To ask if you’re happy and healthy?

I’m very happy. I have a wonderful son and another baby due soon, my husband is a good, kind man and we have much to be thankful for. We have a lot of stress too but that’s just life. I am and have always been an optimist. Health wise, that’s complicated. I’m very robust mentally but physically I’m a bit of a disaster zone. Nothing life threatening but I am chronically ill which causes varying levels of pain and exhaustion, which is super fun. It is what it is I suppose!

I'm not healthy, and haven't been since 1990/91. On top of that I will most likely have to have surgery to remove some pre-cancerous tissue. I've been told it's nothing to worry about, but I'm beginning to feel like my parents in their last years, with all the hospital appointments. Still, I have many things in my life that I enjoy. I'm not down at all, it just feels a bit odd when I think about it.

I seem to be getting lots the old-people's illnesses (in my 50s), except arthritis in my hands. I'm more grateful for that than anything in the world. I'm so lucky.

I edited this as I don't have all the old people's diseases, but my collection is expanding nicely. 🤣

I’m healthy, so is DD and DH.
DM isn’t great, she’s 82 and not very mobile, in pain due to suspected cancer but she is very happy despite this.
My dog isn’t too good due to arthritis but he’s a jolly boy.

I am ok. Trouble is I overthink and worry about the future with DM and the dog. I’ve probably been worrying for two years now that something will happen with one of them. Rather than enjoying what time they have left. I don’t overly love my job, it wasn’t what I thought it was going to be unfortunately.
Financially robust, mortgage paid off and savings put aside.
Strong friendship group.

Need to lose a stone maybe two!

Not very, on both counts. I have a lot to be thankful for but general overwhelm coupled with various issues is definitely getting me down at the moment.

Nope. But working on it. Prioritising mental health first but plan to sort out diet and exercise this year too. I'm a healthy BMI but with unhealthy habits that need sorting.

No, not really had two family deaths in the space of 6 months. My bits are on fire 🔥 and I have Eds.
right now I could do with being put down.

However things will improve with time, so I just carry on.

Oh no, I really didn't mean to say that at all. Very glad you are happy now. Maybe DD will be too if she can get past this stage.

Sorry to derail the thread.

Happy, yes, healthy, not at the moment cancer last year and a lot of knock-on effects after this, just a lot of things hurt, and I feel old before my time.

Neither, but optimistic

Yes, I'm naturally a very content person who is very pleased with my lot. My health is good (as far as I know). I don't take my health for granted at all as I had cancer in the past. To me, health is wealth.
I do have some worries at the moment but am managing to be positive for now.

I'm sorry, it sounds really hard. I didn't mean to suggest that it isn't.

Yes to both.

I'm a single mum. Three and a half years ago I was dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Fearing for my dc, fearing for myself, my nicely organised world had come tumbling down. It was a real reminder of what actually counts.

Three years down the line my ds is now a 6' teen with 10 good GCSEs who will survive, whatever happens to me. I've finished treatment and am NED. Back to running twice a week. Life is good. 🤗

Healthy, no not at all at.

Happy, not particularly happy at the moment.

All sounds a bit doom and gloom at 52.

DD has had it since 15 and so many of her decisions have been influenced by this. It's very unfair, and I feel the unfairness daily. She can't do what many of her friends are doing.

I'm not an expert on these things and obviously each condition and person is different, but I have had this illness since my childhood and because of that, I was able to make more informed decisions around suitable careers/ type of lifestyle from the very beginning of my adult life and I think that helps.

I am glad to read this. I am unhappy because my DD has a chronic illness which is not well-controlled at the moment. It's very hard to see her suffer so much when so young.

I would be ok if my own health were poor, as I feel like I have accomplished most of what I need to do.

Yeah, I'm really happy, it's kind of my natural state and what I ping back to in the absence of something awful happening. I'm not particularly healthy but my chronic illness is pretty well controlled at the moment.

No and I think schools should focus on this more, looking after yourself to make sure you are happy physically and emotionally

DH and I talk about this - we've got to a stage in life where are jobs are well paid but not especially stressful, our families don't need a lot of support - no grandkids or infirm parents yet (I've been there with infirm parents and it's yet to come for him).

We live somewhere a bit boring but safe, we have a good network. It's a good stage of our life and we remind ourselves of that and that we are lucky.

Thank you.
I found Conscious Uncoupling book very helpful and I had 4 counselling sessions to talk through my emotions and grief. Essentially, the conscious uncoupling method is about acknowledging your feelings (actually naming them), learning lessons about your own role in a breakup of the relationship so that you can get out of the "victim" mindset and empower yourself to move forward, unhooking from previous trauma and forgiving your partner. You can them move on without negative attachment bonds. It's definitely a rocky road with a lot of "why should I do that when he..." along the way. But once you give into the process it's incredibly healing.

Happy yes, I have a pretty good nature for that, I'm always happy.

Healthy, generally also yes, but I think I could do better. Although I'm happy, I'm feeling a bit low energy these days, and I don't like that.

But overall yes, I'm very lucky to have good MH.

No. Neither.

No and no. High levels of stress, lack of sleep and too many convenience foods because of lack of time.

Hopefully will be in a couple of months, though. Husband is very poorly and having life-saving surgery in 10 days. Once he’s recovered, I’ll have time to address my personal needs, get out and exercise again and concentrate on home cooking and catching up on so much lost sleep.

Happy yes, healthy yes until a month ago but I'm slowly getting better again.

That being said I had two life-threatening hospitalisations in 2011 and 2015 and since then have found it much easier to have a positive and grateful attitude towards my health. Before those years I completely took my health for granted!

I admire you. Can you share how you were able to move through?