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Have I been scammed?!

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PlaneNoiz · 16/01/2025 18:26

Part of me thinks yes but part me of me thinks no because I’ve been to her house.

Sold a nice item via a neighbourhood selling group and as it was heavy and I had a car I offered to drop it to the ladies house. She was very lovely and the house was lovely! But when I asked for payment, she asked for my bank details. I’ve sent them through and she says she’ll transfer…but having looked online it seems this is a common scam?!

But worst case I’ve been to her house and know her address. Or are people genuine and will transfer?

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Arlanymor · 17/01/2025 14:12

PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 14:10

Thank you. I’m going to donate part of it to the hospital where my DC were born (the item was something related to them) and the rest using towards my DHs birthday gift!

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That sounds a fabulous plan!

FormerlySpeckledyHen · 17/01/2025 14:12

Excellent news OP.. Just one question remains… what did you sell 💁🏻‍♀️?

LazyArsedMagician · 17/01/2025 14:11

PlaneNoiz · 16/01/2025 19:07

Have asked but no reply. Maybe she’s putting her DC to bed and will reply Later?

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I can't screenshot from my bank account, just so you know.

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 14:11

NovemberMorn · 17/01/2025 14:06

Just a tip that may help.
Talk of scammers is worrying, so if I have to give bank details to anyone, I always use a spare bank account I keep with only a few ££ in it to keep it open.
In the event someone did try to scam my account, they would only have access to a pointless one.

I'm sure it's not foolproof, but it keeps my mind at rest.

That’s a super smart approach. I have two accounts.

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 14:10

Arlanymor · 17/01/2025 14:00

So pleased for you - hurrah! Hope the money goes towards something fun. 🤑

Thank you. I’m going to donate part of it to the hospital where my DC were born (the item was something related to them) and the rest using towards my DHs birthday gift!

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Arlanymor · 17/01/2025 14:10

NovemberMorn · 17/01/2025 14:06

Just a tip that may help.
Talk of scammers is worrying, so if I have to give bank details to anyone, I always use a spare bank account I keep with only a few ££ in it to keep it open.
In the event someone did try to scam my account, they would only have access to a pointless one.

I'm sure it's not foolproof, but it keeps my mind at rest.

That's a really good point - I have a Monzo account that I use that for. My main banking is with Starling. Whenever Monzo gets above £50 I transfer it across.

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 14:08

MurdoMunro · 17/01/2025 14:00

Glad to see your still here @PlaneNoiz. Patiently standing there listening to the queue of people in turn telling you exactly what the one before you just said 😆

It’s humouring me 😂!

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NovemberMorn · 17/01/2025 14:06

Just a tip that may help.
Talk of scammers is worrying, so if I have to give bank details to anyone, I always use a spare bank account I keep with only a few ££ in it to keep it open.
In the event someone did try to scam my account, they would only have access to a pointless one.

I'm sure it's not foolproof, but it keeps my mind at rest.

MurdoMunro · 17/01/2025 14:00

Glad to see your still here @PlaneNoiz. Patiently standing there listening to the queue of people in turn telling you exactly what the one before you just said 😆

Arlanymor · 17/01/2025 14:00

So pleased for you - hurrah! Hope the money goes towards something fun. 🤑

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 13:54

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 13:18

I hope you also learnt the lesson that you are a decent person and a decent judge of character 🙂 (even though not so good at thinking on the spot)

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thank you ❤️

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MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/01/2025 13:18

PlaneNoiz · 16/01/2025 22:52

UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE - THE MONEY IS IN MY ACCOUNT!!!!!

thank you to every single person who replied and supported me. I’ve learnt a big lesson. I thank you all.

I hope you also learnt the lesson that you are a decent person and a decent judge of character 🙂 (even though not so good at thinking on the spot)

ABunchOfBadBitches · 17/01/2025 13:16

PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 10:14

Oh wow really I never knew that I made a mistake? Thanks for enlightening me!!!!

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That’s not a mistake, it’s just common sense surely? You’ve posted on a public forum for people’s input so I’m giving you mine. You got your money so that’s all that matters

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 10:36

StasisMom · 17/01/2025 10:28

I'm very glad OP! If it helps, I fell for a Facebook Oasis tickets scam ... 😶🙄

Oh no! What happened?

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StasisMom · 17/01/2025 10:28

I'm very glad OP! If it helps, I fell for a Facebook Oasis tickets scam ... 😶🙄

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 10:14

GhostOrchid · 17/01/2025 10:07

Glad you got your money OP. Thought you would.

I dont know anything about Revolut but don’t they have a payment link option? I’m with Starling and use it all the time. It just generates a link for a specific amount that you can text or WhatsApp and is v easy for people to pay. You don’t even need to give out your account number and sort code and the person paying doesn’t need to go through the hassle of setting up a new payee. Payment should be instant.

Oh that is really handy, I’ll look into that!

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 10:14

ABunchOfBadBitches · 17/01/2025 09:53

You gave someone an item that you were selling for £70 and actually left before seeing the money in your account? You’re crazy!!

Oh wow really I never knew that I made a mistake? Thanks for enlightening me!!!!

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GhostOrchid · 17/01/2025 10:07

Glad you got your money OP. Thought you would.

I dont know anything about Revolut but don’t they have a payment link option? I’m with Starling and use it all the time. It just generates a link for a specific amount that you can text or WhatsApp and is v easy for people to pay. You don’t even need to give out your account number and sort code and the person paying doesn’t need to go through the hassle of setting up a new payee. Payment should be instant.

ABunchOfBadBitches · 17/01/2025 09:56

How is it confrontational to ask for money that someone has agreed to paying?!

ABunchOfBadBitches · 17/01/2025 09:53

You gave someone an item that you were selling for £70 and actually left before seeing the money in your account? You’re crazy!!

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 09:33

EffortlesslyInelegant · 17/01/2025 09:32

@PlaneNoiz Really don't leave the thread just because you've come across a rather nasty one-dimensional keyboard warrior who only believes a thing if it actually happened to her. There are many people like this hanging about waiting to chuck in their dubious wisdom and they are best ignored or laughed at.

Thank you. As you’ve probably realised in this thread I have very low self confidence and I’m quite an anxious person so I take comments like this personally! Why would I lie about this it would be very weird!!!

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rainbowunicorn · 17/01/2025 09:32

roses2 · 17/01/2025 09:22

Why would she offer that when the money has left her account? If I had paid and the recipient said they didn't have the money I would offer to call my bank at most.

Whenever I have transferred from my current account to my Revolut, it comes through instantly from both a building society account and HSBC account.

This thread doesn't add up.

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Good for you but as many others have said it doesn't always cone through instantly from a normal bank account to Revolut. It's very rude to suggest that the thread doesn't add up just because it doesn't match your experience.

EffortlesslyInelegant · 17/01/2025 09:32

@PlaneNoiz Really don't leave the thread just because you've come across a rather nasty one-dimensional keyboard warrior who only believes a thing if it actually happened to her. There are many people like this hanging about waiting to chuck in their dubious wisdom and they are best ignored or laughed at.

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 09:24

I find it bizarre you’d really think I’d lie on this thread. How rude. Thank you to the kind people. I’ll be leaving the thread now.

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PlaneNoiz · 17/01/2025 09:24

roses2 · 17/01/2025 09:22

Why would she offer that when the money has left her account? If I had paid and the recipient said they didn't have the money I would offer to call my bank at most.

Whenever I have transferred from my current account to my Revolut, it comes through instantly from both a building society account and HSBC account.

This thread doesn't add up.

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She said she would call her bank to check and if there’s any issues she would give me cash. She said she doesn’t do transfers often either! So essentially offered to cancel the payment if it was processing. I think that’s nice.

Thats your problem if it doesn’t add up. I’ve been nothing but honest. Weird comment from you.

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