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Strange behaviour of school friend mum

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Kikili · 16/01/2025 10:00

I had a strange interaction with a mum at school. Our kids are good friends at school so she invited my child to her house for a playdate. I have never met her and I thought the playdate would naturally include me coming over to her house as we are talking about 4 year old kids here. Anyway, I went to pick my child up from school and when she realized I was coming along she panicked and cancelled the play date.
Im not sure how anyone would feel ok with sending a 4 year old alone to a strangers house...am I overeacting in thinking there's something strange going on?

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Kikili · 16/01/2025 10:10

Thanks for your answers. There is a part 2 to this. That same day, I texted her to say we can arrange a play date at her convenience, either at hers or mine, and she responded by saying that her son cried himself to sleep because the playdate was cancelled and that she'll let me know and of course have not heard from her since.

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devastatedagain · 16/01/2025 10:08

It'll be to do with her living conditions - nothing on you and i don't think it's anything to worry about.

Tellerain · 16/01/2025 10:05

No, I don’t think there is likely to have been any sinister intent. She’s probably like those Mners who struggle socially and freeze in horror at the idea of a visitor to their home. She’d probably, unrealistically, formed the idea in her head that you wouldn’t expect to come, and, as you say, panicked and cancelled because she literally couldn’t handle making conversation.

Fetburzswefg · 16/01/2025 10:03

It is a bit odd. Not nefarious, like I doubt she had bad intentions, but I wouldn’t expect a 4 year old to go on a play date for the first time at someone’s house without a parent being there. Maybe her house was a state and she was embarrassed or something like that.

KenIsAnAccessory · 16/01/2025 10:02

Odd. That would really put me off. Most likely just that the house was a bit of a mess or something but no way I'd be trusting her with my kid til I'd been round and knew her a bit better