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DS has quit his job to go travelling with a girl he just met

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ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:11

I'm thinking I'm going to be told it is none of my business and to just be happy for him, but I am concerned so need some others views.

DS is 24, he has always been quite shy and kept himself to himself, more so since we moved to Australia when he was 11 as he was a confident child and lost it in his teens. He went to uni, he now has a good job and seems settled. In November he met a girl, she's 22, on her gap year. He had a relationship in his teens but nothing since. It has been like this girl has brought out a whole new side to him, he seems much more confident and relaxed.

Today he told us he has quit his job and they are going to finish her gap year together, mainly with those companies that organise gap year group tours, he seems excited. He is leaving next weekend, February, March & April SE Asia. May & June South America, July Central America then they will see what they feel like after.

TBH I am really apprehensive, this is very out of character and he doesn't really know this girl very well. DH thinks he has made a mistake quitting his job.

AIBU to be worried? Or as he is an adult is it on me to just leave him to it?

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endofthelinefinally · 15/01/2025 04:39

ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:34

I'll pass the advice on, but can I ask why?

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Drug running. If anyone asks you to carry something in your bag it is a massive red flag.

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ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:39

Monty27 · 15/01/2025 04:37

As above! NEVER!
Albeit I wouldn't even have thought of it. So very true.
I suppose if the stuff isn't in his bag and bags are checked in separately.
Red flag though.

I think he meant it as a joke, in reference to her probably having more stuff she will want to take than him, not sure how it is a red flag at all!

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Herewego25 · 15/01/2025 04:38

I completely get it, but it's wonderful for him and will be the making of him. Get excited and maybe even plan to join him somewhere for a week.

Monty27 · 15/01/2025 04:37

As above! NEVER!
Albeit I wouldn't even have thought of it. So very true.
I suppose if the stuff isn't in his bag and bags are checked in separately.
Red flag though.

tillylula · 15/01/2025 04:35

I quit my job and moved in with my now husband after 3 weeks of knowing him. We have 3 kids. Sometimes it works out!

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ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:34

endofthelinefinally · 15/01/2025 04:28

Never never carry stuff for someone else. NEVER.

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I'll pass the advice on, but can I ask why?

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endofthelinefinally · 15/01/2025 04:28

ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:21

DH asked him this and he said no, she has her own savings and joked the only thing he will be doing for her is carrying her excess stuff in his bag.

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Never never carry stuff for someone else. NEVER.

isthismylifenow · 15/01/2025 04:27

How amazing for them.

He won't get this opportunity again when marriage and kids come on board.

Reugny · 15/01/2025 04:27

YANBU to be worried as you are his mother

YABU to not expect him to go and explore the world.

Also be glad he's doing it now while he's young and has no commitments.

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ilosttheracoonjack · 15/01/2025 04:21

endofthelinefinally · 15/01/2025 04:18

I would say support him, keep in touch. My only concern would be whether he is funding her.

DH asked him this and he said no, she has her own savings and joked the only thing he will be doing for her is carrying her excess stuff in his bag.

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endofthelinefinally · 15/01/2025 04:18

I would say support him, keep in touch. My only concern would be whether he is funding her.

RachelGreensHair · 15/01/2025 04:16

Tbf he sounds really mature, and doing it thru a proper company means they will be looked after and have the time of their lives.

BlackChunkyBoots · 15/01/2025 04:16

She sounds great for him. It's a fantastic opportunity. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, you only live once. I hope they both have a great time!

Guest100 · 15/01/2025 04:13

It sounds like fun. He is 24, life is about having fun not being stuck in a job.

Wallywobbles · 15/01/2025 04:12

I'd say that's wonderful news.