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Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:03

I'm on 29.5k which is the most I've ever earned in my life, and I'm 34. I have a degree and a PGCE but here we are.
I'm never going to be a millionaire, but I just don't feel like I'll ever know what it's like to be well off. I live alone too but fortunately only have myself to support.

I'm an EO in the Civil service, which i hate. I'm not trying to be rich, but I'd just love to have a comfortable salary and be able to save comfortably, go on proper holidays and not just a £19.99 ryanair flight (I know I'm lucky to even do that) afford to learn to drive, and just know what it's like to not have to check my bank account daily and count every penny.

However I know this is the reality for most people. Maybe I can go back to teaching and try to make it up to SLT, but school behaviour is horrendous these days which is why I left.

I'm just feeling a bit lost. I know I'm lucky to even have a job, but without sounding arrogant I considered myself as intelligent, I gained qualifications, can speak other languages and a lot of people my age are earning quite a bit more than me.
Just interested to hear anyone's stories and any advice on where to go from here.

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TheKeatingFive · 15/01/2025 18:15

ASDnocareer · 15/01/2025 17:44

Sorry to interrupt on Op’s thread, and sorry for stupid question but I was just wondering how do people ‘get out there’ or ‘connect with recruiters’?

I use LinkedIn, have tried signing up to different recruitment agencies, sent polite emails, filled out recruiters candidate web forms, as well as applying for their jobs postings but never hear back. Also tried smaller or niche agencies, some of which who claim to help junior candidates

My friend who works in recruitment says she is swamped by messages so can’t respond to everyone

In my industry, recruitment is very specialised, there are only really 2 people who are worth talking to in terms of having access to opportunities. I'm in Dublin, so a much smaller market than London.

You have to find the right people. That might take a lot of hunting around / asking your peers.

Notellinganyone · 15/01/2025 18:14

I’m a teacher at an independent school on 54 k. Second in Dept and 58 so top of scale.

HBGKC · 15/01/2025 18:13

Ontobetterthings · 14/01/2025 19:36

Analyst here. No work out of hours. I'd have a look at Analyst jobs on LinkedIn. I have loads of teacher friends who earn far less than me and suffer a lot with stress. Unless you want to do teaching I would not recommend. My teacher friends said if they worked out all the hours they work in a week they are on less than minimum wage. They work evenings and weekends prepping and marking work.

What do you analyse?

LondonPapa · 15/01/2025 17:48

ASDnocareer · 15/01/2025 17:44

Sorry to interrupt on Op’s thread, and sorry for stupid question but I was just wondering how do people ‘get out there’ or ‘connect with recruiters’?

I use LinkedIn, have tried signing up to different recruitment agencies, sent polite emails, filled out recruiters candidate web forms, as well as applying for their jobs postings but never hear back. Also tried smaller or niche agencies, some of which who claim to help junior candidates

My friend who works in recruitment says she is swamped by messages so can’t respond to everyone

It depends on industry but I’ve found recruiters find me through LinkedIn or through word of mouth. I’ve also found private sector employers literally reach out and ask me to work for their company but as a consultant focusing on my existing policy area.

Everyone’s mileage may vary but mine has been more they come to me rather than me seek them.

ASDnocareer · 15/01/2025 17:44

40YearOldDad · 15/01/2025 16:13

I tend to find most high-earners move jobs every 2,4,5 years. Saw a lot when interviewing for head teacher roles, where the applicants had moved jobs several times over the 15-20 years previous.

I hate commenting on people's salaries, but 30k is not that far above NMW now. especially in a job you don't like. Get yourself on LinkedIn, and start putting yourself out there. Connect with recruiters, Yes, I know this all sounds very corporate wanker, but so what. What do you have to lose?

Sorry to interrupt on Op’s thread, and sorry for stupid question but I was just wondering how do people ‘get out there’ or ‘connect with recruiters’?

I use LinkedIn, have tried signing up to different recruitment agencies, sent polite emails, filled out recruiters candidate web forms, as well as applying for their jobs postings but never hear back. Also tried smaller or niche agencies, some of which who claim to help junior candidates

My friend who works in recruitment says she is swamped by messages so can’t respond to everyone

Catsonskis · 15/01/2025 17:30

AnaMRT · 15/01/2025 15:29

Wow that’s amazing! You’re an inspiration! Thank you so much for the brilliant advice. I’ll definitely be doing that before any interviews. I’m hoping to apply for an apprenticeship when it comes up as I enjoy studying and would like to push myself. I’m currently looking into SaLT and counselling/CBT. I’ve got an Art degree but have worked as a band 2 and now 3 for the last 4 years. Thanks once again! I’m feeling really motivated.

Ah apprentices are a great way to ge the experience. They do apprenticeships up to band 7 now I think!

definitely cast your net wide in terms of opportunities and see where you land that you enjoy! With some clinical experience you could reasonably look at MDT coordinator roles, any administrative roles in patient flow team such as discharge coordinators, cancer pathway coordinators etc or project management/PMO functions. If you are interested in a role or function link in with them and ask if you can shadow for an hour or half a day etc.

glad you’re feeling motivated! Go get em!

Bjorkdidit · 15/01/2025 16:26

I tend to find most high-earners move jobs every 2,4,5 years. Saw a lot when interviewing for head teacher roles, where the applicants had moved jobs several times over the 15-20 years previous

But don't they spend all their time finding their feet in new roles, getting to grips with the employer's culture and expectations etc?

I've worked for the same organisation for a long time, but taken on a new role within the last couple of years and TBH I wish I hadn't bothered - I've been given a huge mess to sort out with little support because the two people who did it before looked like they knew what they were doing on the surface, but any kind of digging and it all falls apart.

At least I know the people I'm working with, have employment rights, don't have probation to pass etc. If I'd come in from outside, I'd be constantly worried I'd be fired because all I raise are problems that they've happily ignored for about 20 years.

40YearOldDad · 15/01/2025 16:13

I tend to find most high-earners move jobs every 2,4,5 years. Saw a lot when interviewing for head teacher roles, where the applicants had moved jobs several times over the 15-20 years previous.

I hate commenting on people's salaries, but 30k is not that far above NMW now. especially in a job you don't like. Get yourself on LinkedIn, and start putting yourself out there. Connect with recruiters, Yes, I know this all sounds very corporate wanker, but so what. What do you have to lose?

OldieButBaddie · 15/01/2025 15:48

Well I started with a very privileged background, went to top private school, bummed around for a few years doing various things, then went to uni, dropped out and fluked into a job with a Software House in the early 90s when I didn't even know what that was, worked my way up, became a Director then went self employed by which time I was a high earner. So a combination of privilege, luck and finding something I was really interested in and then working every hour God sent for a few years (but loving it)

hellohellooo · 15/01/2025 15:41

120k

Locum psychologist

Love my job

8 years of study

AnaMRT · 15/01/2025 15:37

Catza · 15/01/2025 11:32

I work in chronic fatigue service. We see patients with ME/CFS and Long Covid. Understandably, most of our patients are too fatigued to be able to handle travelling to appointments so the entire team works from home. We each offer 1 day a week outpatient appointments at a hospital but in three years I've been in the service, I only had two patients request it so I travel to the office maybe 6 times a year at most.
SaLT is another good one especially if you are interested in paediatrics or neuro. Loads of interesting opportunities in these services.

I didn’t even know that was possible! To be patient facing while working from home. That sounds really amazing! Your job sounds fantastic! I’ve been interested in SaLT ever since one of my sons needed the service. I’m just trying to predict what will be more in demand in future. I did a fine art degree as I was interested in Art Therapy but there aren’t many jobs available or any funding for that in the NHS. So I’m trying to do my research and check what will be more needed: SaLT, CBT, OT etc… what will allow me some flexibility and maybe even be able to occasionally work from home. Thanks once again!

AnaMRT · 15/01/2025 15:29

Catsonskis · 15/01/2025 10:29

Of course, I started as an administrator in a fairly boring department band 3 temporary contract. Opportunity around for a team leader in that office and I was successfully appointed. A while later I then covered a band 6 maternity leave, however they paid me as a band 5 (which looking back I was totally screwed over, I did all the band 6 duties but accepted band 5 pay as I was desperate for the opportunity to learn and develop and obviously, increased banding). The maternity cover was really my first foray into operational management as deputy operational service manager. In that role I micromanaged the waiting lists, cancellations and various reports for national performance KPI benchmarking etc, theatre scheduling meetings, reducing clinic dna times/improving waiting times etc

from that I saw a job advertised as a band 6 in a different trust doing essentially the same job I was already doing, but in a different specialty. I rang the new trust and spoke to the hiring manager to understand a bit more about the challenges of that department and how things ran. I also went and visited. I then got that job as I’d honed the skills during the maternity cover role, and really researched the new specialty and what my job would look like there.

I then found a very similar operational job at another Trust but a band 7. Assistant directorate manager this time. Applied for that (again, rang the recruiting manager and had a pre meet with some of the team ahead of interviews) and did that for 2 years or so.

I moved organisations again for Directorate Manager role for a different specialty again. After 18 months the job got rebanded as an 8b in recognition of scope and scale. Stayed there another 2 years or so.

moved to my most recent trust for a new specialty again 12 months ago.

my advise in NHS management is seek any and all opportunities to develop, there’s so much support in house and external for courses, go above and beyond to understand different aspects of specialties or functions within the NHS. If you apply and get an interview for another job always always always contact the recruiting manager for a pre chat/visit, it really helps you understand the role and tailor your responses in interviews appropriately. Finally, have a look if your organisation has a mentor program. Or if you’re really interested in Operational Management look into Proud2bOps network, they have a mentor programme and weekly development teams meetings with various speakers.

I have a degree but no masters, no official courses either. I’ve been really fortuitous with experiences and opportunities and various supportive managers who’ve encouraged me! I like to do the same for others.

Wow that’s amazing! You’re an inspiration! Thank you so much for the brilliant advice. I’ll definitely be doing that before any interviews. I’m hoping to apply for an apprenticeship when it comes up as I enjoy studying and would like to push myself. I’m currently looking into SaLT and counselling/CBT. I’ve got an Art degree but have worked as a band 2 and now 3 for the last 4 years. Thanks once again! I’m feeling really motivated.

dogpool · 15/01/2025 13:34

snowmichael · 14/01/2025 20:54

Unless they sought out a particular profession - law, medicine, finance etc. - most high earners stumbled into something they are good at at some point in their working life, and just concentrated on that

This was me - didn't know what I wanted to do post-uni, stumbled into a sector where my personal soft skills were highly valued, used these opportunities to build other skills. I'm 34, in science communications working for a not-for-profit org, earning £80k. Went for roles in scicomms across charity, non-profits, ALBs etc and only took jobs with upward trajectory.

Build up skills, stick with jobs min 18 months, move on if no opportunities to improve or be promoted.

jolota · 15/01/2025 13:03

Everyone I know who earns over £50k works in sales, tech, or EA. I know of London based nannys who earn that much too. Obviously there's a bunch of other roles that earn that amount too, those are just the only ones I actually know the salary of

Shakeyourbaublesandsmile · 15/01/2025 11:54

Kist replying to OPs first post

Fix your target outcome - desired job role with salary

Work backwards from that and what needs to happen get there

Formulate a plan with clear steps

But above all else accept it will take time, take immediate pressure off and slowly step by step work the plan

Acceptance and patience are your friends while quietly keeping an eye on that target outcome.

You are still quite young and can retrain or extend

JHound · 15/01/2025 11:50

Zanatdy · 14/01/2025 19:07

What about the foreign office? My ex is a diplomat, earns a lot more than I do and has seen the world

Second this idea. That was my original career plan and it would have been so fascinating!

JHound · 15/01/2025 11:48

Also I got a lot richer when I learned to budget and plan my spending properly.

I don’t have a partner though. Getting one would massively help my finances.

JHound · 15/01/2025 11:46

It’s funny I “know” 50k is a high salary but to me that seems like a low one.

For me how I achieved my “high” salary (currently £95k + bens + bonus) was my chosen field.

Degree + post degree qualification (ACA) then worked in the audit and risk field ever since in FS.

I however have done loads of side steps and shuffling around so behind most of my cohort salary wise.

Do a lot of research on what you enjoy and what you can make money from and then consider what training / qualifications you need to get there. A life coach could also help immensely.

Catza · 15/01/2025 11:32

AnaMRT · 15/01/2025 11:29

That sounds brilliant! I’m looking out for apprenticeship opportunities currently and interested in Speech and Language Therapy (can potentially work in schools after) or Mental Health (CBT and counselling as could work from home?) Do you mind me asking what you are currently doing? It sounds amazing!

I work in chronic fatigue service. We see patients with ME/CFS and Long Covid. Understandably, most of our patients are too fatigued to be able to handle travelling to appointments so the entire team works from home. We each offer 1 day a week outpatient appointments at a hospital but in three years I've been in the service, I only had two patients request it so I travel to the office maybe 6 times a year at most.
SaLT is another good one especially if you are interested in paediatrics or neuro. Loads of interesting opportunities in these services.

AnaMRT · 15/01/2025 11:29

Catza · 15/01/2025 08:14

I did my masters in Occupational Therapy. Fine art degree is surprisingly helpful in this field. I then worked in mental health as Band 5 and progressed into specialist physical health service at band 7. I have a pretty awesome job, fully remote and very low management involvement.
There are now apprenticeships in OT and physio so have a look at those if you don't fancy doing masters.

That sounds brilliant! I’m looking out for apprenticeship opportunities currently and interested in Speech and Language Therapy (can potentially work in schools after) or Mental Health (CBT and counselling as could work from home?) Do you mind me asking what you are currently doing? It sounds amazing!

LondonPapa · 15/01/2025 11:19

Redvelvetdreams1 · 15/01/2025 10:00

Have you been through the CTU just out of curiosity? Most people say it's a complete s××t show.

No but I know people who have. All left after being streamed out to other posts in CS. Most on promotion as they were overqualified in the first instance. If you’re London based / commutable distance, there are lots of HEO posts in Whitehall at the moment. SEO is the next step above and lots there too, but from what I’ve seen (and my own campaigns), SEO requires more direct experience than HEO-entry.

Curiossir · 15/01/2025 11:10

Move to the tech industry and into sales. All you need are good communication skills and be organised- a teacher can demonstrate those skills. Entry level business development roles can pay 50k-100k on target earnings. This is basically cold calling, lead finding and appointment setting. Move to a full sales role within a few years and you would get double or triple that.

peppermintgreengrass · 15/01/2025 10:42

Redvelvetdreams1 · 15/01/2025 08:44

Oh sorry yes, forgot to log in. Thanks

Well that was very silly, and a bit self defeating.

peppermintgreengrass · 15/01/2025 10:41

shuggles · 14/01/2025 22:54

@Redvelvetdreams1 The answer is nepotism and cronyism. If you have friends, then you will be directed towards jobs that pay high salaries and you will be treated favourably in interviews.

I will get a bunch of responses to this comment with people sobbing and saying "no! I worked hard." Well, I worked hard too. I guarantee that I've worked harder than almost everyone on this thread. I don't have friends, so I never socialise, and I never took part in the drinking culture. My weekends since my early 20s have been dominated by working and studying. But because I'm not in a friendship circle, that means I have an extremely high rejection rate from interviews (statistically, more than 19 out of 20 interviews are rejects for me) which is why I work in a job with a relatively modest salary (given my qualifications and achievements).

Well you definitely won’t progress if you keep telling yourself this story.

peppermintgreengrass · 15/01/2025 10:39

Jotim02 · 14/01/2025 19:10

@Zanatdy how do you earn £67k as grade 7, that's usually grade 6, what department are you in? @Redvelvetdreams1 don't give up, there's are lots of opportunities in the CS, Take advantage of free training, apply by for apprenticeships, be strategic about where you want to get to and speak to those who have got there. Join a network, volunteer, ask your boss for development opportunities

I earn £64k as a G7. That includes London weighting and a digital skills allowance.

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