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He had no trousers on?

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:25

I saw this photo in the guardian today and had to give a double take because I initially thought the man on the right had no trousers on! I was a bit shocked until I realised he did! they r just beige!

Then I saw there was a woman to the right who actually doesn't have any trousers on and I had no reaction.

Then I wondered - what the hell? Why is my reaction so different to a partially naked man as it is to a partially naked women?

Of course, she does have some kind of skirt or shorts or something I'm sure! But I know if the man had dressed like this I'd have felt really shocked, whereas I don't feel anything much towards seeing a woman dressed like this.

Why do some women where clothes which reveal their legs and men don't? What's this about?

Also - why do some women dress 'sexy' in the workplace but men don't?

No AIBU really, just was surprised at my horrified reaction to a man with no trousers on, when I didn't bat an eyelid for the woman.

What's going on!? Any thoughts!

He had no trousers on?
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MrsSkylerWhite · 15/01/2025 13:06

Why does anyone think people who support Farage have any judgement?

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 13:05

Longwaysouth · 15/01/2025 12:51

Thank God he had his trousers on

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 13:04

TheLurpackYears · 15/01/2025 12:43

Neither of them seem to have hit the tone for the event, they look like 6th formers who've been invited along.

True!!!

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 13:04

H34th · 15/01/2025 12:40

"Has it ever occurred to you that these women might WANT to wear the clothes they're wearing?"

Why would you want to have bare legs in cold weather? As soon as I read op's first sentence I was about to answer with 'but what about the woman...' Reading on I feel the same as the OP.

And my answer would be women who believe dressing like that is just them being independent/ progressive is just pure internalised misogyny. Ultimately it's for the male's gaze, if it wasn't serving the patriarchy it wouldn't have been normalised.

However, I found that post interesting -

"Men with no trousers = flashers or sexual predator = be on high alert.
Women with no trousers = normal Friday/Saturday night = ignore.
It's all down to self preservation."

thanks for giving me a different pov @AwaitingFreedom (although I haven't completely changed my mind).

I think I agree with all of your post!

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Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 15/01/2025 13:03

What are you on about she does t have trousers on because she has a skirt on. Your shocked because you don’t see male legs in the workplace usually Nowt to do with looking sexy men don’t in the majority wear skirts or shorts to an office.

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 13:02

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 15/01/2025 12:33

The very last thing I was expecting or wanted to see when I opened this thread was a large picture of N F.

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Sorry!!!

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 13:00

DoraSpenlow · 15/01/2025 12:10

I also don't understand why female actors and 'celebrities' feel the need to walk down the red carpet with everythhing on display. You never see Brad Pitt at a premier wearing a see through suite with his pants on display. Whatever happened to class and elegance?

Yeah, I sometimes think this too

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 12:56

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 15/01/2025 11:07

I had a corporate job and never dressed 'sexy' as I wanted to be taken seriously...
However, I went on mat leave, returned and the office slag got promoted over me.
Everyone agreed that she was useless but she was more popular with the all male bosses (2 of which she had affairs with...)
So, I can totally see why women feel they need to be attractive in the work place.

So sad we love in a world where this is a thing

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 12:54

MrsSunshine2b · 15/01/2025 10:54

I don't know what you're on about. She's clearly wearing shorts or a skirt, it's hard to see it clearly because it's black. It's not even that short. The man is wearing a suit jacket, it would be very weird for a man to wear anything other than long trousers with a shirt, tie and jacket.

Exactly. So why is this!? Why would it be weird for a man to wear little short shorts that reveal his legs!! (and of course it would be!) Why is society like this!? that women in this environment feel this is an appropriate way to dress yet men absolutely wouldn't feel that way.

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Longwaysouth · 15/01/2025 12:51

Wiseplumant · 15/01/2025 12:42

I would be more worried about being in the same room as Farage.

Thank God he had his trousers on

coxesorangepippin · 15/01/2025 12:48

Lol

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ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 12:47

biscuitandcake · 15/01/2025 09:46

I think also women don't WANT men walking around with no trousers on. If I was in an office and a male worker wondered in with no trousers on so almost everything was on display I would feel very uncomfortable and to some extent threatened. Be careful what you wish for really, if you start pointing out the difference very weird men might use the "equality" argument to make us all look at their thighs. I don't think women should ever feel pressured to "dress sexy" or anything. But too far the other way and you end up with women in sacks so as not to distract the men.

But in this photo I am more distracted by the massive tit in the foreground.

But in this photo I am more distracted by the massive tit in the foreground.

😂🤣🤣

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RafaFan · 15/01/2025 12:46

ThisFunLife · 15/01/2025 09:31

I think you are absolutely right.

I can't imagine a man standing for a picture in a pose similar to the woman's, and with leg showing. It would b really weird and just makes me realise how strange and unequal males and females are in the workplace .

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The woman is just standing in a typical "standing listening while holding something" pose. Resting one leg almost. It's not a sexy pose. Men and women do tend to stand differently.

Snowmanscarf · 15/01/2025 12:45

TheLurpackYears · 15/01/2025 12:43

Neither of them seem to have hit the tone for the event, they look like 6th formers who've been invited along.

Yes!

Zebedee999 · 15/01/2025 12:45

Agix · 15/01/2025 09:28

Women are often required to look sexy. The male gaze has permeated the work place to the point where it's commonplace for women to be wearing short skirts and low tops. Men don't do it because most men don't want to see other men dresses like that.

It's all about what men want.

Not saying that particular woman dresses that way for that reason. I'm just giving reason for why it's normalised. She looks fab.

You blame men for other women dressing how they want to? Maybe women should all dress only how you want us too?

I see men topless in the park in summer showing their flesh but never any women doing so. Is this women forcing men to dress that way in the park or does it only work one way?

Wear what you like people and don't blame others for your choices.

TheLurpackYears · 15/01/2025 12:43

Neither of them seem to have hit the tone for the event, they look like 6th formers who've been invited along.

Wiseplumant · 15/01/2025 12:42

I would be more worried about being in the same room as Farage.

istheheatingonyet · 15/01/2025 12:41

That tube thing is just bloody stupid.

H34th · 15/01/2025 12:40

"Has it ever occurred to you that these women might WANT to wear the clothes they're wearing?"

Why would you want to have bare legs in cold weather? As soon as I read op's first sentence I was about to answer with 'but what about the woman...' Reading on I feel the same as the OP.

And my answer would be women who believe dressing like that is just them being independent/ progressive is just pure internalised misogyny. Ultimately it's for the male's gaze, if it wasn't serving the patriarchy it wouldn't have been normalised.

However, I found that post interesting -

"Men with no trousers = flashers or sexual predator = be on high alert.
Women with no trousers = normal Friday/Saturday night = ignore.
It's all down to self preservation."

thanks for giving me a different pov @AwaitingFreedom (although I haven't completely changed my mind).

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 15/01/2025 12:39

The most 😱 I ever saw, was the back view (from maybe a 5m distance) of a girl in town who was wearing peach/flesh coloured scrunch-bum leggings. I did really think at first that she’d forgotten both her knickers and anything else.

It was the first time I’d seen such abominations, and didn’t even know then what they were called.

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 15/01/2025 12:36

They even look, how I imagine other Mumsnetters look.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 15/01/2025 12:33

The very last thing I was expecting or wanted to see when I opened this thread was a large picture of N F.

FizzingAda · 15/01/2025 12:33

Most men don't have attractive legs!

BitOutOfPractice · 15/01/2025 12:29

I just laughed at how few of them are even looking at Farage holding forth. Thry doll look bored to tears.

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