staff at daughter's nursery
I'll probably speak to my mum friend at nursery pick up
And that's it actually. I would usually have quite a few teams calls (WFH) that would bring the number up

Middlemarch123 · 17/01/2025 17:19

My son, my daughter, the bathroom fitter, my partner, my two cats. Two dog owners when I collected their dogs to walk. Talked to their three dogs. Lovely quiet day.

museumum · 17/01/2025 17:18

Do online videocall meetings count? I’ve done three today with 2, 5 and 1 other people.
only spoken to ds and dh in person.
will go out to dinner later in a group of about 12, will probably directly chat with maybe 8-10 of them.

i don’t go out with a big group daily or even weekly so often wouldn’t reach 15 I guess. Unless I commute or shop.