Friends cancelled wedding

Focus on the positives of you life with a lovely husband and forget about them

The one that didn’t show due to the family arguement yes and we actually really close now and he is still 15 years later feeling extremely guilty about the whole thing and still apologises.

the hungover one, was my DH uncle and not really - he didn’t even come to FIL funeral last year because the train was £70 - they were brothers!! So we are cordial if the need arises to speak to him but he’s blocked on all my social media.

We had a no show at are wedding, didn’t even tell us they were coming just didn’t turn up. Found out they were hung over and couldn’t be bothered. My husband’s cousin didn’t come cos he had fallen out with me of the other cousins. Told me the morning off before, he had loads of allergies so a special menu had been prepared for him, also there was over 150 at the wedding so he could have easily avoided the other cousin, who did show up and said I just thought we’d either ignore each other or be polite enough that it would be an issue

All shit excuses

in situations like these, I try to stop and consider of there may be more to the situation than meets the eye. For example, I rarely miss anything that I have committed to attend, but I did miss something big, because I’d had a miscarriage. I didn’t tell anyone about this, instead I said I was sick.

sometimes we just don’t know - financial trauma, relationship trauma, mental health issues….anything.

I can't believe the total rudeness and lack of consideration from the no-shows

Do people really not know how to behave any more? It's utterly appalling. I agree with the poster above who said this NEVER used to happen.

If people don't want to go it is very easy to turn the invitation down with whatever excuse reason they want.

And I really don't understand why the reaction is never speak to these ignoramuses again. I would absolutely have to tell them their fortunes. Why are they allowed to get away with it?

I'm an attentive person and I often forget what someone has told me.
Not because I don't care but because I have major brain fog.

I struggle to retain information and even though I danced for 19 years of my life, I now can't remember dance routines.

Oh that’s pretty shitty then 😕 not sure I would move past that so quickly!

Sorry, I have never had a wedding, do you mean 350 per invited guest which includes their plus one or 350 per every person attending

I agree. If they can't be bothered to reply when you've been gracious to them why make the effort? If they care they will be in touch eventually.

No she isn't . If these people don't want to come then they should say right at the start so the couple can invite someone else in their place . It's bad manners to accept an invitation and not turn up without a good reason esp if the venue has been catered for as it's not cheap .

I understand you’re upset ..but still holding on to it after your happy day that went well isn’t really helpful . Analysing the reasons ( and checking train distruptions as suggested ! ) is pointless when you have a life to get on with with your partner . People have mentioned ADHD which my daughter suffers from and honestly impacts every social occasion she attends. Or maybe at a final push it was too expensive to go etc ….whatever the reasons maybe just accept that in life people aren’t perfect. If you’re still angry then weigh up how much the friendships mean to you overall before you pull the plug on them . Life is too short to hang onto people if you don’t want to , but also too short to live in a bad mood about something you could just let go ! Congrats on your marriage too !

A friend told me she had a lovely friend who helped her loads up to her wedding. Was really supportive and seemed excited by the plans. Did all sorts of errands and basically couldn't have been nicer. Then didn't show up on the day and she never heard from her again. Weird.
I had a few cancel but with good reason: heart attack and a broken leg. Missing a train (presumably the night before if it was 6pm). What's that about?

I was going to say the opposite. I suffer from migraines I can be in bed for 3 days with a "headache".

You are a better person than me . I’m getting married next year and if anyone canceled last minute that way without being a real emergency I would be so disappointed and upset paying hundred of pounds per person and picking special people was hard enough , we both have big families and only invited 105 people so they would be literally preventing others from coming and wasting our money .

It's one of the most special days of your life. It's taken loads of planning, money, they are lucky to be invited. Unless I, or immediate family, were in hospital I would make sure I was there cheering you on if I had accepted an invitation. And if I was in hospital so I physically couldn't go, I would be apologising my head off and trying to make it up to you.

This is unforgivable behaviour to not only miss it like they did, but then do this. No one needs people like this in their lives. You deserve better.

Youre Massively over interpreting it. They are still friends and you need to stop dwelling and let them be. People cancel for tons of reasons. Life is complicated. Friends don’t judge - they just make allowances and move on. If it’s a pattern that’s different. This was a one off. Shit happens. Enjoy you’re new marriage and let this go. You’re hurting yourself for absolutely no reason. Don’t spoil your special time.

@Coolasfeck 🤣🤣 am sniggering at you sniggering

We had a family of four just not turn up to our wedding. I was really annoyed, because we had limited numbers but had also invited their 2 young children because we really wanted the couple there. I was convinced that something awful must have happened to prevent them attending, and was sure there would be an apologetic answer phone message waiting for us at home. This was before many people had mobile phones. Alas we never heard a thing from them again. Still hold a grudge Janice.

I think a lot of people hate weddings, but should be polite about declining straightaway, rather than being frightened to and thus doing so last minute.