Exs partner continus

Who's had a short in the toilet and not flushed it? Well it was one of yous. DISGUSTEN.

Wow. What a mess. You both need to grow up. There should be pyjamas at both homes for the kids to use that stay in that home.

you both need to sort your 4 year old as they are struggling probably because their parents are acting this way so they think this is normal.

engage with the school now to get all the help you can put in for your kid or they will be excluded again.

a teacher was whacked over the head with a small frying pan that was in the role play area and had concussion. She was sitting doing a group on the floor and didn’t see kid coming.

also bitten and scratch marks. It’s not acceptable behaviour for 4 year olds to do and they need intervention so direct your effort towards fighting for your kid to have support in school.

Agreed. My son is 3 and a half and would never hit a teacher, he KNOWS thats not okay ever. Don’t get me wrong he’s pushed other kids in preschool if they’ve taken something he wants etc, but this has been addressed immediately, and he’s never lashed out at any of the workers there. Unless theres neurodiversity or something present, a 4 years old old does know what they’re doing.

Four year old do know not to hit a teacher, or anyone for that matter. If he is not SEN, then it's very poor parenting. You should be mortified he hit a teacher. Not condoning it because he's 4.

Also I’d never be sending my children anywhere if the other parent couldn’t provide clothes or pj’s for them that should tell you everything you need to know

What in the Universal Credit is going on here?

FFS stop this childishness and get your kid investigated for neurodivergence. At the very least he’s acting up because you 2 can’t act like adults!

I've seen what happens to 4 year olds like this with parents like his and its not pretty they are in and out of court and one was stabbed recently . I've lived on this estate 13 years and watched this all unfold I'm actually astonished none of them are dead yet , this kid stands no chance with this dimwit for a mother

At 4 he definitely understands! I think i actually lost braincells reading this post if I'm honest.

I’m sorry but at 4 a child should know what they are doing when hitting another child or adult. Exception being if there are additional needs etc.

What happens and how the other parent handles situations actually has nothing to do with you and visa versa when you are no longer together. Unless there is physical abuse or dangers. You punished how you seen fit and so will your ex.

Sounds very much like you are still in the mind set that your ex should be considering you still. Reality is he does not nor should he.

Pj’s if you aren’t prepared to send any and him putting them to bed in their uniform is a huge deal for you then it does come across as rather petty that you won’t send any. I’ve been on this journey myself, and you have to get a grip, let things go that you actually have no control over. You will not win. And you certainly can not use the children as weapons threatening access that’s not nice and you will in fact be the one who will be the one committing parent alienation. Your opinions on his girlfriend are irrelevant

Are you op under a different name now?

Send the pj's back (although I don't understand why the child isn't getting clothes on before coming home?) and address your son's behavior. You sound like very hard work and I suspect the other side of the story is very different

Can someone say chav???

It doesn’t surprise me that there are issues at school with your son’s behaviour when this is how his parents are acting. You’re not showing him healthy behaviours or relationships. Both of u need to grow up and realise who it is that is being affected by all of this.

I'm not sure he is grounding him for a week - I think he's not taking him out anywhere fun when he sees him at the weekend. Which really isn't grounding him and is a perfectly reasonable reaction to a 4 year old who has been excluded from school multiple times for attacking teachers.

I’m confused with this. Firstly you sound very angry and frustrated with your life, and secondly a little envious of your ex and his new partner.

The tit for tat niggles are blown way out of proportion, it sounds like your children are picking up on way too much toxicity and it’s coming out in their behaviour at school. At 4 they know what they’re doing and I am with your ex for his stronger stance against this bad behaviour. This carries on he will be excluded over and over again, that lack of education and continuity for your child paints a negative future for him and upset for you.

It’s now time for you to draw a line under your past, regain control over your children’s behaviour and work with your ex not against him. Just buy a cheap pair of pjs or go on your local FB site and people somewhere local usually give away clothes for free.

However tough it feels for you, be the parent your children need and aspire for them for a brilliant future and where they accept and understand boundaries and respect.

I really hope this is not a genuine post.....if it is real, please get some parenting classes asap and put your child first.

This sounds like a episode of Jeremy Kyle!
You need to have a serious look at why your 4 year old is hitting a teacher, there is obviously a lot going on a home and he isn’t coping. This needs sorting now as it will only get worse!

I feel sorry for the kids caught in the middle of all this. You all sound like idiots.

@charco sorry but why is he even in your house to be able to put them to bed???

At 4 he should know he can’t hit people. You need to stop having a go at your ex’s GF and parent your child

If this is real,I feel heart sorry for the 4 yr old being brought up in this chaotic mess no wonder the child has issues.
I fail to see how the dad can ground him for a week and as a pp said how do you ground a 4yr old.

Contact isn’t based on the whim of a mum who hates her ex and his gf. You don’t have to agree with his parenting choices. I get that it’s hard but he has equal rights and those dc deserve to see their dad. I don’t doubt he’s an arse but you’re not exactly coming across as great either.

Has your son been excluded more than once? He can make consequences at his house, he doesn't believe your (joint) child should have privileges on the weekend due to his behaviour. Maybe his girlfriend has been rude to you- but it also sounds like your e trying to turn the kids against her. He brought the kids back in the clothes they were sent in- he doesn't want to have the clothes he has at your property, maybe that is petty, but he's given you a solution to them not coming home in school clothes- provide pyjamas. Don't engage with his partner if you don't want to, keep engagement with him to a minimum also, but as others have said- this is a long term tho g you need to find a solution to.

The things people have time for when they don't bother to work 🙄

Parenting classes are needed, your child is already feral. ASBO on the way already