So we've had some conversations regarding splitting. I am formulating a safe plan to leave. He says he will want kids 50:50. When I spoke to my Solicitor I mentioned the classic EOW, but they have strongly advised I go for less than every other weekend for the wellbeing of my children (he is verbally abusive to all of us and also he has never looked after all of them by himself for more than half a day on less than a handful of occasions - oldest is 9, youngest 3). He acts like he can't stand to be around them most of the time, they irritate him and he doesn't understand how kids behave but thinks they should do as they are told...as soon as they are demanded to do something.
Anyway any stories from people who have left a guy like this and he's actually turned his parenting ways around. Or is it more likely to be the 50:50 thing is just a threat to try and get me to stay and he will in fact see them alot less when he realises he can't do it.
Obviously I would like to make the split as non acrimonious as possible and have been warned against going in all guns blazing with a solicitor. He's a nasty piece of work verbally and very manipulative. Being told that he can not see his kids as much as he wants to will put his back up big style and make him very angry. But obviously the kids are at the forefront of my mind.