To be pissed off that he didn’t offer?

I’m not understanding people saying perhaps he’s feeling shy about using your kitchen when him and the op have been sharing body fluids.

'I feel awful today, would you mind making us some breakfast please? Help yourself to whatever you want but it doesn't have to be anything fancy, toast and scrambled eggs would be great. I'm going to read for a bit, thanks.'
I don't understand why you wouldn't just have a conversation.

You have a tongue in your head, you should have used it.

“Fred, do feel free to make yourself at home, help yourself to breakfast etc as I feel lousy”

It’s not difficult.

This, yes

Or just maybe he could have seen using his grown up man eyes that you were not feeling well, dug deep and found a slither of empathy , thought to himself, oh crap she is not well, perhaps i should offer to do something rather than sit on my arse and wait for cooking machine to stop being defective and musterd up the sentence "ah sweetheart you dont look well, can i get you anything? cup of tea? toast something from the shop? "

Are people really thinking that if you are staying in someones house and they are unwell that they wouldn't offer to make them something as after all its not their house or their kitchen ?

Welcome to the real world OP, many of us have struggles and health conditions, sometimes you need to just get on with it. What would you of done if he hadn’t been there? Lay in bed all day and not eat, called an ambulance??

So how has it come about that he only eats a cooked breakfast at yours?

Do you always offer?

I do all the cooking for us both, as he doesn’t like doing it

No shit!

I don't think it's unreasonable to feel upset about it. However, I would have asked him to help with dog and making the breakfast. Sometimes men are really shortsighted and they don't do anything proactively until you tell them. I would take some time to calm down and then talk to him about it. If he understands, great. If not, then I would be concerned

You could have said,

"Sorry, I'm not up to cooking today. I might be able to offer you a piece of toast in a while, but if you would like a cooked breakfast, all the ingredients are in the fridge and it would be much appreciated."

If he'd then tried to insist on you getting up and making him a full English, I'd have every sympathy but just lying there and hoping he reads your mind is odd behaviour.

FWIW, no-one feels great after a poor night of sleep. I also have a chronic illness which is terribly affected by poor sleep, but it is worth taking into consideration that whilst he might not have felt as bad as you, he was still most probably not at his best either.

The default assumption is that the host does the cooking, but you could have asked him to make breakfast.

Er why is it the only type of breakfast he eats at yours?

You could have made cereal/ toast (whatever you usually eat). If he wants a cooked breakfast he can make his own, doesn’t mean you can’t eat anything.

And yet I’m sure my husband uses ‘the force’ when he doesn’t know where he’s going as asking for directions would be sensical 😂

Does he understand how badly your chronic condition affects you? Does he understand how/when you want to be supported?

My adult DD has had a chronic health condition for years but I still get it wrong with regards knowing when I should offer help, when I should leave her to it, whether she wants me to check if she's ok or whether she wants me to stop asking about it.

I wouldn't expect him to cook me a meal but I would ask him to let dog out and grab me some toast. I wouldn't cook anything for him

Why on earth would you cook a proper hot breakfast when you weren't feeling well? Surely the solution is toast or cereal if he isn't going to cook.

My advice on your situation is

1. Use your words
2. Start as you mean to continue. Meaning don't do things early on in a relationship that you aren't happy to continue doing. If you behave like his live in chef you are setting up that dynamic for the future and the longer it goes on the harder it is to change.

Exactly this. Especially in a new relationship.

Yes he should have offered, but I always find these sorts of threads where couples seemingly have a total inability to communicate with each other utterly bizarre. Why didn’t you/can’t you say this stuff to him?! ‘Hey boyfriend, I feel like crap so can you make breakfast?’

He should have offered I think, but also you should have just asked him.

I think the bigger problem is it's far too early in the relationship for you to be doing ALL the cooking. You say he never cooks for you so why the surprise? I'm not saying it's ok, I don't think you should put up with it, but how did it get so one sided so quickly?

Sounds like mixed messages here OP . Three months is very new in a relationship and not everyone would be happy having rummaging through a stranger’s fridge and cupboards.

Communication and expectations are key here x

Three months is far too early for sulky resentment around who cooks breakfast! It’s your home, you’re the host, you cook. If you’re at the stage where you think he should be supporting your chronic condition then it sounds like you’ve moved the relationship much too quickly. If a man was sulking because his girlfriend of only three months hadn’t read his mind and whipped up a full English, she’d be told it was a red flag and to finish with him pronto!

So he's lazy, thoughtless, uncaring and demanding of your labour?

Throw him back, this one isn't a keeper.

but a quick 5 minutes is different to cooking over a stove a proper hot breakfast which is the only thing he eats when he is here.
😆 of course it's the only thing he eats at yours!
He would be lucky to get cornflakes at mine.

It amazes me that there are people in relationships, sharing their bed and home, fucking their partners but don't feel comfortable enough to have a very basic conversation with them. How hard is it to say I'm feeling really shit today, do you fancy making us a brekkie or shall we order in? Grow up.

Together what 16 weeks and you want him to act like hes your husband thats what it sounds like to me.