To feel justified getting a taxi back from the shops sometimes -DH seems IABU

I can’t believe you’re 50 and still give a crap what other people might think.

Do what’s going to make you comfortable.

You could also consider buying bulk tinned goods, pastas, rice etc for home delivery which will save carrying heavy items. Then just do your fresh shop you’re comfortable on the bus with.

It is absolutely not an issue in the slightest! No one will judge you, no one will give it a second thought. Your husband is being totally ridiculous. You could be totally childish one day and and go shopping and bring back one or two light bags of shopping on the bus and when he moans that you haven’t got all the essentials you need you say well I can’t manage it all back on the bus. Point made. Moaning git.

I often see people getting taxis with their shopping at retail parks or outside supermarkets and I don’t think twice about it.

There’s so many other reasons why someone might not be driving to the retail parks that I’ve never once considered that one of those shoppers might be a banned driver.

“Running a car would cost 1 to 2k a year so put that amount to taxis.”

And the rest. it’s not unusual for the insurance to cost that Alone!! Add in the cost of the car, petrol, maintenance and its cost to 3-6k a year.

do I judge you op for getting a taxi with bags of shopping? Absolutely not. But I do judge a man in his 50s who couldn’t be bothered to get a driving licence, dictating who else can use taxis ( especially when they have shopping bags arms are sing Alone as he simply doesn’t want to as he dislikes it). Believe me, it’s not you that comes out of this looking bad.

on a slightly separate note but still related, have you considered a shopping trolley? Makes life so much easier.

DH and I are in our 30s and only run one car, DH needs this for work. I mostly work from home and mostly walk everywhere but get the occasional uber home from work on my office day if the rain is bad and I have my laptop with me, or I’m going a longer distance. It’s much cheaper than running 2 cars overall. I would never think someone getting a taxi had lost their license as there may be lots of reasons someone gets a taxi instead of drives.

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Also this!

That's a very strange thing to think that you would be judged for getting a taxi.

I'm in my 30's and get taxis when I need/ want to.

OP, you have a disability, your chronic pain/ spine issues impact you being able to go out shopping and bring back heavy things. And that's OK.

Your DH needs to accept this. Sometimes there are costs to being less able. Either he should come out and help you carry the bags, or you get a taxi.

Don't accept his nonsense about this, it's your body, you only get one and you need to look after it.

I had to quote this in case you edited.😂Assume racist should be taxi, but it did make me laugh.

She's already said they get groceries online mostly.

Typo? 'Racist'?

I'd be inclined to get heavy items delivered, as you do for grocery shopping. Before I could drive I used public transport a lot, taxis were really only for times/places not served by taxis or other random odd occasions, certainly not routinely. It's up to you what you spend your money on, but once you start getting taxis more and more they start to become more appealing than waiting at a bus stop.

He should be so grateful you are doing the shopping and DIY that he pays for the taxis.

I'm.of the generation where a racist seems a luxury, however in these circumstances it's a necessity. I would not struggle.

I get taxi's all the time, especially from shops like Aldi. I don't think any one will judge you

I have never once loked at someone getting in a cab at the shops and thought bet they have been disqualified from driving. Wouldn't judge anyone for getting a cab that needs one , look after yourself and get the cab

YANBU, and if he wants you to carry on doing all the shopping he should accept that you're going to get taxis sometimes.

Im 64 and use a pushchair, much better than pulling a trolley behind and much easier to get on the bus. I take my pushchair everywhere with me just so that I know I can shop to my hearts content and not have to worry about the weight. Having said this if you want to get a cab home then absolutely do so. When I had children at home and done the big shop I always used a cab home. Look after your joints!!

Literally no one notices or thinks of reasons why people get taxis!
I own a car but I use Uber a lot as I like a glass of wine, never even thought to think any of what you have.

What is he expecting you to do? Carry on with the shopping and be in pain because he has silly ideas? He can either help you or let you get a cab when you need it. He doesn't get to stay at home while you shop for necessary and heavy house hold items and then complain about the cab you got because you didn't want to come home exhausted and in pain.

He can carry the shopping back to your house if he’s that bothered about you getting taxis
does he not care about you at all

He has a choice

1. He can go and get what's needed
2. He can come with you to do the carrying
3. He can let you go and gets what's needed and not concern himself with how you are getting to/from tge shops unless he opts for 1 or 2 above

I don’t drive I get ubers practically every day - probably will use them less when the weather is better!

@VonHally I bought my dm one, plain black, very modern and she's never used it. She asked me if I thought she was old! She's 82.

Definitejy get a cab, but i would also see a private physio about your back pain. Not so that you can carry bags, just for quality of life.