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He had no trousers on?

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

He had no trousers on?
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pizzaHeart · 15/01/2025 12:26

biscuitandcake · 15/01/2025 09:46

I think also women don't WANT men walking around with no trousers on. If I was in an office and a male worker wondered in with no trousers on so almost everything was on display I would feel very uncomfortable and to some extent threatened. Be careful what you wish for really, if you start pointing out the difference very weird men might use the "equality" argument to make us all look at their thighs. I don't think women should ever feel pressured to "dress sexy" or anything. But too far the other way and you end up with women in sacks so as not to distract the men.

But in this photo I am more distracted by the massive tit in the foreground.

I absolutely agree with this ^
I have no desire to sit next to a guy in trunks on a busy train either. Also he didn’t look like trouserless for me at all, however a young woman clearly attracted my attention with her pose and honesty inappropriate clothes.

And agree about massive tit in the foreground.

Ladamesansmerci · 15/01/2025 12:23

Patriarchy. Women feel unconsciously pressured by the male gaze to dress sexy. (This lady looks fab though, this is no shade on her).

On the flip side though, men like women to look sexy, but only in the way they want them to. Skirts are great, but if it's too short you're a slut. A small amount of cleveage is sexy, but too much and you're asking for it. Men don't dress this way because men don't want to see other men in dresses with their legs out.

The reason no one wants to see men walking around in tight hot pants with their bulge on show is because predators would use it as an excuse to flash their penis at every opportunity. You'd have blokes whipping it out the side of their shorts on the bus or something. I'd feel almost threatened if a bloke came into work and you could see everything through a pair of tight shorts. And that's because 99% of the time, it's not women who are engaging in creepy behaviour.

If men weren't creepy gits, from my POV they'd be welcome to wear what they please, as women should also be. At work, just dress appropriate to your work setting.

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/01/2025 12:20

She looks bored in that picture too @UnemployedNotRetired.

maudelovesharold · 15/01/2025 12:17

Boomer55 · 15/01/2025 09:34

TFL had their “no trousers or skirts “ day last Friday. 🤷‍♀️

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clyevk5ng7eo

Why, I wonder?

AgnesX · 15/01/2025 12:14

Agix · 15/01/2025 09:28

Women are often required to look sexy. The male gaze has permeated the work place to the point where it's commonplace for women to be wearing short skirts and low tops. Men don't do it because most men don't want to see other men dresses like that.

It's all about what men want.

Not saying that particular woman dresses that way for that reason. I'm just giving reason for why it's normalised. She looks fab.

Nowhere I've ever worked in the last 30 years.

That doesn't cover all sectors I'm glad to say.

Edited: as I reread the post.

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 12:14

Bringmeahigherlove · 15/01/2025 11:46

I don’t think it’s sensible office attire and women like that don’t do any favours for the ones who fight tooth and nail to be treated as an equal.

Exactly.

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 12:13

"I see we are still judging women on their clothing choices."

Hmm
RoseChinaMug · 15/01/2025 12:11

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/01/2025 10:43

Why do you think that?

If people are laughing at her behind her back it sounds like thier issue not hers.

I'd be more concerned about thier behaviour being inappropriate than her attire.

I think she looks out of place, but I also despair of female singers and performers, on stage in their pants.

Luckily we never see men on stage like this.

DoraSpenlow · 15/01/2025 12:10

I also don't understand why female actors and 'celebrities' feel the need to walk down the red carpet with everythhing on display. You never see Brad Pitt at a premier wearing a see through suite with his pants on display. Whatever happened to class and elegance?

Bringmeahigherlove · 15/01/2025 11:46

I don’t think it’s sensible office attire and women like that don’t do any favours for the ones who fight tooth and nail to be treated as an equal.

Printedword · 15/01/2025 11:40

MrsSunshine2b · 15/01/2025 10:54

I don't know what you're on about. She's clearly wearing shorts or a skirt, it's hard to see it clearly because it's black. It's not even that short. The man is wearing a suit jacket, it would be very weird for a man to wear anything other than long trousers with a shirt, tie and jacket.

She looks like she's going to a nightclub or something. Corporate types don't wear outfits like that

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/01/2025 11:37

amoreoamicizia · 15/01/2025 11:28

It's even more striking when you consider swimwear: why are almost all women's swimsuits and bikinis cut in a knicker shape (yes, not all, but most) when men wear shorts? There's no reason at all. And it's been taken even further by the trend for buttock cheek-revealing swimwear. When you really think about it it's bizarre. Ever since I noticed this I wear shorts on the beach or boy leg/short-type swimsuits- why should I go around in knickers when men are all comfortable in their shorts?

Edited

Do you also go topless?

I find bikinis more comfortable than shorts but to each thier own.

Flavabobble · 15/01/2025 11:34

I'm all for people wearing whatever they want, with the exception of flesh coloured leggings/trousers.

flyingfar · 15/01/2025 11:30

Snowmanscarf · 15/01/2025 11:29

To be fair, both men’s and women’s clothing are being judged in this thread.

I was responding to a particular post.

Snowmanscarf · 15/01/2025 11:29

flyingfar · 15/01/2025 11:18

I see we are still judging women on their clothing choices.

To be fair, both men’s and women’s clothing are being judged in this thread.

amoreoamicizia · 15/01/2025 11:28

It's even more striking when you consider swimwear: why are almost all women's swimsuits and bikinis cut in a knicker shape (yes, not all, but most) when men wear shorts? There's no reason at all. And it's been taken even further by the trend for buttock cheek-revealing swimwear. When you really think about it it's bizarre. Ever since I noticed this I wear shorts on the beach or boy leg/short-type swimsuits- why should I go around in knickers when men are all comfortable in their shorts?

mollymile · 15/01/2025 11:25

@flyingfar I see we are still judging women on their clothing choices.

Well women do have many choices in any setting, and the way we present ourselves is a good clue as to how we want to be seen.

RobinEllacotStrike · 15/01/2025 11:23

Apparently it is empowering & indeed powerful for women & girls to wear as few clothes as possible, and the sexier those clothes are the better.
But this rule only applies to women and girls.
Not men - men need to be fully clothed to be powerful.

So women show skin - sexily of course - and men cover up.

Or something.

I really don't get the whole beige clothing thing and this thread simply reinforces that I shall never ever buy or wear beige clothing.

DurinsBane · 15/01/2025 11:23

Maybe the woman wants a job working for Nige? With her looks and showing a bit of leg he will probably be putty in her hands 😁

PizzaPunk · 15/01/2025 11:21

Jeez I must be getting seriously old.

The man in the beige trousers looks about 12 years old to me and that stood out more than his legs! 🙈

Alexandra2001 · 15/01/2025 11:20

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

He looks like the lower half of a plasticine doll out of Wallace and Grommet, given the meeting, has a plasticine head too.

flyingfar · 15/01/2025 11:18

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 10:26

She looks silly and totally unprofessional. She'll be laughed at behind her back and is probably cold. Then again she's a climate change denier so...

I see we are still judging women on their clothing choices.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 15/01/2025 11:17

CeceliaImrie · 15/01/2025 11:14

"If people are laughing at her behind her back it sounds like thier issue not hers."

Do I really need to answer this? There's a code of appropriate business tire for pity's sake. Surely you can see how daft this looks in this setting! It's a political lobby group not a nightclub.

She looks fine to me.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 15/01/2025 11:17

Flesh coloured trousers look terrible on men and women.
For me, the difference in the photo is that the woman is properly dressed for a smart event in a short skirt and jacket. The man looks at first sight as if he's wearing a jacket with no trousers, which is truly weird.
It's also true that in our country, men don't normally expose their legs in formal situations, unless they are wearing kilts, but women may do.