To wonder why women 65+ are all determined that coffee should be mouthscaldingly hot

How often does this really happen though?
An occasional case from someone propping a drive through takeaway cup between their legs maybe.
You have to be severely risk avoidant to decide to drink tepid coffee just in case you have such severe scalding that you need skin grafts.

Speak like what? The request was very much polite. Why should i pay for something i can't eat or drink. Not everyone is alright with just not saying anything. If my food or drink was served cold, I'd ask for another too and i have done so in the past. I don't even eat cold food in my own home, why would i pay for it outside. Outrageous. And OP it's not a generational thing because I'm in my 30s.

Edited to say realised i got off topic. A normal temperature of coffee is not considered cold OP and i have never seen anyone consider it so either.

No woman over 65 that I know complains about hot coffee not being hot enough. What a batshit thread!

Those who get trained properly to make batista coffee are told not to heat the milk over 140f...why do so many people struggle with this? It should be a public announcement. If you want really hot coffee have Americans or filter

It’s not being “soft” to want to avoid potentially ending up needing skin grafts when you were out enjoying yourself.

I genuinely don't get the OP generalisation. My youngest son likes his coffee scalding hot, I don't

How people like a coffee or tea is a preference. Very hot, not so hot, with cow's milk, soy, almond, No milk. Sugar, no sugar. Why on earth make a drink's preference about age?

It's ridiculous.

one of my main takeaways from this is that there are honestly people who think it is rude to return a substandard thing that you have ordered and ask for it to be delivered back to you in the correct condition.

There is zero indication in OPs post, or other subsequent posts, that people are screeching at a totally cowed Barista "get me a fucking hot coffee stat!" rather than "this isn't hot enough, please warm it up"

Indeed one pp has overheard a conversation about how to bring this up to the waiter/server "without offending them". That is batshit. The menus say "hot drinks" and if you get one that doesn't meet your expectations, absent shouting etc, the server should be more than happy to rectify that. In fact, this is the most bonkers thing about the thread. (because, sigh, the agesim & misogyny is standard these days)

@battairzeedurgzome

Turned 50 last year.
I have started pre-warming my coffee mug for pour over or even the office cafetierre...
Sorry OP.

Can I have one from each row please Bob?

(crones also only watch re-runs of tea time quiz shows while drinking their coffee)

Very rare!!

I'm 36.

I prefer my coffee with lots of milk and as warm as possible! Which don't go well together unless you use a microwave or a really effective milk foamer.

I think I'm genuinely tempted to do this! I'm so curious

I think you might be generalising from a sample without statistical significance, but I may have an answer... It's because back in the day, coffee was made with a kettle of boiling water and heated on the stove or brewed for a short time in a jug or in a cafetiere or whatever. So it was hot rather than warm. Nowadays coffee made in certain (not all) modern machines is noticeably cooler than that and some outlets insist that it ought to be.
I'm close to your mum's demographic and stopped using a local cafe because they point blank refused to serve hot coffee. I just don't like it lukewarm.

I’m almost 65 and like my drinks at a drinkable temperature, not nuclear. And was brought up in a family where instant coffee never darkened our door. My dad ground beans and used a Cona thing which I was always fascinated by, the water kind of bubbled up and then down through the coffee. The smell was incredible

What on earth are you on about OP ? Knowing three over 65's doesn't really justify such a sweeping generalisation.

Take a step back and think.

Can't quite work out whether OP is
a) a goady fucker
b) ageist
c) can't stand her mother, or
d) makes crap coffee.

Misogyny and ageism in the same thread. How novel.

This reminds me of my grandparents who would pour boiling water onto their coffee and immediately drink it, black. I know they had dentures but jeeeeeez, I don’t know how they did it.

My mum is 65+ and she always scoops up my coffee cup and cleans it up before I’m finished because she can’t understand the concept of drinking anything less than scalding hot and I prefer to let mine cool down to likewarm before I drink it.

Because it should be!

It can cool down but not heat up!

I am in my 50s. I did burn my mouth on microwaved soup yesterday though so I'm not entirely unsympathetic.

Exactly. Ridiculous generalisation.

What about us older ladies that enjoy iced lattes? :-)

If you have a four oven Aga, one of them is specifically for that purpose.

93° is fine. I would bet my house on me never getting a coffee from a shop (unless i order black filter coffee) anywhere approaching that.

I may get a temperature probe because I'm invested now.

FWIW I'm a Gen Xer (the oldest possible) and i never drank instant coffee growing up. Percolated or done on the stovetop. And always black. Like my tea: black tea poured when the water reaches a rolling boil (never reboil) and green at 80°C (I use a sugar thermometer to check it, i am fussy)

I was at boarding school then in the army - there is no time to faff about letting your tea cool - you sling it down so you get time for a 2nd before rushing off to the next thing. Cool coffee with milk is like drinking a cup of sick.