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Is this woman a genius or a damaged individual?Bonnie Blue

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Emilyisherenow · 15/01/2025 15:54

I've fallen down a bit of a rabbit hole lately reading about Bonnie Blue and her mate Lily Phillips.

Both are Only Fans 'stars'. Who've recently gone all over the internet. One for having sex with 100 men in 24 hours and more recently Bonnie Blue for claiming to have broken the world record by having sex with over 1000 men in 12 hours.

I've seen some of their leaked only fans stuff and it's all pretty tame and dull but also quite gross in my opinion. Lots of group sex with multiple masked men who call them slluts and slap their willies in the womens faces while the women pretend to be having the time of their lives.

Lily Philips imo looks particular distressed in some of the videos. Bonnie looks much more detached from it.

Bonnie is also making the news with some of her stunts and derogatory comments about women. All done for click bait I'm sure.

Anyway, onto my aibu.

Even putting aside the very obvious dangers and health risks. Bonnie Blue is now a millionaire. She could probably retire by 30 and be set for life.

I can't decide whether I think she's extremely savvy and smart to be able to do these things but ultimately scone a very rich woman or whether she's deep down very distressed and damaged and will suffer long term.

Do you think you could do any of the things this woman has done if it guaranteed you'd be a millionaire in a few years?

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itsstillmehere · 18/01/2025 12:51

Let's not pretend she is a savvy businesswoman or someone who just likes having sex. The sheer reality of this is that sex is a mucky, fluid filled business and that she and the men are indulging in sloppy thousands in quick succession. The actual physical act of this is revolting.

Thelnebriati · 18/01/2025 12:39

I just posted this elsewhere; Games People Play, 'Stop Me If You Can', a variation on 'Poor Me';

''This 'stop me' game is a common pattern within alcoholism where the alcoholic seeks attention and has 'I was drunk' as an excuse for any misbehaving.
Legitimization and perpetuation happens through well-meaning organizations...the addict gets to tell their story over and over, and receive attention and sympathy as a reward.
When A's get together they indulge in pastimes such as boasting about what/how much they have consumed and how terrible their hangover/withdrawal is.
B's and C's can also play games together, such as 'Ain't it awful'.''

changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/games/stop_me_game.htm

3luckystars · 18/01/2025 11:58

It’s very hard to watch someone putting themselves in harms way, but I think you are all correct that she is definitely going to physically injure herself if she does this.

The sex side of it, that’s up to herself and I definitely wouldn’t judge a person for that, but she is physically going to injure herself now and I have this feeling of wanting someone who loves her to step in and protect her now. There is also a feeling of ‘who has she surrounded herself with’

She is one of us and is a child of the world. it’s like watching an accident happen to her.

Just if someone could say to her young mind, what’s the rush. Slow down. Money isn’t everything. Gather yourself. Enough for now. Please don’t do this now. Slow down.

TwistedWonder · 18/01/2025 11:48

IDontHateRainbows · 17/01/2025 22:08

I think they actually did that in the olden days when a woman was promiscuous, especially if from a 'good' family, she'd be carted off to the asylum never to see the light of day again

An aunt on my dad’s side of family had a baby at 16 back in the 1930’s (I think) and was put into an asylum. She was a maid to a wealthy family and think they had her sectioned to get her out of the way - the son from the family was the father.

She became institutionalised and was never released. She died in the psychiatric hospital in her 60’s after never seen freedom.

DiscoHippo · 18/01/2025 11:37

I felt sorry for Philips when the film about her came out recently. But now, with the face thing and the anal sex thing…I’m just angry, and weary of her stupidity.

re genius - she’ll be spending half of her ‘fortune’ on a proctologist and a therapist in years to come. She’s as thick as mince.

GrammarTeacher · 18/01/2025 07:45

IDontHateRainbows · 17/01/2025 22:08

I think they actually did that in the olden days when a woman was promiscuous, especially if from a 'good' family, she'd be carted off to the asylum never to see the light of day again

Yes, one of the Kennedy sisters was treated that way. And lobotomised. The sexual behaviour of her brothers on the other hand…

IDontHateRainbows · 17/01/2025 22:08

AliasGrace47 · 17/01/2025 18:22

I don't like the posts saying she must be mentally ill & needs to be sectioned. She may, or maybe an outlier. Either way, sectioning women for sexual behaviour outside the norm, even though I get that feeling when I read of women using sex to self harm, is a v slippery slope.

I think they actually did that in the olden days when a woman was promiscuous, especially if from a 'good' family, she'd be carted off to the asylum never to see the light of day again

AliasGrace47 · 17/01/2025 18:22

I don't like the posts saying she must be mentally ill & needs to be sectioned. She may, or maybe an outlier. Either way, sectioning women for sexual behaviour outside the norm, even though I get that feeling when I read of women using sex to self harm, is a v slippery slope.

AliasGrace47 · 17/01/2025 17:47

IkeaJesusChrist · 15/01/2025 17:31

Yeah I've heard of things involving literal shit.

Urgh why? Why are these women so desperate they lose their self respect? As for the men ... 😡

3luckystars · 17/01/2025 15:59

She definitely will be making that much.

DerekFaker · 17/01/2025 15:57

Bonnie will be making a million a month this year

Hmn not so sure about that claim either.

Pussycat22 · 16/01/2025 23:21

StrawberryDream24 · 16/01/2025 16:47

That's assuming that that woman was a prostitute....which is a pretty weird assumption.

I think not.

3luckystars · 16/01/2025 22:31

Some of them are not using protection either. So even if she is mentally fine, it’s only a matter of time before she catches something.
Bonnie will be making a million a month this year so it’s a risk she must think is worth taking.

Bonnie had wanted to be a midwife too. That’s an amazing coincidence.

ARealitycheck · 16/01/2025 22:24

theworriermum · 16/01/2025 22:17

If men wanted to join a group of five, then they had two minutes with Bonnie Blue. If men wanted to do it alone, then they had 30 to 45 seconds with her. Bonnie Blue apparently only took two three-minute breaks throughout the whole 12 hours. Her team confirmed to Fabulousus*^ magazine that she slept with the very specific 1,057 men because there were 57 men still in the queue before the 12 hour time period was up, and she didn’t want to disappoint them

I just read this online on The Tab.com (came up on FB). This makes no sense. How can anyone only take 2 x 3 min breaks in 12 hours? The human needs to drink water and go to the toilet every 3-4 hours? Pushing it maybe 6 hours but how did she manage that... drinking water on the way to the WC? Not healthy at all holding your pee in that long. She willl have caused herself a UTI.

Pretty sure there will be any number of us that have worked a shift and never had time to scratch our arse or go for a pee. For drinking I'm imagining she was in doggy with somebody holding a water bottle like those on bike races. 😂

User32459 · 16/01/2025 22:21

theworriermum · 16/01/2025 22:17

If men wanted to join a group of five, then they had two minutes with Bonnie Blue. If men wanted to do it alone, then they had 30 to 45 seconds with her. Bonnie Blue apparently only took two three-minute breaks throughout the whole 12 hours. Her team confirmed to Fabulousus*^ magazine that she slept with the very specific 1,057 men because there were 57 men still in the queue before the 12 hour time period was up, and she didn’t want to disappoint them

I just read this online on The Tab.com (came up on FB). This makes no sense. How can anyone only take 2 x 3 min breaks in 12 hours? The human needs to drink water and go to the toilet every 3-4 hours? Pushing it maybe 6 hours but how did she manage that... drinking water on the way to the WC? Not healthy at all holding your pee in that long. She willl have caused herself a UTI.

Is there anything verified about any of this? Sounds like she's made it up.

The Lily one was all filmed and she had the cameras with her.

theworriermum · 16/01/2025 22:17

If men wanted to join a group of five, then they had two minutes with Bonnie Blue. If men wanted to do it alone, then they had 30 to 45 seconds with her. Bonnie Blue apparently only took two three-minute breaks throughout the whole 12 hours. Her team confirmed to Fabulousus*^ magazine that she slept with the very specific 1,057 men because there were 57 men still in the queue before the 12 hour time period was up, and she didn’t want to disappoint them

I just read this online on The Tab.com (came up on FB). This makes no sense. How can anyone only take 2 x 3 min breaks in 12 hours? The human needs to drink water and go to the toilet every 3-4 hours? Pushing it maybe 6 hours but how did she manage that... drinking water on the way to the WC? Not healthy at all holding your pee in that long. She willl have caused herself a UTI.

User32459 · 16/01/2025 22:05

ExtraOnions · 16/01/2025 21:41

…I’ll be happy up bet, that in a couple of years she’ll be penniless - probably fucked over by (yet another) man.

What she does is up to her, personally I think the whole thing is beyond sordid.

She's just the next Katie Price. Car crash of a life but anything for attention and money.

ExtraOnions · 16/01/2025 21:41

…I’ll be happy up bet, that in a couple of years she’ll be penniless - probably fucked over by (yet another) man.

What she does is up to her, personally I think the whole thing is beyond sordid.

User32459 · 16/01/2025 21:34

housethatbuiltme · 15/01/2025 18:58

I support women rights to do as they want with their body, I think its dangerous to let someone else decide whats 'ladylike'. I know I have known porn stars, prostitutes/escorts and strippers etc... through my old job and they where seemingly normal/lovely people.

That said in general porn factually has the highest suicide rate of almost all jobs, in fact one study (although not conclusive fact) claimed the average life span of a porn star is under 40 years old. It does often attract people with 'issues', its very 'visible' (unlike stripping or even prostitution where people can often give it up and start a new life easily so once famous it will always be with you) and depending on what 'type' people do can have lifelong medical issues (incontinence can be common for example, I have encountered people who had nasty accidents with sharp acrylic nails etc...).

The more professional/famous the more likely to commit suicide later. So I think worrying these girls may have or develop mental issues is fair.

Some people are just very savvy business people though, a lot of people can make a mint on things that do not effect their mental health at all. If anyone wanted to buy I would HAPPILY be a foot fetish model (actually much more work than people assume) and to be honest Ive always thought people selling their used knickers, shoes, tights etc... are kind of genius (no real down sides, making bank and no laundry lol).

The thing is women in porn are disproportionately likely to be damaged to begin with and have had difficult/abusive childhoods.

It's a bit different these days because it's become so normalised to set up an Only Fans account and even the typical girl next door is doing that, but then they've got control over what content they put out. Girls like Bonnie and Lily are just trying to drive attention any way they can to make more money.

RobinMcfly · 16/01/2025 19:14

louddumpernoise · 16/01/2025 19:07

Lol! not in my case, when my DD said to me in an argument that "i didn't know what young people do" ...... i told her there is nothing you could do say or think that either i ve done/seen or heard about.

But i do wish these girls on OnlyFans etc would lead a little more wholesome lives, Lily Phillips trained as a midwife, she dropped out... my Mum was midwife, she said it was the most rewarding job in the world.

Phillips might surprise herself if she stopped and tried something else, before its too late for her, these should be the best years of her life, so i hope she knows whats she is doing to herself.

i think rightly or wrongly some people feel that companies screw them over ££ wise, lets be honest we get sold the usually do your best work hard and youll get £££ and its bull, yes some may find their career rewarding and ill admit i loved my previous role, but when its £££ wise when you see footballers on x amount, or film / tv celebs on x amounts then rightly or wrongly there will be others too that want a slice of the cake and as they say sex sells, and when people realise with eg onlyfans or the industry itself, how much can be made, well then you will get some people that think pickles to it slaving away at tescos, or asda for x hours for pittance when i can do onlyfans and get £££ instead.

meloncotton · 16/01/2025 19:08

ARealitycheck · 16/01/2025 17:22

In this world you do not get to dictate who has consensual sex with who and how many.

I know, but I can state that their choice has a negative impact on my sex class.

louddumpernoise · 16/01/2025 19:07

RobinMcfly · 16/01/2025 18:35

because most parents presume mostly there offspring are angels or x would not behave like that etc

Lol! not in my case, when my DD said to me in an argument that "i didn't know what young people do" ...... i told her there is nothing you could do say or think that either i ve done/seen or heard about.

But i do wish these girls on OnlyFans etc would lead a little more wholesome lives, Lily Phillips trained as a midwife, she dropped out... my Mum was midwife, she said it was the most rewarding job in the world.

Phillips might surprise herself if she stopped and tried something else, before its too late for her, these should be the best years of her life, so i hope she knows whats she is doing to herself.

ARealitycheck · 16/01/2025 18:36

louddumpernoise · 16/01/2025 18:32

Why? i presume most parents were also young once or have they forgotten?

The former porn actress i knew wasn't damaged in anyway, she said "i was screwing around most weekends and holidays, so i thought i may as well get paid for it"

It was a reply to the post about a mothers disgust if her son had took part. But yes, I do think there are some parents who were either saintly as youngsters, or conveniently forget their own misdemeanours.

RobinMcfly · 16/01/2025 18:35

louddumpernoise · 16/01/2025 18:32

Why? i presume most parents were also young once or have they forgotten?

The former porn actress i knew wasn't damaged in anyway, she said "i was screwing around most weekends and holidays, so i thought i may as well get paid for it"

because most parents presume mostly there offspring are angels or x would not behave like that etc

ARealitycheck · 16/01/2025 18:33

Moonshinebaby · 16/01/2025 18:21

It massively reduces your dating pool though.

Many men wouldn't bring a Bonnie Blue home to meet their parents.

I think you would be surprised at how many young men would. Especially now that attitudes towards young women having sex are changing.

Look at Julio Iglesias who was considered a catch among ladies of a certain age worldwide despite having the reputation of having slept with thousands of women.

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