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Shop allows dogs in and my item is ruined

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shedidwhatnan · 16/01/2025 22:00

Argh. Still annoyed even typing this

Visited a store of a well known aspirational brand today.

They let dogs in and have water bowls outside, encouraging dogs to 'take a sip' and then goes on to say all dogs on leads or dogs in arms are welcome inside

I had just spent good money on something and stopped to have a look at something on the display table near the exit.

The owner seemed to have been having a browse next to me and her dog proceeded to go right next to me! My paper bag from the shop got wet Sad

The store assistant noticed, giggled and went to get some stuff to clean up. No mention of my bag or compensating me when I said 'Oh dear, it's on my bag now'. She just said 'ha, what are they like!' Then ignored me and started chatting to the owner who whilst the cleaning stuff was fetched, kept apologising to me over and over

And in truth, it isn't the dog owners fault really. The ultimate blame is with the shop for allowing dogs of any kind beyond guide dogs into the place.

I asked for a clean bag. Discovered my item also got wet. Shop assistant said 'oh, hopefully it'll just wash out!' And that was that

I was so embarrassed and upset that I left

AIBU to think dogs shouldn't be in shops? I can sort of see the appeal to have a tasteful sausage dog allowed in but not medium+ size breeds!

OP posts:
Pumpkinpie1 · 17/01/2025 14:50

shedidwhatnan · 16/01/2025 22:00

Argh. Still annoyed even typing this

Visited a store of a well known aspirational brand today.

They let dogs in and have water bowls outside, encouraging dogs to 'take a sip' and then goes on to say all dogs on leads or dogs in arms are welcome inside

I had just spent good money on something and stopped to have a look at something on the display table near the exit.

The owner seemed to have been having a browse next to me and her dog proceeded to go right next to me! My paper bag from the shop got wet Sad

The store assistant noticed, giggled and went to get some stuff to clean up. No mention of my bag or compensating me when I said 'Oh dear, it's on my bag now'. She just said 'ha, what are they like!' Then ignored me and started chatting to the owner who whilst the cleaning stuff was fetched, kept apologising to me over and over

And in truth, it isn't the dog owners fault really. The ultimate blame is with the shop for allowing dogs of any kind beyond guide dogs into the place.

I asked for a clean bag. Discovered my item also got wet. Shop assistant said 'oh, hopefully it'll just wash out!' And that was that

I was so embarrassed and upset that I left

AIBU to think dogs shouldn't be in shops? I can sort of see the appeal to have a tasteful sausage dog allowed in but not medium+ size breeds!

The shop should have replaced it , laughing totally unacceptable response.
Have you written and complained?

Keeponkeepingon9 · 17/01/2025 14:47

If John Lewis are allowing dogs in their stores they should employ full time dog watchers to ensure there is no urine or excrement left behind which could cause serious accidents if left lying for too long. Customers bringing their dogs in may not always be aware the dog has lifted its leg to urinate or poo beside the clothes rail if they are concentrating on finding a new blouse. All it would take is for someone to have a serious fall for John Lewis to have to reconsider this dogs allowed policy. It's all wrong with the exception of guide dogs highly trained not to do their business in shops or restaurants. The last time I was in our local store I counted at least 3 dogs on the same floor although to be fair one was small & in a bag with it's head sticking out so not quite so bad.

Han86 · 17/01/2025 14:37

Glad the shop sorted this.

Perhaps shops that allow dogs need something like the breakages must be paid for signs you often see. Not sure how you would word it though.

Nsky62 · 17/01/2025 14:13

CellophaneFlower · 17/01/2025 12:47

Why does it matter what it was? Surely people are entitled to make it out the shop they've just bought something from without it being showered in urine?

Of course

Fizbosshoes · 17/01/2025 13:06

theemmadilemma · 17/01/2025 12:17

Nice outcome.

Sounds like the owner was left down by her staff not knowing the correct action to take in that situation. Hopefully she's now trained them about it!

As a shop assistant they might not have come across this scenario previously - hopefully it doesn't happen often (as it chain it would not be the owner of the shop anyway) or have a default policy.
Some members of staff in shops are not allowed to authorise refunds themselves, if anyone was at fault, it was the dog owner, not the shop assistant.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 13:05

SharpOpalNewt · 17/01/2025 11:10

Just don't shop there, problem solved.

Well, only if the OP had the power to turn back time

OOOtil2025 · 17/01/2025 13:04

TwentySecondsLeft · 17/01/2025 02:15

@IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls

Hmm. Generally humans don’t shit on the pavement, sniff each others arses in public and piss over consumables - although I agree it’s a close call.

Some humans actually stick their fingers up other humans arses. How do you know if they’ve washed them before touching products at aspirational shops? 😂

outdooryone · 17/01/2025 12:56

I too hate dogs in a shop. Other than service dogs (which by the way should be like a Blue Badge Scheme and registered with ID, because at present anyone can claim 'service dog') none should be allowed in.

oakleaffy · 17/01/2025 12:50

shedidwhatnan · 17/01/2025 09:30

Well I just wanted to add that the store manager was aware of this thread, and refunded me immediately (no stock to exchange). She was very apologetic this morning. I wonder if she's a Mumsnet user or if someone she knows just linked her to the thread

She also issued me a £50 voucher so it has been made right Smile

Well that's a great result!

Well done TWC. {We bought some Christmas copper 'seed' lights from there years ago and they are still going strong}

CellophaneFlower · 17/01/2025 12:47

Nsky62 · 17/01/2025 12:42

Depends what the item was damaged?

Why does it matter what it was? Surely people are entitled to make it out the shop they've just bought something from without it being showered in urine?

ruethewhirl · 17/01/2025 12:46

Livelovebehappy · 17/01/2025 00:06

Absolutely not true. At least not where I live. Cafes are starting to allow dogs due to it increasing the footfall through their doors. Most dog owners are out and about on walks on the weekends, and so often utilise the cafes during their walks. Whereby families increasingly stay indoors, as they can’t prise their children away from their devices long enough to get them outdoors. This was clearly portrayed during the last couple of snowy weekends at our local park (with dog friendly cafe). There’s a slope which I remember back in the day would be hugely populated by families taking their kids sledging. When we were there, there were just a couple of families there on their sledges. So sad to see.

Sorry, did you just suggest that dog owners have better life priorities than non-dog-owning parents? No sweeping generalisations there, then...

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:45

Keeponkeepingon9 · 17/01/2025 10:06

If a child slipped on dogs urine and was injured surely the parents would be entitled to sue John Lewis for negligence in having a dogs allowed policy & not taking due care to ensure the mess was cleaned up immediately,or at the very least cordoned off until dealt with.

Only if the child were injured

Nsky62 · 17/01/2025 12:42

shedidwhatnan · 16/01/2025 22:00

Argh. Still annoyed even typing this

Visited a store of a well known aspirational brand today.

They let dogs in and have water bowls outside, encouraging dogs to 'take a sip' and then goes on to say all dogs on leads or dogs in arms are welcome inside

I had just spent good money on something and stopped to have a look at something on the display table near the exit.

The owner seemed to have been having a browse next to me and her dog proceeded to go right next to me! My paper bag from the shop got wet Sad

The store assistant noticed, giggled and went to get some stuff to clean up. No mention of my bag or compensating me when I said 'Oh dear, it's on my bag now'. She just said 'ha, what are they like!' Then ignored me and started chatting to the owner who whilst the cleaning stuff was fetched, kept apologising to me over and over

And in truth, it isn't the dog owners fault really. The ultimate blame is with the shop for allowing dogs of any kind beyond guide dogs into the place.

I asked for a clean bag. Discovered my item also got wet. Shop assistant said 'oh, hopefully it'll just wash out!' And that was that

I was so embarrassed and upset that I left

AIBU to think dogs shouldn't be in shops? I can sort of see the appeal to have a tasteful sausage dog allowed in but not medium+ size breeds!

Depends what the item was damaged?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:40

shedidwhatnan · 17/01/2025 09:30

Well I just wanted to add that the store manager was aware of this thread, and refunded me immediately (no stock to exchange). She was very apologetic this morning. I wonder if she's a Mumsnet user or if someone she knows just linked her to the thread

She also issued me a £50 voucher so it has been made right Smile

Oh that's great. Glad she was nicer and more reasonable than some posters on this thread

Waitinggame42023 · 17/01/2025 12:39

It's getting beyond ridiculous now. I went in to a well-known baby shop over the summer, it was chucking it down outside and I got caught behind a dog and owner at the entrance. Owner asked the shop assistant if her dog was allowed and I couldn't believe it when the reply was 'yes'!

It was bad enough gagging on the wet dog stink (super-strength pregnancy nose) but watching it shake itself off next to the rails of newborn clothes and blankets was a shocker. They charge £28 a sleepsuit and allow filthy, stinking wet dogs to contaminate items intended for babies. I couldn't believe it.

EmmaMaria · 17/01/2025 12:25

InkHeart2024 · 16/01/2025 22:06

Guide dogs don't cock their legs in shops!

Neither do service dogs. Guide dogs are only one type of service dog, and all service dogs are permitted to accompany their owners.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:24

HangryLikeTheHulk · 17/01/2025 08:08

People are saying White Stuff

eww

Eww at White Stuff or the dog pissing on OP's new purchase that she had chosen to buy?

L0bstersLass · 17/01/2025 12:18

BlueRobins · 16/01/2025 22:44

why put your items down near a dog ?

Dogs move around.

OP didn't say that she put her things down next to a dog.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:17

BlueRobins · 16/01/2025 22:44

why put your items down near a dog ?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. All OP's fault

theemmadilemma · 17/01/2025 12:17

Nice outcome.

Sounds like the owner was left down by her staff not knowing the correct action to take in that situation. Hopefully she's now trained them about it!

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:15

NoCarbsForMe · 16/01/2025 22:41

🤣 something that people buy to make themselves feel superior to others.

It's a bit like people who buy "premium" model cars 🤣

It's something that cost the OP more than buying an acrylic jumper from M&S. And a shop where premium service might be expected

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 17/01/2025 12:14

2 questions

  1. What is an "aspirational brand"
  2. Why are sausage dogs (in your mind) tasteful
PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 17/01/2025 12:11

Of course he's going to have to come into a cafe or whatever with me if I am out working for the day. Not everyone's lives are the types of lives where you 'pop out to the shops for a few hours'

By the same token, not everyone's lives are the type where you can have a dog as a pet.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 12:09

Dueanamechange2025 · 16/01/2025 22:08

Honestly this is the owners problem not the shop assistants problem. If my dog pissed on something it would be my responsibility to sort it out not the person working in the place where I happened to be.

In which case retail would grind to a standstill if every issue in the shop become the owners' issue...

CellophaneFlower · 17/01/2025 12:04

RandomButtons · 17/01/2025 11:59

I’m a massive dog lover.

Dogs should be left at home, not in shops, and not in the majority of restaurants/cafes.

I leave my dog at home, and don’t want to deal with other dogs when I’m at shops or having a coffee.

Agree. My dog is well trained but she could clear a table with her happy tail. No way would I subject anybody to her whilst they're trying to enjoy a peaceful coffee 🙈