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He had no trousers on?

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

He had no trousers on?
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ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 15/01/2025 11:17

Sorry, I don't agree. Women have more freedom than men in choosing their work attire. I also find it pretty sexist to suggest that people will laugh behind her back about her clothes. Has it ever occurred to you that these women might WANT to wear the clothes they're wearing?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/01/2025 11:15

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 15/01/2025 11:07

I had a corporate job and never dressed 'sexy' as I wanted to be taken seriously...
However, I went on mat leave, returned and the office slag got promoted over me.
Everyone agreed that she was useless but she was more popular with the all male bosses (2 of which she had affairs with...)
So, I can totally see why women feel they need to be attractive in the work place.

The office slag?

With women talking about female colleagues like this who needs men to keep us down?

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 11:14

"If people are laughing at her behind her back it sounds like thier issue not hers."

Do I really need to answer this? There's a code of appropriate business tire for pity's sake. Surely you can see how daft this looks in this setting! It's a political lobby group not a nightclub.

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/01/2025 11:10

She looks really bored.

AssaultedCamarel · 15/01/2025 11:08

Nothing wrong with either outfit if you choose not to sexualise them. If you choose to sexualise the outfit or the person, you are the one making that choice.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 15/01/2025 11:07

I had a corporate job and never dressed 'sexy' as I wanted to be taken seriously...
However, I went on mat leave, returned and the office slag got promoted over me.
Everyone agreed that she was useless but she was more popular with the all male bosses (2 of which she had affairs with...)
So, I can totally see why women feel they need to be attractive in the work place.

jackstini · 15/01/2025 11:07

Well @Boomer55 - I didn't think much surprised me but you have given me a wtf moment this morning! 🤣🤣🤣

TFL had their “no trousers or skirts “ day last Friday. 🤷‍♀️

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyevk5ng7eo

Snowmanscarf · 15/01/2025 11:02

I think the Mann stands out because he’s dressed differently to the more conservative men behind him. He’s in ‘day at the races’ garb, whilst the other men are in business suits.

The female’s dress code is wrong for that meeting, but as a previous poster said, kinda sassy as well.

AwaitingFreedom · 15/01/2025 11:02

Men with no trousers = flashers or sexual predator = be on high alert.
Women with no trousers = normal Friday/Saturday night = ignore.

It's all down to self preservation.

Agapornis · 15/01/2025 10:58

The most terrifying thing in that photo is the brainwashed young people.

Didn't we all make questionable workplace fashion choices in our early 20s?

TheYeaSayer · 15/01/2025 10:56

But in this photo I am more distracted by the massive tit in the foreground.

😂😂

MrsSunshine2b · 15/01/2025 10:54

I don't know what you're on about. She's clearly wearing shorts or a skirt, it's hard to see it clearly because it's black. It's not even that short. The man is wearing a suit jacket, it would be very weird for a man to wear anything other than long trousers with a shirt, tie and jacket.

wholettheturnipsburn · 15/01/2025 10:53

Its original, I'll give you that

Luddite26 · 15/01/2025 10:50

I just looked at the photo and groaned.

tachetastic · 15/01/2025 10:49

@gannett : Personally I'm all for nice-looking men showing off their legs and arms though.

Crikey, if I had written that I'm all for nice-looking women showing off their legs I would have been torn to shreds!

What about fat, hairy middle aged men? Do we still need to cover up?

iamnotalemon · 15/01/2025 10:46

It looks like something you'd wear to a nightclub personally but each to their own.

tachetastic · 15/01/2025 10:46

Turning this around, while as a man I have no desire to wear shorts or a skirt to the office, I do find it annoying that I am expected to wear trousers and long sleeves, and for important meetings a jacket or even a tie, including in the middle of summer, whereas it is accepted that women will wear clothes appropriate to the weather, including bare arms and nothing around their neck.

I know there are many places where men do wear shorts and tshirts to work, but I think in more formal, traditional offices, there is a much clearer expectation as to what men will wear, whereas women do have more flexibility while still looking professional.

Personally I am now old and established enough that I can refuse to wear a tie and nobody says anything, though I see disapproving looks.

That said, I do also recognise that in some places there remains an expectation that women will wear heels and makeup even if they don't want to, and that is unacceptable.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/01/2025 10:43

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 10:26

She looks silly and totally unprofessional. She'll be laughed at behind her back and is probably cold. Then again she's a climate change denier so...

Why do you think that?

If people are laughing at her behind her back it sounds like thier issue not hers.

I'd be more concerned about thier behaviour being inappropriate than her attire.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 15/01/2025 10:43

An old boss of mine tried to stop a male staff member wearing shorts (talking knee-length tailored shorts) in summer. I did point out she couldn't do that and she wasn't stopping women from wearing knee-length skirt or shorts, but it goes to show that more revealing clothes for women is normalised when it is not for men.

XWKD · 15/01/2025 10:41

The woman does't look undressed. Neither would the man if he was wearing black shorts.

biscuitandcake · 15/01/2025 10:39

gannett · 15/01/2025 10:25

In my first office job I wore shorts in a heatwave (tailored and not absurdly short). The men lobbied to wear shorts as well (having originally ben told they couldn't) because of what I and another woman wore and the management backed down. But it wasn't about "flashing the flesh" or looking sexy for any of us, it was just comfortable clothing in hot weather.

Generally yes women expose more flesh on a day-to-day basis than men. Think about your average casual summer dress or strappy top that every woman will wear out and about in the summer - none of us think that's a particularly sexy outfit but it's still revealing a lot more flesh than men in the same situation are. Personally I'm all for nice-looking men showing off their legs and arms though.

Heatwaves are different. Most of my office jobs involved smart professional attire for men and women. Except the two weeks of the year when its sunny and it becomes like the last days of Rome. Maybe because we don't have long periods of hot weather like Italy we don't have the habit of finding officey hot weather clothes and everyone loses their minds a bit when its hot for once.

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 10:26

She looks silly and totally unprofessional. She'll be laughed at behind her back and is probably cold. Then again she's a climate change denier so...

gannett · 15/01/2025 10:25

In my first office job I wore shorts in a heatwave (tailored and not absurdly short). The men lobbied to wear shorts as well (having originally ben told they couldn't) because of what I and another woman wore and the management backed down. But it wasn't about "flashing the flesh" or looking sexy for any of us, it was just comfortable clothing in hot weather.

Generally yes women expose more flesh on a day-to-day basis than men. Think about your average casual summer dress or strappy top that every woman will wear out and about in the summer - none of us think that's a particularly sexy outfit but it's still revealing a lot more flesh than men in the same situation are. Personally I'm all for nice-looking men showing off their legs and arms though.

KittenPause · 15/01/2025 10:20

Her dress is a bit short and unprofessional for that particular work environment but I kind of like her Sass.

Pleiades2020 · 15/01/2025 10:16

It's social conditioning. You have been trained and conditioned by society to view the scene in the way you did.