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DS has been offered jobs in Qatar and UAE

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Sooptimisim · 15/01/2025 05:29

DS is 26, he works in finance and has a good job in London. He has recently informed us that he has been offered jobs in both Doha and Dubai and is heavily considering taking them.
I know it’s not up to me but I really can’t settle at the thought of him moving to either of these countries. I associate them with poor women’s rights, little political freedom/freedom of speech etc.
I am trying to be supportive but I’m actually finding it very hard to be.
It isn’t about him moving away as my DD is in Australia doing a masters degree, it’s just the terrible women’s (and human) rights etc.

AIBU to ask him to consider all of this before making a decision?

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Hufflemuff · 15/01/2025 05:54

You're not being unreasonable for asking him to look into the rules and see whether he can follow them. I'm assuming he is not Muslim and also not in a relationship. Is that something he actively wants or not? That's the main way I can see the women's rights affecting him.

I'd encourage him to go and spend a 2 week holiday out there first to see what he thinks. If he owns property over here, get him to rent it out rather than sell so he has a clear and simple path back home if he needs it.

SparklesGlitter · 15/01/2025 05:51

You need to let him forge his own path. I wouldn’t say anything. If he likes it he’ll stay. I lived in Dubai and loved it. Theres always worse places to go and the opportunities out there for him could be really positive

Anniedash · 15/01/2025 05:41

This is the reality of the new world order. We need to get with it. While this country stagnates, the Middle East is attracting economic growth, jobs and people.

There must be a reason he is attracted to the jobs he has been offered. What are you asking him to consider? To forego better opportunities because you don’t agree with the politics of those countries. The way this country is on downward spiral economically, beggars can’t be choosers.