Fed up of people talking about my brothers relationship

Show us the video!

You don't sound at all happy for them to be honest.

But he had the proposal filmed and then sent it to his mother so he obviously wasn't all that fussed about a special private moment being just between the two of them, was he? I agree it's a bit cringey her re-posting it, who sends that stuff to their mother in the first place? Why does everything have to be such a performance for attention these days?

When i read the title of this thread, i thought you were going to be Prince William....but clearly not.

Its small town life, he's today's news. In a few weeks time, everyone will be over it and will be back to exclaiming over your sandwich of the week and latte specials. You won't be out of the limelight forever, princess.

You sound jealous. She's not going to be cooing over this forever, her attention will no doubt be squarely back on your children (where you clearly think it belongs) soon enough. Let your brother have his moment. He's in Australia so him, his fiance and any future children are really not that much of a threat to you and your children, are they?

I can see that it might get a bit boring hearing and saying the same things on repeat, but people are just being kind and excited. They probably assume that you're excited too and want to talk about it!

You might want to think about why this subject is provoking such a strong response from you. Working in a cafe, you must hear all kinds of mundane conversation on repeat - does talking about the weather twenty times a day also evoke the same level of feeling? Of not, why not?

YANBU, but your DM definitely is. What the hell is wrong with her? You don't put someone else's marriage proposal on your bloody FB! That's a massive invasion of your DB and his DF's privacy. She should take it down.

I think you should consider a different career where you don't have to talk to local people

Unless there is some huge back story you sound jealous.

Christ how bloody awful do you sound ?

Naaa I get it

I was ill one Christmas my sister helped 15 other people (family) watch MY child at an event (I couldn't attend because I was puking) after the first eight or nine people stopped me and messaged me about how GOOD she was with DD what a fantastic stand in she made for me how FANTASTIC she was for doing that for me and how well behaved my dd was for her....I got a bit waspish and asked just when was dd ever a handful? (She was actually well behaved at three) honestly they acted like she was the second coming like there was nothing else happening 😂 I can laugh now but at the time I was very much like you she didn't do anything fucking special (and it's the way they told me again and again the same thing too)

They will get over it....eventually

Are you married/engaged OP?

guessing the now neglected Grandchildren are your DCs? missing the limelight, OP?
It will blow over. In the meantime try not to be a grouchy killjoy

Surely most people are talking to you about it because it’s a way to connect with you? If you own a business in the village that lots of people use, they’re probably a lot keener on you than they are on your brother who buggered off to Australia. They’re just using his “news” to give them something to talk to you about because it’s not very British to keep coming in and telling you you’re the foundation the village is built on. If they actually thought he was the best thing ever, they’d be asking for his contact details and trying to build up a relationship with him.

It sounds like a combination of village life and people just making conversation.

Your mum is just happy for her son. I’d find it boring, like any topic, after a while, but just let it go.

It has got to the point where my mum is talking more about the engagement than her own grandchildren

Your children? If so, you do sound a bit jealous. Your mum is allowed to be excited and talk about other things.

I would have thought you'd be used to making repetitive small talk... But getting engaged is actually a big deal-much more than knowing how to buy a ring and say a proposal. It's the fact that 2 people have decided to commit for ever. When you try and reduce it to a mere "anyone can buy a ring" kind of thing, it suggests you're somehow hostile to your brother and his gf/ fiancée ??
People are just trying to connect with you and they chat about it because they assume (wrongly, it would appear) it is important to you.

In the words of Frozen

let it go, let it gooooo

How jealous can you be? Not a nice way
to live.

You sound very jealous and resentful. What’s really the issue? People like good news.

What’s the backstory that has led to you being so resentful of your brother?

Sounds like you are jealous that the conversation isn't about your children. Other things exist in the world, it's not all about your kids.

No different to every customer talking about the weather 🤷‍♂️

Except I expect the OP isn't jealous of the weather.

I expect when she found out she was going to have grandchildren, she was equally as excited. And tbh, hearing about a lovely proposal is way more interesting than hearing about grandchildren.

Carried her up Everest 😄 That's funny. Very weird that your Mum shared it. It's sweet that everyone is happy for them, but yes I can imagine it's a conversation that gets old fast when you hear it from every customer.

You are jealous.

What a misery guts you are! Even describing people talking positively as ranting. I’ll assume that as you all live in the same village, your parents have big part in your children’s lives? I’d say that’s a lot more energy and commitment than excitement about something thousands of miles away. He’s grown up but he’s still their child and they obviously love him very much. Get a grip, you sound like a 7 year old.