Exs partner continus

God I would hate my daughter to be in a class with your son. A 4 year old knows that hitting a teacher is completely wrong and unacceptable. Or at least they should be aware of that, if they've got decent parents.

Your ex partner's new girlfriend is not the problem here. You sound unhinged and your poor children are the ones suffering.

Thank god. I was wondering if the OP had perhaps lived in a commune and never gone to school

People are listening to what you're replying. They're just not automatically agreeing with your choices.

Are you not tired?

Op you're just awful. You really are.

You can’t withhold contact and complain that they don’t have the kids. I know that they piss you off but you need to consider what you want and play the game smarter. If you want help/contact to happen then stop thinking about withholding contact - if he took you to court then he’d get up to 50%. If you don’t want contact to happen then stop complaining that they don’t help/see the kids.

You can’t say that they say mean words but also say mean words too. Your posts make you both sound equally nasty.

You can be polite with an ex without doing things like going on holiday together. Most new partners would prefer that people holidayed separately tbh and your ex clearly agrees.

You need to accept that you aren’t the number one woman in your ex’s life anymore. Things change and that’s normal and you sound like you have a problem because you’ve lost control. Your ex and his partner clearly know how to wind you up (and vice versa) and it sounds like you are half the problem. Work out what you can change and see if you can shift the dynamic. For example consider not replying to every message that they send (I know that this can be hard but someone needs to be the adult) or if you threaten to withhold contact then stop because it’s really toxic and you could end up with a lot less contact too.

OP: I hate my ex's new partner as she's nasty and I don't want her around my kids

Also OP: my ex's partner doesn't do enough she should be helping me more with my kids

Walrus

Isn't there a minimum age to qualify for a Mumsnet account?

It’s saddening isn’t it to hear the circumstances in which some children live, at an age where they should just be nurtured and feel safe and loved. Arguing about who puts them in pyjamas!

Op : he just picks and chooses when he wants to be a parent to his kids

Also OP: Want to add he is grounding my son for a week because he has been excluded again saying he won’t be doing anything fun because he hit his teachers and some other stuff he is 4 I don’t agree so he won’t be going to his dads this weekend

Your poor poor children, I am heart broken for them. Forget about who did what and who is in the wrong, none of you sound like saints

For the sake of your children be the bigger person. Think about what your children need from you to provide stability. You can not change how your ex behaves, but you can change how you react to it. This is toxic

Jeez I miss Jeremy Springer! Remember the good old days where this would be on the stage with hair pulling and that bouncer on standby in case someone lost an eye? This would be perfect for the show.

The obvious question being - do you give them back?

Poor child

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You need to grow up and sort out your shit. You are creating unnecessary drama that your poor child is witnessing. You don't have to like him. You don't need to like his GF. You need to love your kid more than you hate both of them and priorities the child. They don't want to be in the middle of this shit show. You both need to learn to co parent and put your kid first.

Sheer Jeremy Kyle. Those poor kids.

One might describe it as disgusten.

This has got to be a troll, right? 😂 The spelling and grammar getting worse, the comments becoming more stupid.

Your son, aged 4, was excluded from school on 9 December for several days. Now you seem to be indicating that he has been excluded again. For the love of God, stop this bickering and name-calling with your ex and concentrate on getting your children the help they so obviously need! What kind of effect do you think this is all having on them?!

He's already been excluded! Multiple times according to OP.

I'm sure it's all her ex's girlfriends fault though 🙄

Unless he has additional needs, a four year old will understand. Hitting a teacher is actually quite a big deal, and the consequences of doing so should reflect that. Don't wait until he does it again and eventually gets excluded. Not doing fun things for one weekend seems reasonable. But perhaps the tension/bitterness and anger that he is witnessing is causing him to act out.

A lot of people- me included- have read all of your comments. They're not easy to decipher as none of them are written in anything approaching standard English. Each one makes you look worse than the one before tbh.

You are now saying, on this thread, that your son is behaving absolutely appallingly to the extent he has been excluded from school (again) at the age of 4, and your response is to stop contact with his Dad to ensure he avoids punishment!

Your son is out of control. Whatever you are doing parenting wise, it's not working. Stop attacking his Dad's parenting and start sharpening up your own!

Why do they need pyjamas at his house anyway? On your other thread, you said they don't stay at his overnight during the week so what is this nonsense about him putting them to bed in their school uniform?