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Wanting to be alone all the time and irritated - perimenopause??

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Orchidsunlight · 16/01/2025 18:24

Can anyone relate, I am late 40's and recently apart from being irritated a lot i find i just crave to be alone, is this normal? I have a house full of husband and 20 somethings and i feel like screaming , people everywhere, making noise, making all sorts of food in the kitchen, everyone asking me to remind them of things etc, I just want to be alone and sit with a glass of wine and a book, or something on tv i like. My real dream is to live alone in a cottage by the sea, just me my books, my candles, a nice bottle of wine in the fridge, doing what I like, when I like.
Is this normal as i feel quite fed up lately with people around me all the time at home...

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nougatcougar · 16/01/2025 19:23

lol yanbu. I hear you! I'm an introvert anyway but perimenopause has pushed me further into this camp. Meaningful connection is lovely and satisfying still isn't it, but the constant people hanging off you needing things is stifling. I get really irritated by being needed at all now, then a bit affronted if I feel unwanted too. Bounce between over-demand, and perceived rejection. Boom yourself a cottage / books/ wine for a weekend/ week if you can and get it out of your system for a bit. Solidarity!

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