Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r

Personally I'd park there for longer in future but I'm told I can be petty...

I'd park there on purpose

Every. Damn. time.

Yes, I'm that person.

That's just infuriating! who does she think she is? I mean, sure like others have said you can always park at the bottom of sister's driveway, but as we can't see what cul-de-sac itself looks like, maybe it's more of a nuisance to have your car protruding out into the cul-de-sac which would really get in everyone's way.

To be honest, if that lady had written something less demanding like an explanation of why she doesn't like it when people park there, how it affects her family, stressed it has caused her in the past I would atleast consider it but when people just give you blind orders (especially those who have no authority) it just brings my piss to a boil, I'd tell her to get F'd and come back with a long-wheelbase van and park that outside her house instead, lol.

This is the UK, everyone has to put up with people parking right outside their property. It is what it is, we all have to deal with it and people who think they're special to the point where they can control who uses the public road and how, they need to get a grip!

You could offer to ring the police to come sort it out. They would say it's no one's particular space. Any threatening behaviour by them ( the complainers) would get short shrift.

That's OK. I know what you mean, I don't appreciate that kind of entitlement either, or seeing it treated as the man's right to arbitrarily lay down the law. I also groan about people making a fuss about drivers parking outside their houses, as though they own the pavement and the road itself.

Sorry if that came across more strongly than intended.

But I get so angry with people who like to dictate and put silly restrictions on others, just so they can get off on their own lttle power trip.

They thrive on people - especially women - just falling in line and letting them have their way, and the upper hand, however inconvenient and annoying it may be. Nobody died and made them king!

Come again???? I don't think anything of the sort. I am not suggesting that OP 'should' park elsewhere, just that she might choose to, in order to avoid having ridiculous notes left on her car. I don't feel the need to take on every boorish man I encounter, especially if my friend or family member lives close by and may suffer the consequences.

As long as you're not sitting there idling the engine or listening to the radio which can be heard anywhere in the vicinity, I think you're fine.

Are there other areas of life where you think women should voluntarily restrict their own rights, convenience and enjoyment, just to avoid upsetting an outrageously unreasonable, arrogant man-baby who likes to be in charge?

It won't 'keep the peace' anyway: they'll never be grateful and it will just make the arrogant person feel validated and likely spur them on to make other petty 'laws' that they think you must obey.

Oh, yes indeed. Same with motorbikes.

A great many of them do ride responsibly and carefully, and abide by the law; but the sheer number of selfish ones who merrily ignore the law and rules of the road, and do whatever dangerous and stupid things they want - and then, when they inevitably come a cropper as a result, they sob about dangerous, reckless car drivers not watching out for them.

Of course, there are plenty of selfish and dangerous drivers who injure and kill people riding responsibly and legally on two wheels; but some of the DARVO from (motor)cyclists is incredible.

That I can agree with, but on the same side of things, drivers dont use indicators properly at eg roundabouts, drivers use mobile phones, drivers cut across lanes, drivers speed up cut in front of a cyclist just to turn left rather than waiting , some drivers run red lights, etc seems bad apples on both sides, but how any driver thinks its acceptable to use a mobile when driving takes the biscuit

This is a whole new thread but… as a driver, and as a pedestrian, I meet cyclists who go through red lights, over zebra crossings without stopping, even the wrong way down roads and on footpaths. Lawless and carefree.

as a cyclist, for me i dont mind where drivers park, as long as they use their mirrors when opening their doors, as a few times drivers open the doors when ive been riding past

It is disgraceful behaviour. I had another recently, not a note but a cyclist. I was getting out of my car to see a terminally ill patient so in a rush to get to them as I knew they were in distress. This cyclist saw it as his duty to accost me and came up angrily to tell me I could not park where I was. I directed him to my pass, I still received a mouthful. Can't help but think if i was a man he would have rode on by. Folks get very tetchy about parking, I wish I could have told him to fuck off but alas I was in uniform!

Just imagine how he would react if somebody started ordering him or his family/visitors and telling them they couldn't park on their own drive or use their own garden.

Just like he is presuming to do with the council's property.

Absolutely disgraceful behaviour.

And what's even worse is that, if it were them or their loved one needing you, they would instantly expect the entire world to resolve around them - and they would be furious at any neighbour who treated them in exactly the same way as they're treating their own very vulnerable neighbours now.

That spot would be my new regular parking place.
Your sisters neighbour I'd batshit. It's not her space it's a public road.

So was the passive aggressive note left on the car any worse or better?

Or should the OP have written a sonnet instead?

Either way, the note writing neighbours are unreasonable cunts - and they know it.

I ignore people if they are breaking parking regulations and they are moving large objects e.g. furniture. Though it is up to them to keep an eye out for the parking attendants I've seen a very large lorry with a ticket on it's windscreen as many of the parking attendants are over 6ft.

They've no right to ask this, but for the sake of peace you could park outside a different house, if there is space, and hope not to get another note from that household!

this reminds me of the day my DD and her DH moved into their new house, and there is no actual parking outside the house, there's a path that leads too a park, and to help with large furniture we reversed the van over the path right up to the side of the house. Yes it was on the grass and yes technically the hugh massive field did have a play area at the end, but for the sake of 1 day to get the big stuff in, it was no issue and the neighbour opposite (not even on her street) posted a letter through her door telling her not to park on the grass again or she will report to the agents who maintain the grounds... so now when we visit we part outside their house.. make me giggle everytime they come out and scowl cos they know damn well, they have no rights to the road outside their house

The really bitchy part of me hopes he’s stuck on a floor one day and has to wait because his rescuers “ aren’t welcome here”

Ignore.

There’s a man living on our daughter’s estate who is obsessed with parking. He stands outside for hours, marching up to tell people they can’t park on the roads. He’s recently taken to putting “no parking, residents only” signs in lamp-posts.

It’s all public highway (son in law checked) with very few yellow lines 🤷‍♀️
Some people are just odd.

I work as a Community Nurse, I have to visit very sick people at home sometimes on an emergency basis (eg picking up an elderly person who has fallen). The council have issued us with passes that allow us to park on double yellows and in council owned car parks as parking in the central town is a nightmare. We have a patient at the moment in an area with nightmare parking issues. All of us Nurses park according to the pass regulations but oh my goodness every time we return to our car a neighbour has left a snotty note on the cars. Recently it was along the lines of just because you have a pass does not mean you are welcome here. I can only imagine these are people with few worries and little going on in their lives, to think we are visiting dying people and this is all they have to worry about blows my mind.