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To be nervous about travelling on public transport?

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Literallynoonecares · 14/01/2025 09:01

I live in a semi rural area where I drive everywhere and have not had to use trains and public transport for many many years. However I have a trip today and for medical reasons I cannot drive so I am having to use trains. I am travelling alone.

The trip involves 2 train changes at large train stations and I have woken up this morning as nervous as hell. I think its a combination of travelling on stuffy trains, lots of people around and the general hustle and bustle of the whole thing. Plus feeling nervous of not making my onward connections. I am just not used to train travel anymore and am also used to a much quieter way of life and would normally avoid these kind of situations
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Its a trip I have to do as its going to see my daughter at Uni in a major City and I want to go and am excited to see her, but wow, I can't believe how nervous and overwhelmed I feel about it this morning.

I leave in 30 minutes and my stomach is churning.

Please tell me I am being ridiculous and that I am a grown woman and can do this!!

OP posts:
TetHouse · 14/01/2025 09:11

B0xes · 14/01/2025 09:08

Ridiculous, 'the world' is not a busy train station. What's the problem with not being enthusiastic about being in large crowds? We haven't evolved for that.

What do you imagine we ‘evolved for’?

LittleRedRidingHoody · 14/01/2025 09:11

You've got this! If in doubt, ask for help/directions :) Highly recommend treating yourself to an overpriced coffee or hot chocolate in a nice coffee shop en route if funds allow, that always gives me 'main character' kind of energy when I'm travelling 😂

WhisperingTree · 14/01/2025 09:10

I voted YABAU simply because I think you know you are. You are a grown woman and you have done this before. You know you can do it. It's scary because it's something you haven't done for a long time. It's going to be busy and it's not going to be pleasant. But you can do it.

Eyesopenwideawake · 14/01/2025 09:10

Absolutely normal to be nervous/anxious - your mind is on high alert to make sure you pay attention, because if you don't you'll end up somewhere other than your preferred destination! Don't be afraid of feeling emotions, they are there for a purpose.

Have a lovely day!

B0xes · 14/01/2025 09:08

TetHouse · 14/01/2025 09:05

I’d see it as a wake up call I was becoming too withdrawn from the world, and embrace the chance to push beyond my comfort zone today. Enjoy it, have a coffee, look out the window, see the kinds of things you can’t see when you’re concentrating on the road.

Ridiculous, 'the world' is not a busy train station. What's the problem with not being enthusiastic about being in large crowds? We haven't evolved for that.

Oldermum84 · 14/01/2025 09:08

You will be absolutely fine. I bet afterwards you'll wonder what you were worried about. You may even enjoy it!!

MereDintofPandiculation · 14/01/2025 09:07

Shoxfordian · 14/01/2025 09:03

You'll be fine, take your time and look for your train. There'll be staff who you can ask for help as well. Get a coffee, buy a newspaper. Don't worry

And you can ask other passengers. People are very kind

TetHouse · 14/01/2025 09:05

I’d see it as a wake up call I was becoming too withdrawn from the world, and embrace the chance to push beyond my comfort zone today. Enjoy it, have a coffee, look out the window, see the kinds of things you can’t see when you’re concentrating on the road.

biscuitsandbooks · 14/01/2025 09:05

What is it that's making you nervous?

I hate train travel as it's noisy and never runs to plan but there's honestly nothing to worry about.

Shoxfordian · 14/01/2025 09:03

You'll be fine, take your time and look for your train. There'll be staff who you can ask for help as well. Get a coffee, buy a newspaper. Don't worry

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