DH ignoring me when I speak

Impossible to comment without knowing how often this happens. I’m the wife in my relationship and I cannot do two things at once — if I’m messaging a friend and conversing back and forth I can’t also verbally converse with someone in front of me. I don’t register it. I would then feel the need to stop what I’m in the middle of doing to answer my DH who has decided to strike up a chat with me. It’s not from any cruel place necessarily?

I wouldn't talk to DH if he's texting - he genuinely can't concentrate on texting and have a conversation with me at the same time! If you want to speak to him about something important, pick a time when you can chat without interruption - over dinner etc.

How often does he do this?

If it’s every once in a while, that’s one thing but if it’s daily then it’s an issue.

I can become utterly absorbed by a book or something and not register what someone is saying to me, but it only happens once in a while so it’s not a big deal for DH and others.

But I know if I did it a lot it would be an issue.

I’m kind of split on this, on one hand ignoring each other is rude, on the other hand everyone should be able to be engrossed in something, however banal or unimportant, without another person demanding that their priority at the time should come first and the other should immediately stop what they’re doing.
i guess it depends on how often it happens and whether they respect your right to not be interrupted when you’re ‘busy’.
i agree with the person who said that life should be easy, but that also means being able to be lost in our own heads at time

Swift volley to the balls.

He will soon listen.

Rude twat.

(This is tongue in cheek before anyone dives on and tells me I'm advocating violence)

That said, he genuinely doesn't hear me and is unaware of me even being in the room, definitely not ignoring me! Not making excuses for your partner OP but something to consider

My DH does this, he really doesn't hear me when he's focused on his phone. I looked it up, it's called hyper focusing. When you're concentrating on something and somehow block everything out around you. Can be an ADHD trait but DH reckons a lot of men do it. I could dance naked round the room, bring an elephant in and he wouldn't be aware of it. It's not something he seems to be able to help doing so I've just adapted to it.

He sounds like an utter pig.

Christ I couldn't live like that, waiting your turn to speak to your partner infantalises you.
I would actually leave someone who treated me like that.
Life at home should be easy, companionable, comfortable, your 'docking station', not like being dealt with by a strict headteacher when you've done something wrong.

I have to say his name, wait for him then say what I want.

Or make a point "this needs your attention are you listening?"

In a neutral tone, not having a go, just setting an expectation that I'd like to have a conversation then allow him time to finish what he's doing.

If he is already busy texting someone and you just start speaking to him I’m not surprised. Maybe just wait until he is done?

Perhaps try talking to him when you can see he's not doing something else? Or does he often ignore you when you try to speak to him?

I don't know many men that can do two things at the same time so texting and listening is way too large a request for you to make to be honest