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Moving in together

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krustyburger1 · 16/01/2025 13:35

Would you move in together with someone you've not spent an entire weekend with?

I'd be interested to know what people think. I've been with my DP for 18 months, been friends for 10 years. He's started talking about moving in together within the next year but due to the fact he has his teenage DC with him every weekend, we've never actually spent a full weekend together, just the two of us.

Obviously no issue with him having his DC, but I don't think it'd be wise to move in together when we've never actually spent a solid few days together, alone. DP disagrees.

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loropianalover · 16/01/2025 13:39

He's started talking about moving in together within the next year

What are his reasons for wanting to move in together? Where does he feel you should live (his place, your place, new place)? Does he have a mortgage, how would that be sorted? How would bills be sorted? How is he for money? How are you for money?

Have you ever been on holiday together?

TomatoSandwiches · 16/01/2025 13:38

I wouldn't move in with anyone who has dependant children.

Jellycatspyjamas · 16/01/2025 13:37

What’s the plan for the teenage DC, are they going to be moving in (at least some of the time) with him? That would be a bigger concern for me, though I wouldn’t move in with someone I hadn’t spent extended time with.

TheFlis · 16/01/2025 13:37

Have you never been on holiday together either?

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