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Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:03

I'm on 29.5k which is the most I've ever earned in my life, and I'm 34. I have a degree and a PGCE but here we are.
I'm never going to be a millionaire, but I just don't feel like I'll ever know what it's like to be well off. I live alone too but fortunately only have myself to support.

I'm an EO in the Civil service, which i hate. I'm not trying to be rich, but I'd just love to have a comfortable salary and be able to save comfortably, go on proper holidays and not just a £19.99 ryanair flight (I know I'm lucky to even do that) afford to learn to drive, and just know what it's like to not have to check my bank account daily and count every penny.

However I know this is the reality for most people. Maybe I can go back to teaching and try to make it up to SLT, but school behaviour is horrendous these days which is why I left.

I'm just feeling a bit lost. I know I'm lucky to even have a job, but without sounding arrogant I considered myself as intelligent, I gained qualifications, can speak other languages and a lot of people my age are earning quite a bit more than me.
Just interested to hear anyone's stories and any advice on where to go from here.

OP posts:
underthebed · 14/01/2025 20:46

Mid 40s, senior IT Analyst on 75k. No degree or formal qualifications. Worked in Customer Service for years then around 5 years ago made the switch into an entry level IT role in my company. Career has sky rocketed since then, lots of opportunities in this field although my particular experience is quite niche with the systems we use.

UninterestingFirstPost · 14/01/2025 20:44

International Civil Service? I was on the equivalent of $140K at your age.

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 20:44

The only roles i seem to see on indeed seem to be mainly care/support work and entry level/lower paid roles.

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Badgerandfox227 · 14/01/2025 20:43

EarthSight · 14/01/2025 20:40

I wish it worked like that in most workplaces. Unfortunately, so often those who go above & beyond simply get exploited. They never get a promotion or decent extra pay as the managers seen them as nerds - just willing fools that are eager to take on more work or do their homework for them, and possible competition to themselves.

I completely agree, and that has definitely happened to me over the years. This is where it’s time to bank all of those skills and examples of things you’ve worked on or delivered by stepping up, and use it to get a job elsewhere.

Embarrassinglyuseless · 14/01/2025 20:42

I left teaching to work as an executive / team assistant in wealth / investment management. Low stress, lots of space to progress if you’re a bright woman, entry level pay if you pitch yourself right is 35-40k

BotDranning · 14/01/2025 20:42

Try moving into a Commercial role then go out into industry.

EarthSight · 14/01/2025 20:40

Badgerandfox227 · 14/01/2025 20:26

Out of uni started in call centre roles, changed roles every 1.5-2 years, some promotions and some helicopter moves for wider experience. Lots of going above and beyond/unpaid overtime/additional responsibility etc. Studied for additional work related qualifications over a few years. Got to £80k+ at age 38

Recommendation would definitely be to show willing, ask for additional responsibility, and look at helicopter moves to get more experience before going for a promotion. With your qualification I’d consider teaching, as others have said you can earn £50k after a few years experience, plus you get holidays and great benefits in terms of pension/job security that you don’t have a chance of in private sector.

I wish it worked like that in most workplaces. Unfortunately, so often those who go above & beyond simply get exploited. They never get a promotion or decent extra pay as the managers seen them as nerds - just willing fools that are eager to take on more work or do their homework for them, and possible competition to themselves.

NovaF · 14/01/2025 20:39

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:03

I'm on 29.5k which is the most I've ever earned in my life, and I'm 34. I have a degree and a PGCE but here we are.
I'm never going to be a millionaire, but I just don't feel like I'll ever know what it's like to be well off. I live alone too but fortunately only have myself to support.

I'm an EO in the Civil service, which i hate. I'm not trying to be rich, but I'd just love to have a comfortable salary and be able to save comfortably, go on proper holidays and not just a £19.99 ryanair flight (I know I'm lucky to even do that) afford to learn to drive, and just know what it's like to not have to check my bank account daily and count every penny.

However I know this is the reality for most people. Maybe I can go back to teaching and try to make it up to SLT, but school behaviour is horrendous these days which is why I left.

I'm just feeling a bit lost. I know I'm lucky to even have a job, but without sounding arrogant I considered myself as intelligent, I gained qualifications, can speak other languages and a lot of people my age are earning quite a bit more than me.
Just interested to hear anyone's stories and any advice on where to go from here.

Have you tried looking at charities? A lot of education ones like Teach First employ ex teachers. A Head of Education, Head of Programmes role would be on £50k plus. Not saying that would do much for work/life balance or stress but they would be rewarding and give you the salary you seek

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 14/01/2025 20:37

Between ages 35 and 40 I’ve progressed to over 50k from around 30k by changing where I work (higher pay for similar role), worked up until my max salary. Meanwhile applied for a promotion twice and eventually getting a secondment where I could practice and get more pay. Then I applied for a permanent version of the seconded role and now my salary increases each year on a scale. When I hit the top I will start looking for more promotions (or if I see anything in meantime).

If you apply for other things within civil service you will get noticed and eventually hopefully something will stick. Find out a role you really like and ask the person in that role what training etc might be helpful if you’re interested to get into that field. Then ask for the training at your review meeting.

pitterypattery00 · 14/01/2025 20:36

Mid career academic, mid 40s, salary around £54k FTE (but I work part time). Lots I like about my job but it's not an easy career to enter or remain in - undergraduate, masters and PhD degrees generally required. And job security is often poor. I'm seriously considering leaving but anything else I've seen that I'm interested in and qualified for would be a substantial salary cut. I'm envious of those who seem to be able to move from one company to another, increasing salary each time - I think I'll have to take a step back to work up again in another sector.

ThisOldThang · 14/01/2025 20:36

"Don't be afraid to apply for jobs where you tick only 70% of skills required & that take you out of your comfort zone."

This is so true in IT.

You get deluded managers writing guru level skill requirements and then advertising the role at £50k. It is usually the pay that signifies the complexity of the role / skill requirements. I'd always take the advertisements with a pinch of salt. Ask yourself what somebody with those skills would want to get paid. If it's £150k, they're not going to be applying for a £50k role.

MidnightMusing5 · 14/01/2025 20:35

Catsonskis · 14/01/2025 19:54

NHS manager, c. 80k at 33.

degree entirely unrelated, then 1 year gap year and 1 year random basic admin role before joining nhs 10 years ago as band 3 I think on 17k ish. Progressed every 18m to 2 years up the scales. 2 maternity leaves and Covid in that too.

More than a gp earns! What does an nhs manager do??

MidnightMusing5 · 14/01/2025 20:34

StuffedFullOfFromage · 14/01/2025 20:25

£100k, financial services. No post-grad qualifications, I'm just lucky in that I have an unusual combination of skills and experience that is sought after for this particular role.

I almost doubled my salary though from moving sectors in last change.

What skills and experience would that be? Thanks

palymers · 14/01/2025 20:32

Left education after Alevels. Had a place a Durham but met a bloke and wanted to earn money. Joined a bank on a fast track programme, hated it, left after 12 months. Took a job as a paralegal in a law firm and I still work for the same core firm. Had the chance to do a law degree but didn't. Segued from paralegal to compliance and risk to project management to EO, then into operations and now in IT Delivery, which feels the most natural to me. Only qualification I did besides A levels was Prince 2. Earn £80k. In my various roles I always worked close to the senior partner/CEO. It's my personal soft skills rather than technical knowledge that have helped me progress. I've always seemed to be a comfort blanket for my direct senior.

MidnightMusing5 · 14/01/2025 20:32

Crazybaby123 · 14/01/2025 20:08

I job hopped, a lot. Gaining higher salaries each time and more and more experience in different companies and scenarios, dealing with different problems. I also trained myself in new areas related in some ways to my job but in new emerging areas in my spare time, not even official qualifications but just leaned, a lot through reading, watching videos and podcasts etc on the areas I wanted to knoe about. I stretched myself and never waited for promotion, I just got a new job when I felt I knew enough to earn more. Then became a consultant. Now 40+ and been earning over 100k consistently for about 5 years. I could push myself more to earn more, but I also now work flexibly which suits my family life.

Consultant in what?

Badgerandfox227 · 14/01/2025 20:26

Out of uni started in call centre roles, changed roles every 1.5-2 years, some promotions and some helicopter moves for wider experience. Lots of going above and beyond/unpaid overtime/additional responsibility etc. Studied for additional work related qualifications over a few years. Got to £80k+ at age 38

Recommendation would definitely be to show willing, ask for additional responsibility, and look at helicopter moves to get more experience before going for a promotion. With your qualification I’d consider teaching, as others have said you can earn £50k after a few years experience, plus you get holidays and great benefits in terms of pension/job security that you don’t have a chance of in private sector.

StuffedFullOfFromage · 14/01/2025 20:25

£100k, financial services. No post-grad qualifications, I'm just lucky in that I have an unusual combination of skills and experience that is sought after for this particular role.

I almost doubled my salary though from moving sectors in last change.

TheKeatingFive · 14/01/2025 20:24

I don't have any experience with the Civil Service, but in general, you get to higher salaries by constantly climbing the ladder and seeking new opportunities.

Always be thinking of your next move. If it isn't forthcoming in your current organisation, change jobs and bag yourself a decent uplift in the process.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 14/01/2025 20:23

I think the issue is a lack of knowing what you want to do. You need to start in a job and work your way up but to do that you need to be motivated and eager to learn and develop. If your team don’t see you as motivated or see you as being in it for the long run they won’t look to progress you.

InfoSecInTheCity · 14/01/2025 20:22

HaveItAll90 · 14/01/2025 19:09

I earn almost 70k same age as you. Started working in contact centres straight from uni. Did all the crappy jobs noone wanted (complaints, escalations,) worked my way up to team management, department management. Had a child took a year out.

Then came back and side stepped into sales team manager, after 2 years became head of sales.

All in all that trajectory has taken me 10 years (I had a few jobbing about roles after uni) so 24-34

Similar except after the call centre management bits I moved into the Info security Governance, Risk & Compliance roles and now head up the global GRC Team.

Apply for anything suitable, make sure your management know you want to progress, take every opportunity for mentoring/shadowing/development programmes, find solutions to problems and do what you can to make them happen, become known as an expert.

SabandBraddy · 14/01/2025 20:21

NHS ops management

If you’ve got a good operations head, you’re keen, don’t mind hard work etc. Band 8 is over 50k

Itsallgonesideways · 14/01/2025 20:20

The only way I've managed to earn a decent wage is by moving jobs and increasing my salary £10k + at a time. Also picking up lots of transferable skills which can be used across a variety of different sectors helped.

Don't be afraid to apply for jobs where you tick only 70% of skills required & that take you out of your comfort zone. Think side ways, look at the skills that you already have & see if a more high paying sector is looking for someone with a similar skill set.

https://www.charityjob.co.uk/

LondonPapa · 14/01/2025 20:20

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:09

HMRC. I'm in the 'CTU' if that means anything to you, and I really dislike it. Micromanaged to a tee.

I'll keep looking, hopefully something will come up, thanks.

CTU is the training portion. You should get streamed into your core business area post-training which may be better. Although from everything I’ve heard of Ops, run. Apply for ministerial departments in non-Operational posts. Much better life over here.

Iceache · 14/01/2025 20:20

£50k top of the pay scale - teaching. My next move is Assistant Head which would be about £55k, and then probably Deputy (60k ish). I’m 39 and have taken two maternity leaves and been part time since my second child (he’s nearly 9). I’ve just returned full time and am applying for promotions over the next 12 to 18 months, but love where I’m at with my career currently so I’m biding my time waiting for the right job.