To feel sad about comments on my hair?

It's beautiful! I have the same hair different colour and have had similar comments. I come from a culture (European country) where women are coiffed and primped and preened and when I return they can't believe my audacity at not subjecting myself to hot blow drys and straightenings, etc YET my bf is bald and nobody says anything about that. It's sad how some societies are conditioned to believing that women should go out of their way to look like some standard template.

Loving this thread and everyone's beautiful waves. 😍

It's lovely. I have v long neither-curly-nor-straight hair which my (much younger) sisters are always hinting I should cut. People are weird and obsessed with straight hair. Mine is soft and thickish and wavy, maybe I look like a witch but I'm okay with that.

Some people think others look odd if they don't share their hyper-groomed look. I dgaf.

Do you keep it trimmed to keep the ends good? That’s all I can think of to explain why people comment (which is rude!)

The Charlotte Mensah products are good for lovely condition. I stumbled across them by chance. I have long white hair and it’s actually shiny.

I think I come under the category of "older woman"...

I used to like my hair straightened, but didn't do it too much, as I was wary of heat damage.... I did use heat protection products.

I've not straightened my hair for at least eight years, and I've embraced my hair texture, and even encouraged the curls by rag rolls etc....

According to "what I'm meant to do, at my age" my nearly waist length hair is pretty much a no-no.

However, since I retired (early through ill health) and no longer have to be in an environment of (mostly) women, I feel less judged, and less inclined to care about who thinks what, about my hair, my fashion choices, my lifestyle....

I so wish I had woken up earlier in my life, and not to be a "baaaaaa" sheep!

The freedom I feel now from being at ease with my own choices, is great.

OP, you do sound pretty confident, so capitalise on that, let the judges judge, and when "they" don't get a reaction from you, they'll get bored and move on to the next person or people.... pretty much what my mother used to advise me to do in the days when I was a kid in the school playground.... shame on those who never grew up to be kind mindful people.

Wow..... so beautiful....

I love your hair , it reminds me of Taylor swifts hair as she goes through the era tour set list , starts off poker straight and often ends with her hair looking like yours in your pic, beautiful and a lovely colour too OP

You seem to have odd hairdressers in the UK. I have been a regular salon visitor all my life and not once has a hairdresser suggested I have my hair straightened. They usually tell me how lucky I am!

I'd love wavy hair like that.

Eta Meant to put @PickAChew

I have similar hair type I have it up a lot (just like my hair out the way tied up) but really like having it down like this in summer !

It's particularly fluffy, tonight. My scalp dictates that I wash it every other day or else it gets quite irritated and smelly but it was happy today, so I left it, happy to avoid 8 hours of wet hair. I had a massive ringlet in that bit of hair until this afternoon then it disintegrated!

It loves the cold weather we had, last week. Shiny with defined curls. Then the thaw started on Sunday and poof! It was bigger than my shoulders, again.

Mine does go all Crystal Tips with no product but unlike OP's, it's very coarse. It needs softening and a bit of protein so I use a conditioner with a bit in and and a leave in with a bit in (kinky curly knot today) before a bit (lot) of gel. My shampoo is full on sulphates, though.

I have very similar hair, albeit slightly curlier, and really like it. It feels like something that is distinctively ‘mine’. I do get a few glances from men, even in my late forties, as I think it has a slightly ‘angelic’ vibe!

However, I do like straightening it too. I do so a couple of times a week and enjoy that look. Sometimes on a curly day I just run my straightening brush over the parting, as the smoothness helps the overall appearance. The best results are letting it air-dry from soaking wet, as it then forms into lovely smooth curls.

I find a very wide-toothed comb (it looks a bit like a claw!) useful for morning tidying. But brushing is also fine too, as curls often seem to re-form themselves after exposure to a bit of humidity.

Solidarity 💪

That looks like lovely hair

OP, your hair is lovely, ignore.

@Ladamesansmerci yours is lovely too and that is one dotey baby.

People are probably jealous, ignore them

OP this is the offending 'wild and unkempt ' hair of mine that the medic was so offfended by. Oh the shame.

I like it

Can I ask what curl lotion you use? I've naturally curly/wavy hair and find a lot of the curl products make it hard or wet looking.

Yes I get this. I grew up in the 80's with super thick, long curly hair when short gaur was fashionable. People still loved my hair.
However now it's literally only acceptable to gave long blow dried hair. I go to the hairdressers once or twice a year and without fail they all want to straighten it after my cut/ colour / highlights.
I like a blow dry but came out of the salon on Tuesday looking like I wearing a cheap wig. So bizarre.

I suspect the comments are due to surprise, especially if people weren't aware you have wavy hair. I have wavy hair too, and I used to use straighteners but got fed up with straightening my hair every day. I now just use a curl lotion after I wash it, and let it dry naturally - the waves look amazing and I love it! If you like your wavy hair, then embrace it! Ignore other people, it's your hair, not there's!

Fact is, OP, you not only have excellent natural hair, you live near a Booths. You truly have the best life! Just luxuriate in how innately lucky you are.

Well I think it's absolutely gorgeous, and I would kill my granny for it!