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Fed up of people talking about my brothers relationship

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Zallous · 14/01/2025 17:30

My brother is 26 and recently got engaged. He lives in Australia, I live in the village we grew up in. I own a small Cafe so I interact with locals all the time.
He got engaged before New Year and every single day since I’ve had people asking about it.
My parents who also work for in the community posted about it on Facebook, they each have hundreds of friends and my mum posted about 20 pictures of them and a video
of the proposal (the couple haven’t even shared this online and my brother said it’s a bit weird she shared it but whatever).
This post adds fuel to it as the conversation can often go “Ohhh I hear little xxxx is engaged, fab news” “oh yeah it’s lovely very happy for him what can I get you” “10 minute rant where they describe how beautiful the proposal was and how she is a truly stunning girl etc etc”
It’s the same in my family, my mum has spoken about nothing since. I’m so fed up of it, like very good he’s engaged and I’m very happy for him but ffs it’s not exactly hard work to buy a ring and get on one knee, we are acting like he carried her up Everest!
It has got to the point where my mum is talking more about the engagement than her own grandchildren.

AIBU to be fed up and pissed off?

OP posts:
Catza · 14/01/2025 17:42

You have a cafe, which is a social enterprise. People like to be sociable. If you can't handle that, then you are in the wrong trade. Local people clearly think you are part of the community and take interest in your life which involves chatting about your family. Maybe a desk job in the nearest large city will be more up your alley.

Fetburzswefg · 14/01/2025 17:37

Aww, this is just what small towns are like, isn’t it! Whenever I visit my parents in their village people stop me to chat about what my siblings etc are up to.

It will pass! Then reignite when the actual wedding happens, then pass again, then flare up if there is a baby. People are excited but they’ll move on to the next thing soon enough.

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 14/01/2025 17:37

Fuck me, there's been some mean spirited posts on MN but this one's firmly in the top 10 😳

Not sure why it's eating you OP, but whatever the reason I hope you make peace with it soon.

UndermyShoeJoe · 14/01/2025 17:37

People like to talk about happy events especially in a small village type situation.

No need to piss on their chips.

One day it might be someone about you they are all brimming ear to ear about with happy cheer. Let them have this time. Not like you can stop it anyway without looking batshit.

PigInAHouse · 14/01/2025 17:35

People are just being kind.

TankFlyBossWalkJamNittyGrittyIAmFromAMidSizeCity · 14/01/2025 17:35

You sound very resentful.

They got engaged a couple of weeks back, people will be excited and talk about it a lot in the short term.

If you want to get really angry just wait until they are planning the wedding, people will be even more happy for them then.

Agix · 14/01/2025 17:33

YABU. It's exciting news. People will be over it soon.

Are you jealous at all? I know that's a cliche question but it's a bit weird to be this bother about the chatter... Even hearing it every day, should be water off a ducks back really. Surely? People are just making conversation mostly, chatter isn't hurting anyone

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