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To just want to use a fucking light switch

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Iwrotethelyricstoaxlf · 15/01/2025 22:55

We’ve had Alexa bulbs (other smart bulbs available) for the last few years.

Alexa is getting more stubborn at turning the bloody things on.

Would I be unreasonable to ding the whole
fucking lot out and just use the bloody switch instead.

Its honestly driving me nuts.

OP posts:
ToffeePennie · 16/01/2025 09:17

TorturedParentsDepartment · 16/01/2025 09:15

I've been known to yell "the only bloody thing in this house that listens to me is sodding Alexa" when the kids and husband have been particularly trying.

I swear, she only responds to the male voices in our house! 😂

TorturedParentsDepartment · 16/01/2025 09:15

ToffeePennie · 16/01/2025 09:13

I have the same problem! Except my Gadget-Twat (TM) DH has an Alexa in EVERY room in our house, plus light switches, TVs hooked up to her and basically EVERYTHING!! She hardly listens to me, doesn’t have a clue when I’m speaking to her and ignores all requests. I’ve been known to wake the kids up screaming at her to turn the lights off.
It drives me CRAZY!!

I've been known to yell "the only bloody thing in this house that listens to me is sodding Alexa" when the kids and husband have been particularly trying.

ToffeePennie · 16/01/2025 09:13

I have the same problem! Except my Gadget-Twat (TM) DH has an Alexa in EVERY room in our house, plus light switches, TVs hooked up to her and basically EVERYTHING!! She hardly listens to me, doesn’t have a clue when I’m speaking to her and ignores all requests. I’ve been known to wake the kids up screaming at her to turn the lights off.
It drives me CRAZY!!

HelloIsItMeYoureCookingFor · 16/01/2025 09:13

WereAllGoingOnASomaHolidayNoMoreWorries · 16/01/2025 07:30

I also think the majority of people saying “why on earth would someone need stuff like this” are just ignorant of the benefits for people with disabilities. There’s no point getting arsey (unless it’s that annoying wide eyed faux naïveté) and they just need it explaining. I can’t find the energy to be angry about ignorance if it’s just unthinking rather than deliberately disablist. It does get a bit wearing though sometimes, having to educate people.

Most people aren't using lazy tech because they're disabled! If you're disabled, then any reasonable adjustments are totally understandable.

The vast majority of people can turn a light switch on and off. Movement is healthy. Getting off one's arse is healthy. If you're physically capable of it, then use that ability!

Tcsha · 16/01/2025 09:09

I don’t use the ceiling lights, much prefer smaller lights and up lighters. We have loads, I hated having to go around and switch them all off and on. We’ve had a remote version even before Alexa. It used to be in a remote control, not it’s on our phone or Alexa. I love it, it’s never been an issue, especially a bonus around Christmas with all the Christmas lights!

HelloIsItMeYoureCookingFor · 16/01/2025 09:07

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 09:00

That sounds tough for you. Have you thought about recording a few voice notes on your phone of you saying the most commonly used commands, then you can play those to the Alexa when you’re struggling with speech.

Genius!

HelloIsItMeYoureCookingFor · 16/01/2025 09:06

I can confirm that light switches are very effective and really not too strenuous. Shocking, I know.

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 09:04

RosesAndHellebores · 16/01/2025 08:57

Maybe so but it's an expectation in a high end kitchen.

Oh you’re right, if you can’t afford a “high end kitchen” you shouldn’t aspire to boiling water remotely. Know your place eh?

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 09:01

DaDaDoDaiDa · 16/01/2025 07:41

I can see why turning lights on with Alexa would be a boon to people with some types of disability, or if your mobility was temporarily impaired by illness, but for a fully mobile person it's so little effort to flick a light switch that I don't think it's worth the hassle of setting it up and dealing with the inevitable periodic glitches.

Agreed but it is a fair effort to go round a room fiddling with the switches on three different lamps, so that is where it comes into its own.

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 09:00

WereAllGoingOnASomaHolidayNoMoreWorries · 16/01/2025 07:24

I have the annoyance of all scenarios - am physically disabled so being able to instruct Alexa to turn lights on/off without physical movement is great. However I also have very frustrating periods where my speech is impaired so Alexa doesn’t understand me. She is frequently apparently very sorry but she can’t help me with that request. DH, on the other hand, always understands “please dim the fucking lights” however I pronounce it Smile I know I should just set routines with Alexa but I’m too stubborn and want to cling onto my limited independence as long as possible. I’ll give in eventually no doubt.

(I do also keep candles and wind up/battery powered/solar lights etc in the house as I agree we are becoming over reliant on tech as a society, and our infrastructure is leaving us vulnerable as PPs have said).

That sounds tough for you. Have you thought about recording a few voice notes on your phone of you saying the most commonly used commands, then you can play those to the Alexa when you’re struggling with speech.

RosesAndHellebores · 16/01/2025 08:57

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 08:54

Qooker is a grand plus installation. You can get a basic Alexa for £20 these days.

Maybe so but it's an expectation in a high end kitchen.

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 08:56

Oh, one downside of Alexa is that our 8 year old thinks it’s hilarious to use her to randomly turn off the living room lights from upstairs while we are in there watching TV!

HotCrossBunplease · 16/01/2025 08:54

RosesAndHellebores · 16/01/2025 07:32

When we had our house renovated I had the plugs sited at hip level throughout the house. The builders thought I was nuts. It is so much more practical and everyone who stays is struck by the ease.

We don't have Alexa but can well I can, DH isn't interested operate the heating, alarm, and kitchen downlighter colours from my phone. It's far enough for us.

Someone up thread said about getting Alexa to boil the kettle whilst still in bed. That's what a quorker tap is for!

Qooker is a grand plus installation. You can get a basic Alexa for £20 these days.

midgetastic · 16/01/2025 08:27

For people with no physical disabilities, which is most of the population, not getting up to turn the lights on is just another way to let your body deteriorate- it might seem minor but if it's so minor just stand up

poemsandwine · 16/01/2025 08:23

WereAllGoingOnASomaHolidayNoMoreWorries · 16/01/2025 07:30

I also think the majority of people saying “why on earth would someone need stuff like this” are just ignorant of the benefits for people with disabilities. There’s no point getting arsey (unless it’s that annoying wide eyed faux naïveté) and they just need it explaining. I can’t find the energy to be angry about ignorance if it’s just unthinking rather than deliberately disablist. It does get a bit wearing though sometimes, having to educate people.

I'm disabled. It's only easier in as much as you don't get, "I'm sorry, I didn't understand that request" every other bloody time. It became incredibly frustrating, which is why I ditched mine.

socks1107 · 16/01/2025 08:20

I have two, a porch light and a front room lamp. Mainly so I can switch them on remotely or on timer ready for my daughters getting home in winter or from work late at weekends. I like what I've got but would t add any more

Tel12 · 16/01/2025 08:16

I find that Alexa is getting more difficult to work. Wonder why this would be?

Nannyfannybanny · 16/01/2025 08:16

What is the world coming to! I'm not interested in tech, unless it's forced on me, for good reason. I enjoy the ritual at this time of year when it's dark early,of walking round the living room, switching on the table lamps with "warm" white bulbs and rather lovely hand made glass shades, and the fakey electric log burner. Incidentally,has anyone else noticed,every single film TV series you watch, people go indoors, even in the day time,there's always tables and side lamps on everywhere in the room.

3rdCoffeeThisMorning · 16/01/2025 08:14

For ceiling lights it's just extra faff. I had alexa set up for all small lamps and lights with short commands and timers. Bliss because it was faster than switching 4 things, 2 if which had switch behind shelves, on and off. Came on bit by bit in the evening, "alexa good night" switched them off.
I rarely use main lights anyway in living room.

TorturedParentsDepartment · 16/01/2025 08:13

We had a lot of smart bulbs in the old house, but here we've got silly chandelier type light fittings in most rooms so it's too pricey to do. It worked for us to have them on voice control and I still do things like smart plugs for things like Christmas tree lights to not have to furtle around backs of trees to turn stuff off on a night - plus we had that set to "Call off Christmas" so could practice our Alan Rickman impressions.

Alexa's getting increasingly stupid as time goes on though and harder to recognise voice commands and lots of people are noticing it.

Garlicnorth · 16/01/2025 08:13

fanaticalfairy · 16/01/2025 07:56

Well...
What will happen?

Most 'smart things' have poor security. They're connected to your wifi. This means they're easy to hack into and, from there, into the other devices connected to your wifi. The potential implications are really bad.

This does actually happen all the time. Even if some hacker's only getting trivial details from your devices (ie, not your banking etc), they sell it on to someone who collates big data and will be able to add it to the other information they've got on you - and the people/places you interact with. Like this.

Even worse, there've been numerous hacks into critical infrastructures, governments, hospitals and large organisations via 'smart things'.

That said, mine aren't isolated and I probably should care more.

Millions of people's 'intimate' location data stolen in major hack

Hackers appear to have targeted a US location tracking firm that collects information through smartphones, including precise movements of people.

https://news.sky.com/story/millions-of-peoples-intimate-location-data-stolen-in-major-hack-13286722

Hiddenmnetter · 16/01/2025 08:08

I was right into the IoT when it first came out, smart bulbs and everything everywhere. Google and Amazon were pumping a lot of money into their AI and home assistant tech and it works quite well.

then they started cutting budgets. And now it’s crap. Sadge.

daffodilandtulip · 16/01/2025 08:07

I've got them in lamps because I like the dimming/colours/routines. But I use the app not Alexa. The kids like them in their room as they otherwise have to get out of bed to turn them off at night 🙄😂. But I ditched the rest as Alexa is a pain in the arse.

Createausername1970 · 16/01/2025 08:03

queenofthewild · 16/01/2025 08:00

I like them.

We can control them from a phone app also. Sometimes when DH is WFH I plunge him into darkness remotely. Just for fun.

That is their only useful purpose though.

😁

Our bathroom light is on the outside of the bathroom........

Moonlightstars · 16/01/2025 08:00

Mabelface · 15/01/2025 23:36

I like it. I've got it set to routines where I just say Alexa morning, or goodnight and everything comes on or switches off. Just shorten the commands.

But surely you don't want all your lights to come on? I spent my entire day going around switching off all the lights switches that apparently are impossible to turn off if you're a teenager 😁

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