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Jesus Christ it keeps going

473 replies

wonderblocks · 17/01/2025 14:49

After Bonnie blue beat Lily Philips to "bed" as many men as possible in 12 hours, lily has now said she plans to have anal sex with as many men as she can, I'm guessing in 24 hours.

apple.news/AiTwmZjdrTHu-iTDkVjOQ9Q

wtf is wrong with people ?
Aibu or has the world gone mad ?
I'm no prude but this all just seems so classless.

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OhamIreally · 19/01/2025 09:35

PersephoneSmith · 17/01/2025 15:34

could she be sectioned? on the grounds of being a danger to herself?

Yes that's what I was thinking.

She shouldn't be able to consent to this amount of harm.

Superhansrantowindsor · 19/01/2025 09:00

Anyotherdude · 19/01/2025 08:51

I’m just thinking “where’s Mary Whitehouse when we need her now, more than ever?”

Yes - she was ridiculed and mocked by so many but look where we have ended up.
yes this woman needs mental health support but the men who are doing this have no excuse. It is so very depressing that this is the so called civilised society we live in.

Anyotherdude · 19/01/2025 08:51

I’m just thinking “where’s Mary Whitehouse when we need her now, more than ever?”

Plastictrees · 19/01/2025 08:24

scrabblie · 19/01/2025 08:13

”I think the issue is the way most people have reacted here. There are very few comments genuinely worrying about her mental health and wellbeing, about possibly being exploited and the circumstances in her life that led her to it. Instead, it's all outraged squeaking about "disgrace" and being "classless" and "repulsive" - can you see the difference between the two kinds of reactions? Because I can and I find the latter nasty and judgmental in the worst possible way.
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But that's Mumsnet for you.”

I agree @PruneEnigmatique

The story saddens me and it further saddens me to come on here to hear people calling her a classless whore rather than reflecting on how depressing and fucked up our society must be to lead to people doing this to themselves.

Edited

I also agree. It’s easier to take a position of moralising judgement than it is to consider what has gone wrong with us as a collective society.

KeepYaHeadUp · 19/01/2025 08:18

sometimesmovingforwards · 17/01/2025 15:02

Interesting thread.

On one hand there is often a narrative of her body her choice, refuse to be slut shamed, if you want to sleep around then do because men do, don’t be controlled by the patriarchy etc etc…

But I’m reading the posts here saying this is absolutely vile, classless and that she’s a ‘fucking disgrace’.

Just for clarity, what’s the agreed acceptable line on sexual partners not to be crossed please?
Because the commentary all seems very contradictory…

Edited

"Her body, her choice" is such a scapegoat. It totally ignores the idea of internalised misogyny and the fact that she's benefiting from this financially which removes the idea of it being truly consensual as far as I'm concerned.

The point has been made that if a man tried the same thing women wouldn't be lining up to be involved. She doesn't do it because she enjoys sex because she wouldn't do it anonymously

KeepYaHeadUp · 19/01/2025 08:16

MidnightPatrol · 17/01/2025 15:02

I just want all this stuff to be out of the mainstream press.

As I seem to be reminded of their existence daily.

Just minding your own business reading the news, catching up on photos from friends, looking up why the train is delayed onto Twitter and BAM another story about these two.

I don’t need or want to hear about their exploits, why is it so widely published.

Totally agree. It's bizarre. I hate the idea that my kids might somehow be made aware of this story. It should be resigned to porn sites and their "fans"

scrabblie · 19/01/2025 08:13

”I think the issue is the way most people have reacted here. There are very few comments genuinely worrying about her mental health and wellbeing, about possibly being exploited and the circumstances in her life that led her to it. Instead, it's all outraged squeaking about "disgrace" and being "classless" and "repulsive" - can you see the difference between the two kinds of reactions? Because I can and I find the latter nasty and judgmental in the worst possible way.
**
But that's Mumsnet for you.”

I agree @PruneEnigmatique

The story saddens me and it further saddens me to come on here to hear people calling her a classless whore rather than reflecting on how depressing and fucked up our society must be to lead to people doing this to themselves.

Luddite26 · 19/01/2025 07:52

MyProudHare · 17/01/2025 14:55

Wtf? Aside from all the issues others have mentioned above, she's going to end up with damage and faecal incontinence, surely?

Of course some men would enjoy a dose of that while in the act.

wonderblocks · 19/01/2025 07:50

HarrietsweetHarriet · 19/01/2025 07:00

What worries me is that the media attention will normalise this type of sexual behaviour. We all know men think with their dicks....what is going to become the expectation? That women are game for this kind of thing?
I appreciate this is consensual sex and I do fully get the difference with the horrendous Gisele Pelicot case but there are men who don't believe that it was rape - the lowlives who raped her for example .
I hate where this is going and how demeaning it feels for women in general,
that it encourages men to think we are just vessels for their sexual gratification.

This is exactly my worry. I think alot of men already have certain expectations of blow jobs because of porn, now what ? That we all want to be fucked by hundreds of men, and if we dont, well those porn stars can do it, so why can't you?! Does it make us less of a woman ?!

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Believeitornot · 19/01/2025 07:21

This sort of thing turns me into a raging anti- capitalist feminist.

I used to think porn was empowering then I grew up and thought about it more. These women have to disassociate to do this; that’s not right. And the idea of coming up with stunts to make money?

And the kids that’ll hear about and see this?? I hate the fact we have to accept the fact that no one is prepared to put better guardrails in place. Porn has become normalised - from the province of a dodgy shop and top shelves to being three clicks away. Something needs to change.

HarrietsweetHarriet · 19/01/2025 07:00

What worries me is that the media attention will normalise this type of sexual behaviour. We all know men think with their dicks....what is going to become the expectation? That women are game for this kind of thing?
I appreciate this is consensual sex and I do fully get the difference with the horrendous Gisele Pelicot case but there are men who don't believe that it was rape - the lowlives who raped her for example .
I hate where this is going and how demeaning it feels for women in general,
that it encourages men to think we are just vessels for their sexual gratification.

Cucumbersandwich75 · 19/01/2025 01:07

Classless and pointless.

Keeponkeepingon9 · 19/01/2025 00:50

Women participating in this type of sexual activity (anal sex with a vast amount of men one after the other until no longer able) are either seriously mentally ill, seriously depraved or a combination of both. In this instance I would suggest seriously mentally ill. Perhaps a police investigation regarding men taking advantage of insanity is in order.

YourOwnPersonalCheeses · 19/01/2025 00:47

Never heard of her

Asvoria · 19/01/2025 00:22

A woman who does something like this is giving the patriarchy exactly what it wants and demands of all women, so it's hardly empowering 🙄 They're being obedient little wimmin as well as dragging society further into the porn infested sewer.

Well Done Them 👏🏻

SeaSunandSand · 19/01/2025 00:11

sometimesmovingforwards · 17/01/2025 15:02

Interesting thread.

On one hand there is often a narrative of her body her choice, refuse to be slut shamed, if you want to sleep around then do because men do, don’t be controlled by the patriarchy etc etc…

But I’m reading the posts here saying this is absolutely vile, classless and that she’s a ‘fucking disgrace’.

Just for clarity, what’s the agreed acceptable line on sexual partners not to be crossed please?
Because the commentary all seems very contradictory…

Edited

I agree whole heartedly that a woman can do whatever she wants. The line crossed is making herself into some kind of joke for click bate and literally ruining her life.
Shag whoever you want. We don’t need to know about it!
This kind of stunt has long lasting implications and since she is clearly mentally unwell; isn’t that rape?
Look at it from another side. A clearly unwell person offers themselves in the street to get a penny a shag. Would you think that was ok? Her body; her choice.
Same thing but a different narrative.
“I fuxked someone for click bait!” Well that’s ok then.
“I took advantage of a mentally unwell woman but she wanted it!” You do you soldier!
It’s not ok as she can’t possibly be ok.

carchi · 19/01/2025 00:04

OK it's her body her choice etc.. however it's obviously being done for her 15 minutes of fame. What is concerning is that young girls might see this and not be able to get it into perspective and consider it acceptable behaviour especially attention seeking behaviour.

Dawncleo62 · 18/01/2025 23:48

Must have some kind of mental illness! “ I can do THIS!” Sick as Hell!!

Butterfly292828 · 18/01/2025 23:47

Their parents must be so proud so these daughters that have turned basically into whores

Asvoria · 18/01/2025 23:31

She's a total amateur, women have three holes don't we? If she wanted to make a real impact she'd do 3000 men with one in each hole. It'd look like a game of Twister, but hey, at least it'd be fun 🙄

So classy 🤮

Stock up on hemorrhoid cream and faecal incontinence pads for afterwards though.

AliasGrace47 · 18/01/2025 23:03

theresabluebirdinmyheart · 18/01/2025 20:21

Yeah it makes you wonder what she was exposed to as a child and if she was groomed into it. she seems really unwell and i agree with pp that sadly can see suicide or drugs in her future. Don’t think I’ve ever heard of a “porn star” having a happily ever after when they retire.

In the DM article, she says she first watched porn at 13 & always thought she would go into it.. Sadly a lot of teens get exposed to porn to bad effect bit clearly the effect was particularly bad here. I suspect there is more to this story than we know...

OldScribbler · 18/01/2025 22:41

wonderblocks · 17/01/2025 14:49

After Bonnie blue beat Lily Philips to "bed" as many men as possible in 12 hours, lily has now said she plans to have anal sex with as many men as she can, I'm guessing in 24 hours.

apple.news/AiTwmZjdrTHu-iTDkVjOQ9Q

wtf is wrong with people ?
Aibu or has the world gone mad ?
I'm no prude but this all just seems so classless.

I am absolutely no prude - one of my partners was a stripper and another a very expensive call girl. But I find this a) ludicrous b) unhealthy and c) impossible. It reminds me of the Empress Messalina who had a contest with Rome's leading prostitute to see who would screw the most men. But at least she didn't cliam you could have a proper sex in a few seconds

ColinOfficeTrolley · 18/01/2025 22:37

JHound · 18/01/2025 21:15

The only positive from this…a lot of comments have jumped to assume these women are from
broken homes, derived backgrounds and have “absent fathers” - “this is what happens when you’re raised by a single mother” is one comment I saw.

So it has been satisfying to point out they both appear to be from staunchly middle class, fairly privileged, two parent households. And for both of them I believe their parents help with aspects of their work.

I don't think absentee fathers would be as damaging as witnessing toxic masculinity growing up.

I fail to believe that even with 2 parents present, that the mother and father had a conventionally healthy relationship.

You don't suddenly hit 18, after growing up with parents you'd be happy to have as role models, and think 'y'know what's a good idea, allowing myself and my body to be used and abused by men, for money'.

Middle class does not = healthy upbringing, it just means they didn't struggle for money.

Grammarnut · 18/01/2025 22:29

wonderblocks · 18/01/2025 12:39

The thing is what I worry is what the hell is it going to be next ? So Bonnie beat Lily to have sex with over a thousand men in what was it, 12 hours ? So then Lily goes okay, I'm Gona let 1,000 men bum me ! What will Bonnie then do ?! Fucking madness all of this.
And the men to be honest I don't know what to say because let's face it, it's men. Yes not all of them but a vast majority do see women as objects to fuck and Chuck.

It makes me wonder if all women are expected to want gangbangs and deep throating, anal etc and if we don't we're "frigid" because of this publicity.
I remember that word going around secondary school early 2000's

Only Fans makes a few rich. Others not so much. And it's prostitution, giving free adverts to the porn industry.
As to having 1000 men have anal intercourse - that has shades of what happened to Mme Pelicot. It's stuff like this that made it possible for her rape to happen because the men involved can say, but it's consensual, it's a sex kink - and that's exactly what some of Mme Pelicot's attackers said.

CheeseQuiche · 18/01/2025 22:20

HorsesAreRunningOn3LegsTonight · 18/01/2025 22:18

It’s not “ sex “ , she’s a hole.
Sad.

I agree and I do wish the media would stop saying "sleeping with" - Its a queue of youngish men all with their phones in one hand and their cocks in the other, punching it in and out of these girls vaginas and mouths. They need to report on it accurately.