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He had no trousers on?

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

He had no trousers on?
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biscuitandcake · 15/01/2025 10:15

mollymile · 15/01/2025 10:08

We have male and female Posties, both often wear shorts, neither have nicely shaped legs imo. I would prefer that both covered their legs. Not that anyone will ask me.

Outside work like being a postie is different, because it is physically active so you can get hot, and it involves being in the rain. So shorts are actually more comfortable and practical. It wouldn't be fair to demand trousers because it looks better (I know you weren't). Whereas in an office I think if a bloke wants to wear shorts he should at least shave his legs like women apparently have to!

mollymile · 15/01/2025 10:08

We have male and female Posties, both often wear shorts, neither have nicely shaped legs imo. I would prefer that both covered their legs. Not that anyone will ask me.

tolerable · 15/01/2025 09:59

fully clothed.not really partially naked is it?
not appropriate for meeting politians?(wholesome re they)maybe she lddered her tights..the beige troussers re yuk

biscuitandcake · 15/01/2025 09:46

I think also women don't WANT men walking around with no trousers on. If I was in an office and a male worker wondered in with no trousers on so almost everything was on display I would feel very uncomfortable and to some extent threatened. Be careful what you wish for really, if you start pointing out the difference very weird men might use the "equality" argument to make us all look at their thighs. I don't think women should ever feel pressured to "dress sexy" or anything. But too far the other way and you end up with women in sacks so as not to distract the men.

But in this photo I am more distracted by the massive tit in the foreground.

BySpryRubyBee · 15/01/2025 09:46

I would show my legs at work but probably only from the knee down, the same as a man wearing shorts in summer. The outfit she has on isn’t really appropriate for meeting politicians imo. The way I look at it is that it’s about having respect for everyone around you. If you’re there in a serious capacity as a professional with fellow professionals and have flesh on display, you’re there to work and are putting everybody else in the room, men and women, in a position where they have to actively avoid looking at your outfit so as not to be seen as unprofessional. None of my close male colleagues are “letchy” and they would want to be respectful to me whatever I was wearing but equally I wouldn’t want to make them feel uncomfortable or to feel uncomfortable myself so I just wouldn’t wear that outfit. Drinks after work, different story.

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:36

Boomer55 · 15/01/2025 09:34

TFL had their “no trousers or skirts “ day last Friday. 🤷‍♀️

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyevk5ng7eo

I see! Maybe the women was joining in and the man was trying to join in but without actually joining in!

Ps. Beige trousers and flesh coloured clothing should be banned! Hideous! :)

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Boomer55 · 15/01/2025 09:34

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

TFL had their “no trousers or skirts “ day last Friday. 🤷‍♀️

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyevk5ng7eo

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:31

Agix · 15/01/2025 09:28

Women are often required to look sexy. The male gaze has permeated the work place to the point where it's commonplace for women to be wearing short skirts and low tops. Men don't do it because most men don't want to see other men dresses like that.

It's all about what men want.

Not saying that particular woman dresses that way for that reason. I'm just giving reason for why it's normalised. She looks fab.

I think you are absolutely right.

I can't imagine a man standing for a picture in a pose similar to the woman's, and with leg showing. It would b really weird and just makes me realise how strange and unequal males and females are in the workplace .

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CynicalSunni · 15/01/2025 09:31

I did a double take at the swimming pool cause a girl had a beige swimming suit.

Out of the corner of my eye kept seeing a naked girl going to the diving board. Then realised oh its beige swimming suit again

Agix · 15/01/2025 09:28

Women are often required to look sexy. The male gaze has permeated the work place to the point where it's commonplace for women to be wearing short skirts and low tops. Men don't do it because most men don't want to see other men dresses like that.

It's all about what men want.

Not saying that particular woman dresses that way for that reason. I'm just giving reason for why it's normalised. She looks fab.

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:28

Psm and this was my initial view before I looked properly and saw the bottom.of the picture!

He had no trousers on?
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