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To not understand why this happened with my ex

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Liveforhappiness · 14/01/2025 13:27

So 6 months ago my ex and I split (my decision) the relationship was going nowhere and I wasn’t physically attracted to him anymore. He told me at the time that he liked this woman from work and I ended up begging for him back!!!! Obviously the relationship didn’t work again and now he is saying he likes her and taking the kids out with her? What the hell is going on here?

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Liveforhappiness · 14/01/2025 13:51

Mooselooseinmyhoose · 14/01/2025 13:42

The question you need to ask yourself is why you begged back a man you broke up with as you weren't attracted to just because he showed interest in someone else.

Maybe he did like her but wanted to give things one last try with you. Maybe he made it up to make you jealous. But if so it worked.

That's the only thing you need to turn your mind to. Why did you beg him back once he'd gone. Not why is he with her that's irrelevant to you!

I don’t know. Why couldn’t I bare the thought of him being with somebody else but I didn’t want to be with him?

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Mooselooseinmyhoose · 14/01/2025 13:42

The question you need to ask yourself is why you begged back a man you broke up with as you weren't attracted to just because he showed interest in someone else.

Maybe he did like her but wanted to give things one last try with you. Maybe he made it up to make you jealous. But if so it worked.

That's the only thing you need to turn your mind to. Why did you beg him back once he'd gone. Not why is he with her that's irrelevant to you!

PeppyGreenFinch · 14/01/2025 13:35

You wanted him again when you thought he wanted someone else.

When you got him back you realised why you dumped him, so you dumped him again.

He got with her because a bird in the hand is worth more than two in the bush.

Meadowfinch · 14/01/2025 13:34

You didn't want him any more so he's moved on. That's a good thing. I can't see your issue.

IamnotSethRogan · 14/01/2025 13:32

Well maybe he did like her, but liked you/family life more?

I just wouldn't worry about it, you don't want to be with him anyway

ToKittyornottoKitty · 14/01/2025 13:32

Liveforhappiness · 14/01/2025 13:31

He says think like she is prettier than me and the sex is great 🙄

Good for him, you didn’t want him anyway. What is your point?

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Liveforhappiness · 14/01/2025 13:31

He says think like she is prettier than me and the sex is great 🙄

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 14/01/2025 13:31

So you split up with him and now he’s moved on… that’s what’s happening here. HTH

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Liveforhappiness · 14/01/2025 13:30

MoonWoman69 · 14/01/2025 13:29

Because you didn't want him, but didn't want anyone else to have him either? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yes but how could he tell me that he liked her just so I he could get me back and now it seems they are together?

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MoonWoman69 · 14/01/2025 13:29

Because you didn't want him, but didn't want anyone else to have him either? 🤷🏼‍♀️

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