To not let my 12 year old have Snapchat?

No. My dd isn't allowed it despite ' all friends on it ' and ' I'm not a baby'
No they are not. And no

School helpfully sent out a letter warning parents / carers to avoid snao chat, insta etc. So used that too.

Now, one dc has never used sm as believes its going to be their greatest asset one day.
One dd os now very glad I said no, and interestingly says would never allow her kids if she has any to have phones. Hahaha

No phones upstairs, restricted access using custudio, no secret passwords, f2f friends, no you tube free access.

@TaffetaRustle Snapchat is perfect for bad stuff like sexting and bullying because the messages disappear after a few seconds. It also tells the sender if your screenshot their message so the only way to save messages is something like using a second device and you have to be quick because the messages disappear after a set amount of time.
If you monitor your child’s phone usage then Snapchat will give them total privacy because you won’t know what they send or receive. I’d imagine schools and the police end up with lots of allegations about what is/isn’t said on Snapchat and with no proof, it’s hard to know what really happened.

My 12 year old and 14 yr old are not allowed Snapchat or Insta.

This times a million

I mean of all the social media I can’t think of a worse one for potentially bullying than snap chat

Me too!

eldest is 12 - I’m holding firm so far
we’ve had lots of chats about why. I’ve been very clear and firm from the get go about it; I know she doesn’t agree with me but she isn’t arguing with me too much thankfully: her little sister will be a different story so I’m bracing myself!

I have three DDs, 12, 14 and 16. None of them have Snapchat. There's no need. Be strong. Your DD's friends will message her in other ways, she won't miss out. Your kids know what they want, but you, as the adult, know what they need (or don't need!) xx

The whole idea is that messages are only visible for a very short time and then disappear. If you are sending nice polite messages then you don’t need this feature. It’s an ideal breeding ground for bullying and unkindness.

The ‘short life’ of the messages also gives children a false sense of security and there have been issues with people sending messages that they think will vanish, but that are then screen-shotted and shared. Particularly an issue with indecent images being encouraged / shared.

YANBU. I hate that app it's the worst one, it's too dangerous and damaging for teens to be on.

And it is one ceop have always been particularly concerned about and would flag it up regularly. Again I doubt that has changed.

Because it was originally created for sexting because the messages disappear very quickly. In reality what happened in schools was that teens then took maybe more risks than they would otherwise with what they sent picturewise thinking it would disappear, but in reality one of their mates would stand ready with their phone to take a photo of the pic and circulate it. This was in the early days of Snapchat but I doubt it has improved. The risks are greater for bullying and inappropriate images etc when people don't think there will be a consequence as the evidence will disappear. The police can recover anything sent but its better not to.have your yp in that position in the first place. My teen isn't allowed it.

Also on Smart Free Phone Childhood ( check out their instagram) there is an excellent response by a parent to a child why they are not allowed Snapchat.

DD is 14 and we don't allow Snapchat. Apparently I am the worst mother in the world. But... we've had no issues with online bullying yet. She does use Tick Tock and Instagram but only to watch videos. She watches too many videos and spends too long on her phone but Snapchat is a red line for me.

YANBU - it’s a dangerous, toxic app that does little except cause trouble with teens.

I work in education. This is known for being the most dangerous social media app for children.

Mine know they will not be getting this app.

You need to be very firm on this.

Perhaps share your child the news today regarding poor Semina Halliwell. She was targeted by her abuser initially via Snapchat.

Yanbu

I hope you succeed. My one is 11, allowed only roblox and certain youtube videos through my account, always in the living room. No devices in bedrooms

Can anyone say why please.
My dd wants it

Yanbu

I told mine I don't parent by committee so didn't care what other parents did. This wasn't related to SM but everything.

Of course she's not the only one who doesn't have it. That line has been trotted out by every teen since time began.

Stand your ground. I have an 17 DD and 20DS and they are grateful I stopped / protected them.

Do not let them. Keep them away as long as possible. Even if you are the bad guy

I'm hoping to get my kids to 16 without any social media..