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Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:03

I'm on 29.5k which is the most I've ever earned in my life, and I'm 34. I have a degree and a PGCE but here we are.
I'm never going to be a millionaire, but I just don't feel like I'll ever know what it's like to be well off. I live alone too but fortunately only have myself to support.

I'm an EO in the Civil service, which i hate. I'm not trying to be rich, but I'd just love to have a comfortable salary and be able to save comfortably, go on proper holidays and not just a £19.99 ryanair flight (I know I'm lucky to even do that) afford to learn to drive, and just know what it's like to not have to check my bank account daily and count every penny.

However I know this is the reality for most people. Maybe I can go back to teaching and try to make it up to SLT, but school behaviour is horrendous these days which is why I left.

I'm just feeling a bit lost. I know I'm lucky to even have a job, but without sounding arrogant I considered myself as intelligent, I gained qualifications, can speak other languages and a lot of people my age are earning quite a bit more than me.
Just interested to hear anyone's stories and any advice on where to go from here.

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BiddyPop · 14/01/2025 19:56

I am 26 years in the civil service, did a degree before I joined and other studies since (including a Masters), and have worked hard to go up through the ranks - sat at AP for 16 years in the middle which was frustrating. But the work has been varied and interesting, I've had times doing EU work (including Brussels travel) and times focussed on domestic matters (so no travel then).

I am in senior management now (although don't have "Secretary" in my title) and earn what I think is a very good salary. But have gone through the years of the "beans and rice" type diet on the way there.

addictedtotheflats · 14/01/2025 19:56

I earn £52K plus unsocial enhancemens of around £4K. I'm a nurse and have been for 14 years. I've just worked up the agenda for change bands and have just reached the top of band 7.

MsCactus · 14/01/2025 19:56

Moving companies is a real hassle, but the people I know who reach the highest salaries in their field move companies/jobs every 2 years. Sell your skills and move for a pay rise each time and you'll double your salary in no time

Abridget7 · 14/01/2025 19:55

Can you move to London? Get your foot in the door of a large financial organisation. Even some basic admin / PA roles pay 50k.
Once you’re in, you can move around and try and better your job or salary.

Catsonskis · 14/01/2025 19:54

NHS manager, c. 80k at 33.

degree entirely unrelated, then 1 year gap year and 1 year random basic admin role before joining nhs 10 years ago as band 3 I think on 17k ish. Progressed every 18m to 2 years up the scales. 2 maternity leaves and Covid in that too.

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:52

ClassicalQueen · 14/01/2025 19:49

What do you teach?
Certain subjects (Maths, English and Science) it's easier to gain a TLR and move up to UPS due to the nature of the subjects.
If in primary, I wouldn't bother. You'll struggle to get a post in SLT or with a TLR after being out for a while.

I'm in languages, but have also done SEN teaching 🙂

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emsyj37 · 14/01/2025 19:52

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:09

HMRC. I'm in the 'CTU' if that means anything to you, and I really dislike it. Micromanaged to a tee.

I'll keep looking, hopefully something will come up, thanks.

I'm at HMRC. If you want support with development and some advice about progression then feel free to PM me. There are tons of opportunities to progress in the civil service!

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:52

Randomname83738 · 14/01/2025 19:50

Could you do private tutoring as a sideline alongside your full time job?

Have done it before but found it unreliable sadly, people quitting lessons etc

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HellofromJohnCraven · 14/01/2025 19:51

Find a way to move into compliance/governance or similar

HorrorFan81 · 14/01/2025 19:50

Positivenancy · 14/01/2025 19:44

I agree putting yourself forward and acting doing a part of a job above your pay grade is the only way, that way when a position comes up you have the experience. Harder in some industries I suppose but in my experience that’s the best way to show capability.

Yes I did this each time- stepped in for my boss whenever there was opportunity and generally got myself 'seen' by the senior management. Always made sure I was well prepped for meetings and tried to make sure I was adding value, not just sitting there

Happy where I am for now and not interested in my bosses position so am enjoying just doing my job for once (well apart from studying part time for an MBA 😀)

Randomname83738 · 14/01/2025 19:50

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:48

Thanks for all replies. I'm willing to work more hours a week to earn more but sadly no overtime in my job. I'll keep looking and try my best, thanks.

Could you do private tutoring as a sideline alongside your full time job?

overthinkersanonnymus · 14/01/2025 19:50

Mummer123 · 14/01/2025 19:49

Chartered accountant. Qualified as chartered at 25, 3 years later on over £50k in a lower paid regional part of the UK. On pathway to partner so will be over £250k hoping by time I’m 35.

Bloody hell that's brilliant!

Good for you @Mummer123

NineToFiveish · 14/01/2025 19:49

I work in corporate sales training, in a SaaS org. The pay is higher than equivalent roles in other departments, because there's a certain element of risk in sales, especially in volatile fast paced industries. I've lost a job with no notice, but then ended up in a new job with higher pay. So there's always at least a small undercurrent of stress involved, but usually I can direct that to keeping me energised and enthusiastic at work. I quite enjoy what I do, and I'm very good at it, so the stress levels are manageable for me.

ClassicalQueen · 14/01/2025 19:49

What do you teach?
Certain subjects (Maths, English and Science) it's easier to gain a TLR and move up to UPS due to the nature of the subjects.
If in primary, I wouldn't bother. You'll struggle to get a post in SLT or with a TLR after being out for a while.

Mummer123 · 14/01/2025 19:49

Chartered accountant. Qualified as chartered at 25, 3 years later on over £50k in a lower paid regional part of the UK. On pathway to partner so will be over £250k hoping by time I’m 35.

Redvelvetdreams1 · 14/01/2025 19:48

Thanks for all replies. I'm willing to work more hours a week to earn more but sadly no overtime in my job. I'll keep looking and try my best, thanks.

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notthenewsagain · 14/01/2025 19:46

I'm a childminder and earn around 50k

Positivenancy · 14/01/2025 19:44

HorrorFan81 · 14/01/2025 19:22

I work for a very large publicly funded organisation with lots of opportunities for progression. I started on £30k when I was 28, got a promotion 3 years later to £45k, then another promotion 4 years later to £64k (plus £6k car allowance). With yearly pay increases I am now on £76k plus £6k. There is an annual bonus (not guaranteed) - last year mine was £8k.

I worked hard in each role, put myself forward for any opportunities (even when I didn't think I was ready) and did alot of self learning both about subject areas and business/management

I agree putting yourself forward and acting doing a part of a job above your pay grade is the only way, that way when a position comes up you have the experience. Harder in some industries I suppose but in my experience that’s the best way to show capability.

RobinHood19 · 14/01/2025 19:44

I did unpaid work experience alongside my studies for about 5 years, then about 5 years of traineeships / apprentice schemes, and after a bit of (badly paid) freelancing I got a position at around 60k. It’s the way it works in my particular industry within arts & entertainment - you put in about 10-15 years of barely-paid work, and about 10% of those people end up in a salaried job. (The rest continue freelancing for just a little over what bills and food cost…)

Having said that - I still go on £19.99 Ryanair holidays and stay with friends or family for free because having a “decent” salary doesn’t mean I can afford to spend it however I want… I’m not able to pay £2-3k for a week somewhere luxurious - I’d need at least double my salary for this to become possible.

Edit to add - I am also regularly having to work 50-60 hours a week, although that is still way less than I did as a freelancer, as I don’t have to travel quite as often anymore (1-2 times a month instead of 4-6…).

Randomname83738 · 14/01/2025 19:43

31, grade 7 CS. To be honest, it’s been a lot of luck, working for managers who have been willing to give me a lot of experience and responsibility, but I’ve also moved jobs every two years (both internally and to different organisations).

I think the key is moving jobs every couple of years, particularly if you’re CS. I think there’s good progression in CS as you can move to so many different areas. It doesn’t sound like you’re quite in the right role in terms of your manager not being able/willing to facilitate giving you the necessary skills and experience to progress. When you’re able, I’d look elsewhere (either within the CS or alternatively look at local councils -I got a lot of experience in local authority before being able to move to a higher level CS role based on the experience I’d gained in LA roles)

LoudSnoringDog · 14/01/2025 19:43

NHS manager (agenda for change)
Currently at 8c (74k)

TeachesOfPeaches · 14/01/2025 19:42

I chose to work in the highest paid area of recruitment for the highest paying industry.

Zanatdy · 14/01/2025 19:40

Ontobetterthings · 14/01/2025 19:36

Analyst here. No work out of hours. I'd have a look at Analyst jobs on LinkedIn. I have loads of teacher friends who earn far less than me and suffer a lot with stress. Unless you want to do teaching I would not recommend. My teacher friends said if they worked out all the hours they work in a week they are on less than minimum wage. They work evenings and weekends prepping and marking work.

That’s what I told my kids, don’t go into teaching as all the unpaid hours means you’re earning less than the minimum wage

hayal · 14/01/2025 19:38

Take a look at education positions in local authorities. There's a variety of different roles, usually with a good flexible working policy, too.

Ontobetterthings · 14/01/2025 19:36

Analyst here. No work out of hours. I'd have a look at Analyst jobs on LinkedIn. I have loads of teacher friends who earn far less than me and suffer a lot with stress. Unless you want to do teaching I would not recommend. My teacher friends said if they worked out all the hours they work in a week they are on less than minimum wage. They work evenings and weekends prepping and marking work.