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Would you take the flat?

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Ally999 · 14/01/2025 04:28

Current situation is that I live with my mum & 4yr old child in a flat that has a lot of disrepair issues (leaks & mould). The flat is on an estate with lots of other flats , and we experience a lot of Asb (people who don’t live here loitering on the stairs smoking / drinking , playing music loudly on their phones, urinating on the communal stairs etc). Often, me and my son have to walk past them to get to our flat which isn’t very nice.

I am on my councils housing register & I bid weekly but I’m virtually of no priority as I’m not homeless or overcrowded. I work but would not be able to afford private rent in my area (2 bed is around £1500 & upwards). As much as I’m grateful for the support my mum provides, I hate living here, and we bump heads a lot.

I have been applying directly for a few housing associations properties, and surprisingly I was shortlisted as number 1 for a 2 bed flat an hour away from where I currently live. I viewed it a few days ago, it needs a lot of work doing and there’s no flooring (which I knew) but it is nice & on a quiet road. The rent is a dream, & The block itself only has 12 flats. I have no issues with the flat itself, and I was essentially told at the viewing that it’s mine if I want it. My main concern is moving just over an hours drive away from my mum & friends who help me with childcare. I’m worried about struggling with work as well.

I would like to know wwyd if you were in my situation? Would you take the flat?
thanks for reading.

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Ponderingwindow · 14/01/2025 04:54

Unless you have a job that is unique and you would not possibly want to give it up, take the flat. You won’t want to commute that far indefinitely while balancing caring for a child if you have other options, so long-term, look for closer employment.

reichs79 · 14/01/2025 04:54

If I was you, I would move. Being on a nicer estate will make a massive difference to you and your son. If you are butting heads with your mum it's not going to get any better, and you will regret not moving.

thehouseplantkiller · 14/01/2025 04:53

Yes, take it as you are unlikely to get another offer anytime soon. After a year you can look to swap with another social housing tenant in another area if you want to move again.

HomeTheatreSystem · 14/01/2025 04:48

Yes, because the environment you're in both inside and out doesn't sound great for bringing up a child in and you cannot stay with your mum forever. Would you be able to find work in the new place easily enough? Your child will be at school soon so I'd try and make it work.

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