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To think it’s very bleak to be saving this and getting absolutely nowhere? What’s the point?

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Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:17

I don’t know if I’m being overly sensitive as I am a single parent (with maintenance as people seem to ask that on here!). But I can’t ever seem to get ahead financially. I have been fortunate to save 1,500 a month for the last year or so. I thought this was going to be great as it would get a good savings buffer going and me and dd could even go abroad perhaps and I could start to add to her savings too. I was looking forward to having 10k in the bank as a safety net and then a little extra to save elsewhere.

But no… what’s actually happened is 3k on a boiler… I know that’s more like a one off cost but it doesn’t stop there. I needed two trees removed which cost 1k, I had a huge energy bill from December which has wiped out 400 of this months savings already. I had to pay for extensive dental treatment with a root canal as I couldn’t get it on the nhs. Then finally I had to pay over 90 more for car insurance (no explanation as to why and despite calling round many many many places to get it cheaper).

The reality is that I am getting nowhere with savings. It will take me forever to save won’t it? What’s actually the point? I will never be able to save more than 1,500 which to be honest I thought was a huge amount! But perhaps I am very wrong about this. How do people get financially secure? I’m nearly 40 now and can’t actually believe I have this much money to set aside and it’s going nowhere. I just want to give up and the future feels so uncertain.

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Notsuchafattynow · 13/01/2025 22:48

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 13/01/2025 22:45

The op won't be paying tax on interest earned, so she should only go for an ISA if the interest rate is better and she still has easy access to the money.

A higher rate allowance is only £500 now, basic taxpayer is £1000 so depending on that and or the high street % rate, it is possible.

EveryDayisFriday · 13/01/2025 22:47

Well done for being able to save it up. I know it feels fruitless when it's had to out too but honestly it's not. You've had the money to be able to pay for the emergencies, more unfortunate people would have had no choice but to put it on credit and be paying an extra 29% interest for the privilege. Not having to pay that interest is what you have saved, in effect.

Youcantwinthemall · 13/01/2025 22:46

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:32

I feel like most people ARE financially secure though? And now I’m trying to save 1,500 a month (which is unlikely to ever increase from this) it feels like the end of the road, where do I go from here if I can’t get secure with that?!

I’m a single mum. I save £30 a month. £10 in my savings and £10 in each of my kid’s savings. Who are ‘most people’? I suspect you mean most people you know. If my boiler broke, I’d have to stick it on a credit card. To me, you have a lot of money and are financially doing very well.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 13/01/2025 22:45

Notsuchafattynow · 13/01/2025 22:40

Are you saving into an isa rather than a high street savings account?

Isa's are tax free, so don't let the taxman take a cut of that 1.5 a month!

There are different types so take a look. I found this website very helpful.

https://www.boringmoney.co.uk/home/

The op won't be paying tax on interest earned, so she should only go for an ISA if the interest rate is better and she still has easy access to the money.

SideEyeSally · 13/01/2025 22:44

I think you're being a bit pessimistic. 1.5k per month is loads and as previous posters have said part of financial security is dealing with problems as they arise without it tipping you into a crisis. However it is frustrating that unexpected expenses can throw you off your planned goal and I know you're disappointed about the holiday so I say give your head a wobble but only a wee gentle one and look forward to a holiday next year!

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:44

I’m not actually saving it though. That’s the point. I still don’t have a substantial buffer and it feels like I certainly won’t now

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nationalsausagefund · 13/01/2025 22:44

gavinandstaceychristmasspecial · 13/01/2025 22:20

The other way of looking at it is you did have that emergency money to protect yourself from debt, or not being able to do the dental work, or similar adverse consequences.

Yes! Imagine either not being able to get the work done, or not having any choice but to get it done and go into debt for it. You’re winning, really.

Viviennemary · 13/01/2025 22:43

Not many folk can save !500k a month. I truly don't t understand why you are dissatisfied. Some folk don't even earn 1500k a month

Notsuchafattynow · 13/01/2025 22:43

Also, have you worked out if it's better to save or overpay your mortgage instead. Or 50/50.

Do the maths, as getting that 60k buffer may come a bit from saving and a bit from overpaying.

Most people do not realise how much interest they pay by keeping a mortgage full term. It's outrageous when you work it out.

iamnotalemon · 13/01/2025 22:43

I'd say you are ahead financially compared to a lot of people - stop comparing yourself to people and be grateful for what you do have.

I don't mean that in a snarky way, but you're doing so well to save that each month.

JaceLancs · 13/01/2025 22:40

I cannot imagine the luxury of saving that much each month
I am 60 and try and save £450, but frequently have to dip back into it for unexpected items - this month it was a car issue which was £800 just after Xmas

Notsuchafattynow · 13/01/2025 22:40

Are you saving into an isa rather than a high street savings account?

Isa's are tax free, so don't let the taxman take a cut of that 1.5 a month!

There are different types so take a look. I found this website very helpful.

https://www.boringmoney.co.uk/home/

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/01/2025 22:39

That’s a big list of expensive things you’ve been fortunate to be able to pay for and you know you’re able to save more. Could be much much worse.

And no, most people aren’t in a better position than you are.

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:39

Jellycatspyjamas · 13/01/2025 22:36

But part of financial security is being able to pay for the unexpected, which you’ve been able to do. It may be worth thinking about what financial security means for you, be specific about what you want your money to do for you - not worry about bills, have a buffer of x months salary, afford a holiday etc etc. You’ll then have an idea of what to do with your savings.

You're doing really well, don’t let tales of million pound pension pits on here make you think otherwise.

@Jellycatspyjamas i think I just wanted enough to pay my mortgage for a few years without working, so I wanted 60k in the bank ideally. I just cannot ever foresee that happening now. When I realised I had got to the point of saving 1,500 I really thought t this was achievable and I could relax but I can’t. I’m never going to have that sort of savings. I won’t ever earn more so this is as good as it will get and it feels stressful and demoralising.

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Basketballhoop · 13/01/2025 22:39

Welcome to life. Congratulations on being able to save that much each month. It means you can have your boiler replaced, without running into debt. You can have tree down, without debt etc. That is what savings are really for.
You should still have enough for a holiday. You are succeeding and doing well.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/01/2025 22:39

It won't be like that every year though, it takes time to accumulate.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 13/01/2025 22:38

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:32

I feel like most people ARE financially secure though? And now I’m trying to save 1,500 a month (which is unlikely to ever increase from this) it feels like the end of the road, where do I go from here if I can’t get secure with that?!

My take home pay is £1650. We mostly live on that (we get DLA for DS). Fortunate to have no rent/mortgage so I consider myself lucky. If I had a spare £1500 a month I'd be overjoyed. And yes, one off costs happen, we needed a new boiler and then a new roof and that's largely wiped out our savings with little opportunity to build them back up.

Nannyfannybanny · 13/01/2025 22:37

"most people" I know, even the ones with well paid full time jobs,no kids, live on credit, credit cards and have no savings. We're pensioners,there's a very small buffer when things go wrong. Thank god my DH can turn his hand to most things.. Martin Lewis recommended folk have a buffer of 3 months salary.

YearningForAWinteryWinter · 13/01/2025 22:37

What do you mean it's got you nowhere? I think you're being overly pessimistic.
If it helps, why not consider £500 a month into a home maintenance/unexpected cost fund and £1000 into pure savings.

Honestly, you're doing fine. Your savings will be up to £10k soon.

Comff · 13/01/2025 22:36

As the other have said, you were able to sort your boiler, pay your energy bill, get the trees sorted as well as your teeth. Insurance hike is a ballache but what can you do.

This. To put it in perspective if you didn’t have those savings (and those who don’t), you would be fucked. You’re being incredibly pessimistic and negative.

Give yourself time to feel a bit miffed and then shake it off.

Jellycatspyjamas · 13/01/2025 22:36

But part of financial security is being able to pay for the unexpected, which you’ve been able to do. It may be worth thinking about what financial security means for you, be specific about what you want your money to do for you - not worry about bills, have a buffer of x months salary, afford a holiday etc etc. You’ll then have an idea of what to do with your savings.

You're doing really well, don’t let tales of million pound pension pits on here make you think otherwise.

pompey38 · 13/01/2025 22:34

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:17

I don’t know if I’m being overly sensitive as I am a single parent (with maintenance as people seem to ask that on here!). But I can’t ever seem to get ahead financially. I have been fortunate to save 1,500 a month for the last year or so. I thought this was going to be great as it would get a good savings buffer going and me and dd could even go abroad perhaps and I could start to add to her savings too. I was looking forward to having 10k in the bank as a safety net and then a little extra to save elsewhere.

But no… what’s actually happened is 3k on a boiler… I know that’s more like a one off cost but it doesn’t stop there. I needed two trees removed which cost 1k, I had a huge energy bill from December which has wiped out 400 of this months savings already. I had to pay for extensive dental treatment with a root canal as I couldn’t get it on the nhs. Then finally I had to pay over 90 more for car insurance (no explanation as to why and despite calling round many many many places to get it cheaper).

The reality is that I am getting nowhere with savings. It will take me forever to save won’t it? What’s actually the point? I will never be able to save more than 1,500 which to be honest I thought was a huge amount! But perhaps I am very wrong about this. How do people get financially secure? I’m nearly 40 now and can’t actually believe I have this much money to set aside and it’s going nowhere. I just want to give up and the future feels so uncertain.

The point is that if you wouldn’t have it you’ll be in a lot of trouble now or debt, the glass is half full

Wehah · 13/01/2025 22:33

@YearningForAWinteryWinter this is best case scenario for me though. It’s not going to get better than 1,500 a month and it’s got me nowhere. We won’t be going on holiday for example. Feels utterly pointless

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BIossomtoes · 13/01/2025 22:33

You’re saving £1500 a month which is more than some people have to live on. You’re doing OK.

YearningForAWinteryWinter · 13/01/2025 22:32

I'm sorry but that's what life is like. People have these expenses all the time. Appliances break down, plumbing issues, home maintenance. These are some of the reasons for saving money.
It seems like you'll have money for pleasure too.

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