Therapist won’t let me cancel!

What regulatory body is she registered with op for example BACP? Is one listed on her website?

What you're describing sounds highly unprofessional... counselling (depending on the approach) is generally about coping strategies and reflection so I don't think she should be giving you advice as such. Plus - if your finances mean you can't afford her then she needs to either accommodate that or refer to on to someone cheaper. £75 a session is a lot. To take 30 minutes of your session challenging you on how much therapy SHE thinks you need is highly unprofessional and I'd guess this is more about her own finances than your wellbeing. It's hard for us to say given its just the two of you in the room so we're only getting your perspective- but if she's making you feel uncomfortable and under pressure then something isn't right and I'd be looking to change therapist. Really a good therapist is looking to help you feel empowered and to build your own resilience whereas this sounds like she's working towards dependency which is not healthy. I'd report her as well.

WOW!. that is terrible. She sounds really unprofessional. I think you should stop seeing her immediately and block her number.

Why are you sticking with her until the end of May if you’re under no contractual obligation? Cancel her immediately, block her, and report her. She’s incredibly unprofessional.

I went to therapy and it was in a female therapist’s house. It was beautiful.
She said she hoped I didn’t mind that she had two furniture deliveries that were late. She literally stopped when I was speaking to let the delivery men in.
She also had a huge, large dog that barked its head off.
Two seasons in and I never went back!

And this too.

I agree with many pps that you need to cancel with immediate effect. No “at the end of” no further session. And tell her why. She’s already breached any contract by not actually providing the service paid for!

Please cancel now, send the email and ignore any further communication from her. You are perfectly within your rights to do so.

I would be complaining to her professional body and requesting a refund for some sessions as it sounds very dodgy to me

@Moocow1995 I can't believe what I'm reading here!

She sounds absolutely awful and desperately unprofessional.

Definitely report her.

Endless counselling is often not useful - a short series of concentrated sessions is much better.

She sounds hopeless and is probably relying on your money.

Report her as others have said.

@Owly11
I understand that but she agreed to it.
Sessions were held over Zoom.
I said it didn't have to be the same time each week, I could be flexible with times and dates if that suited her better but could only afford twice monthly sessions or thereabouts.
She didn't change her mind prior to our next session but ended them after our first bi-weekly session for reasons unknown.

I have had a good therapist, some ok and some really quite awful. And she I would put in the latter category. She never even remembered my name.

She's being incredibly unprofessional. Is she registered with any regulating body? I'd record a couple of sessions and then submit a complaint to her awarding body.

I had a therapist 30 years ago who manipulated me into staying with her for four long, tedious, getting-nowhere years. It became clear that I was a regular income for her: she worked from a lovely home with, I'm guessing, a large mortgage. After that experience I would never, ever enter into open-ended counselling or therapy. Six weeks, ten weeks, yes — and then another six or ten weeks if things are going well.

After two years, this has become dysfunctional. You need to leave anyway and if you feel you still need therapy, find a new therapist.
It is standard to have it once a week but the whole point of therapy isn’t for you to be given advice, it’s for you to work with your therapist to start making better choices, building your self esteem so that you can build a better future for yourself.
Two years in, therapy can turn into a bit of a dumping ground, where you save all your rubbish for the session, dump it and then the next one comes around - that’s just my experience by the way!
If a client can no longer do the same number of sessions due to finances a therapist should either work around it, or suggest you find a new one.
Therapy should be a place where you also reflect on your life, decisions and experiences with a view to leaving therapy feeling freer and more independent.
Part of you getting better now is breaking up with your therapist!

YANBU

Any conversation she needs to have with you of this nature - where it is in her interests to increase her income by convincing you to have more sessions - should be done in time you are not paying for. In time you are paying for it is totally inappropriate for her to effectively use YOUR time for HER sales pitch.

I don't think you can trust her though so should cease all sessions.

Your therapist has been taking advantage of you and pressured you into paying when you can't afford it. As above, stop going and report her if you wish.
However, it sounds like there's some more work to do on your side in advocating for yourself, enforcing boundaries and saying "No"?

What the utter fuck have i just read? Tell her to get stuffed, block her unhinged ass and report. This is appalling.

Surely in this situation the client would just cancel and the therapist wouldn’t gain anything from them?

It's perfectly acceptable for a therapist not to agree to every other week sessions. Some work on a weekly basis only - that might be to do with theoretical orientation or it might be to do with diaries and room bookings. As long as the therapist is clear in the contract that they only do weekly therapy it's absolutely fine to decline a requested change to the contract.

i agree with everyone else. Time to stop going to her. There’s something very wrong with this situation.

Anybody can set up a business and call it counselling. No qualifications needed.

Is she BACP registered?

She's taking the piss.

Other therapists are available!

Very unprofessional. All therapists should be in therapy themselves to navigate all that is put upon them. All the good ones will be doing this.

Yours sounds like she never has. She should be pleased that she's helped your life to progress so much that you're now expecting a baby. She should be letting you go, so you can 'fly'.

Ditch her immediately, she needs help.

Definitely get a new therapist. You're not under contract. Send her an email, cancel your direct debit, stop going. That's it.

When I read threads about therapists on here I'm so grateful for mine. Mine would NEVER do this, the session is 100% about me, if I can't attend for whatever reason she accepts it. If I cancelled tomorrow that would be that.

What training has she had? She sounds like she's over stepping professional boundaries, which should be a huge part of her training. the therapeutic relationship can't work properly without them, so it'll be affecting your progress for sure.

Just cancel and move on, May is ages away, you don't owe her anything.

She sounds awful! Is she trying to say you need the sessions or is she desperate for the business? And you are paying £75!! In any case, just stop going to her completely.